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AIBU.. To ask how much your wedding cost?

266 replies

LouBlue1507 · 21/02/2017 21:15

From what I've read, the average cost of a wedding is now £20,000-30,000! This can't be true surely? 😫

How much did your wedding cost? Any tips?

Thanks!

OP posts:
SpiritedLondon · 21/02/2017 23:00

A really great website to check out is called Off beat bride which features quirky and unusual weddings...some of them very thrifty. I'm afraid lots of weddings I've been to have been lovely but very standard. ( formulaic??? Spelling?). You pretty much know what you're going to get within certain parameters. I loved some of the " pot luck" weddings in the US where guests each brings a dish for example. Have a look OP you might get some good ideas.

SanityAssassin · 21/02/2017 23:00

Forgot rings but my rings cost massively more than my wedding. But I get to keep them :) A wedding is just a happy memory.

cathf · 21/02/2017 23:04

Whatever the paperwork costs + dress from EBay.
Just parents present as witnesses, then back home to prep lunch for next day (we were married on Christmas Eve)

JohnLapsleyParlabane · 21/02/2017 23:08

16k 5 years ago. 170 guests for ceremony, drinks/canapés and evening meal/dance.

thisusernameisnotavailable · 21/02/2017 23:09

£2000 17 years ago. My dress was half that, hired 4 suits and I made the wedding cake and did a buffet. Reception was at our home.

ttcnovice · 21/02/2017 23:09

About £18k last September (not including the honeymoon that we still haven't been on - bloody Zika Angry). 80 guests for the daytime, with an extra 40 for the evening reception.

skerrywind · 21/02/2017 23:11

In fact I will be getting married soon- will cost £125. Already have a ring, there will be no celebration afterwards.

sanityisamyth · 21/02/2017 23:14

Wedding was £13,000 10 years ago.

Divorce has just cost me £20,000.

moreslackthanslick · 21/02/2017 23:15

Gorgeous picture Jennifer

Forgot to say my first wedding in 2002 cost around £300. Meh glad it didn't cost anymore than that but I will say I enjoyed the day.

moreslackthanslick · 21/02/2017 23:17

And as a massive x post with sanity the divorce cost me £33k that time.

Swore I was never doing it again but met someone wonderful (with now non almost non existant savings

TheOriginalChatelaine · 21/02/2017 23:32

Interesting thread. Wedding inflation has been with us for some time. I got married in 1983. A good salary at that time was £11k. Our wedding reception was £1800 champagne etc and sit down meal
My Berkatex dress £80 and a three tier rich fruit cake was €75.I don't remember the costs of the cars and bridesmaids dressers 2 children but you get my point. A traditional white wedding with bell ringers for around £2500. Today some of the costs seem out of proportion and the expectations seemingly ever increasing. I did my own hair and make up for example, a friend is a beautician and she has clients come for a make up rehearsal. Their choice of course but I think it sad. If you are getting married op I wish you every happiness. Be confident in your choices and do it your way.

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AndNoneForGretchenWieners · 21/02/2017 23:36

£500 including wedding dress, disco, catering and car. Didn't have a photographer, and my wedding cake was a gift from my colleagues. Parents paid for honeymoon in Amsterdam. This was in 2001.

Heathen4Hire · 21/02/2017 23:54

I bought my wedding cake at M&S, and the toppers etc from a cake shop in Bromley...my mil put it all together.

A mate in the catering trade had some leftover champagne from a job, and gave it to us for free.

Decorations: eBay!

No photographer. Instead people sent in their best pictures to us and we put them in a nice "memories" box.

LoupGarou · 21/02/2017 23:54

Around 30 K excluding rings, flowers, dress and honeymoon. We had a cathedral wedding in the country we were living in at the time, the cathedral was the one I went to every week and the bishop who married us is a good friend of mine. We paid for it out of savings, except my dress and all of the flowers which my ex DP paid for as a presents for me.

Its an awful amount for one day, I wanted to elope but it was important to DH to have a big white wedding and seeing how much he enjoyed it made it worth it Smile

sonyaya · 21/02/2017 23:59

chateleine

Why is people going for a make up trial "sad"?

NoBiggie · 22/02/2017 00:01

It cost around £60,000. It was a big wedding but not super super extravagant although some things were very high end.

MidnightAura · 22/02/2017 00:01

We got married last year, small wedding at a gorgeous venue. Everything excluding the honeymoon cost between £6 to 7K. It felt a lot but it was worth it.

NoBiggie · 22/02/2017 00:01

Including honeymoon it was £70k

HelgaHufflepuff76 · 22/02/2017 00:03

£500 including "honeymoon"

Quimby · 22/02/2017 00:05

Around 25k excluding rings and honeymoon

Quimby · 22/02/2017 00:06

Oh and excluding my wife's dress

AnnaleeP · 22/02/2017 00:18

7k excluding honeymoon as we couldn't be bothered to pay for one and I'd just started a new job and didn't want to take the p*ss.

80 day guests, we went to the register office the day before with family so only paid £40 for that and my old friend did a beautiful humanist ceremony for us on the day as a present. We booked out a posh restaurant for the wedding breakfast (this was most of the cost, food is important to us and they did us a great deal as we eat there regularly), my outfit total was £300, venue £1500 - it was winter so that probably helped, a mate made the cake, another friend did flowers, another mate did a few photos. About another 50 people in the evening, DJ, and cheap and cheerful buffet. No wedding cars, we just did taxis and went home after the do instead of a hotel.

You just need to decide what you can compromise on and our answer was 'most of it!'

SinisterBumFacedCat · 22/02/2017 00:27

I still can't get over the Baileys fountain Grin

PinkCrystal · 22/02/2017 00:31

About £1200. Rented dresses, church wedding followed by low key meal of about 30 people. Didn't want more than that it was lovely.

honeyroar · 22/02/2017 05:11

About £5k ten years ago. Only had 25 at the ceremony and sit down meal, then another 120 at the evening do with huge buffet. Had everything that was important to us. Bought a horse with what we could have spent on the daytime reception, he's still with us, and was much better value for money!