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AIBU.. To ask how much your wedding cost?

266 replies

LouBlue1507 · 21/02/2017 21:15

From what I've read, the average cost of a wedding is now £20,000-30,000! This can't be true surely? 😫

How much did your wedding cost? Any tips?

Thanks!

OP posts:
Tobebythesea · 22/02/2017 22:33

£26k in late Spring last year with 100 guests.

LHReturns · 22/02/2017 22:44

£105,000 last Spring for 70 guests. One evening only in Central London. I'm 40 years old, I work in the events industry, and my DH and I paid for it ourselves. It was my perfect day and night and I wouldn't have changed a thing. I still get shivers when I think about the level of detail that went into the planning and the utter joy I got from entertaining our closest friends and family.

OhTheRoses · 22/02/2017 22:51

Good God LH.

mamaduckbone · 22/02/2017 22:58

About £7k 15 years ago.
Church wedding, smallish reception - 40 people and about £100 in the evening. My dsis did the flowers, a friend took the photos, another friend made my dress, I made shortbread biscuits as favours, a mate of Dh did the disco....I wouldn't change a thing. Of course, this was before the days of Pinterest.

mamaduckbone · 22/02/2017 22:59

100 people not £100 in the evening!

VodkaLimeSoda27 · 23/02/2017 00:27

£14-15k last March. Wedding planned very quickly (4 months!) so probably could have saved more with extra time to plan

90-ish day guests and another 30 in the evening. Drinks reception, 3 bottles of wine per table, 3 course dinner (with 3 choices). Evening mezze buffet and some money behind the bar (but not an open bar as such). Cake was a gift.

Saved money on the photographer (he's a professional but also a friend, so gave us a nice discount) and on the dress, which was from an outlet store and then altered to fit. Shoes from BHS, evening dress for reception from a local dress shop. No cars as the ceremony and reception took place at the same venue, and I got ready there in the morning.

Bridesmaid's dresses bought from non-bridal shop so saved money there too. Another friend is in a professional wedding band, and they were amazing and gave us a discount too. I had originally wanted a DJ but my DH preferred the idea of a band, and he was 100% right on that one.

SinisterBumFacedCat · 23/02/2017 00:53

*Yesterday 10:00 moreslackthanslick

sinisterbumfacedcat

"I still can't get over the Baileys fountain grin"

Our wedding, our money (some gifted off his parents and my dad) people loved it. So no need for sarcasm. It was just there at the evening part of the day. We had a great day and are still very happy.*

Sorry, I didn't mean that to sound sarcastic Confused I have just never heard the words Baileys and Fountain together, I think it sounds Fantastic! Sorry if my comment caused offence, glad you had a great day.

ihatetosay · 23/02/2017 00:58

1.5k all in including dress, bridesmaid dresses, flowers etc etc reception at my dads house spent the money we had saved up on house deposit instead

ihatetosay · 23/02/2017 00:59

105k is madness

Seren85 · 23/02/2017 01:21

I haven't really worked it out but I think around £7k. A bit much for someone who only wanted a wedding and a piss up. We had a church wedding and a reception in the local hall with a sit down buffet for about 90 then another 50 for the evening. Welcome drink and three bottles of wine per table. Cars and cake (present) and photography at mates rates. Rented suits, £800 dress, off the rack BM dresses. It was my perfect idea of what I wanted. Honeymoon was in the UK. Paid for by us and my parents to the tune of £3k.

nursebickypegs · 23/02/2017 01:29

$19. I bought a pair of nikes the day before for more money!

moreslackthanslick · 23/02/2017 08:49

Sorry sinisterbumfacedcat and thank you 😁

Nightandthelight · 23/02/2017 08:56

I believe LH has a stunning engagement ring too :)

Gaaaah · 23/02/2017 09:29

If you've got it, why shouldn't you spend it if you're that way inclined. Wedding costs are relative to the income that you have.

FarAwayHills · 23/02/2017 09:33

About £500 for the actual day itself including dress, suit etc.
Registry office abroad just DH and I and our DC. Best most beautiful and non stressful wedding ever Grin

ShoutOutToMyEx · 23/02/2017 10:06

Ours is going to come in at just under £30k later this year. London venue, 120 guests, and a designer dress are the main things which have pushed the price up!

Whatthefoxgoingon · 23/02/2017 11:06

Several hundred thousand pounds. It was very expensive and we had hundreds of guests. It was a wonderful day and I got final say on everything.

Our parents paid for it all, both sets are wealthy and they went a bit crazy as it we were the first "kids" in both families to get married. I'd love to pay for my children's weddings one day too, if they'll allow me. Smile

user1484394242 · 23/02/2017 11:48

100% agree with Gaaaah.

If you have the money and you want to spend it on your wedding, why not? The more you spend, the more people get paid- photographer, chef & waitresses, drivers, cleaning staff, hotel/hall etc. It's not too much if it's what you want/can afford.

We didn't have a penny and had no family at all so we did the registry office (£66). A friend took us so we didn't even pay transport. It was perfect for us but wouldn't be wht others want.

troodiedoo · 23/02/2017 11:57

5k last November. Church ceremony, 2 bridesmaids with high street dresses, 3 course wedding breakfast with wine 45 people and 20 more in the evening for disco and cheese board buffet.
I would have felt it wasteful to spend any more than that on a party. For me, the ceremony was the important bit.

skerrywind · 23/02/2017 12:49

Marriage means different things to different people.

OH and I will probably marry this year, we will take a few hours off work and go to the local registry office. No guests, no reception, no dress.

We are marrying purely for financial and legal reasons.

Gumbo · 23/02/2017 13:33

Around £250. This included dress, rings, and a night away in a decent hotel.

If I had to do it again I wouldn't change a thing - including having no family there whatsoever - I highly recommend that! Smile

madamginger · 23/02/2017 13:48

10k inc honeymoon 11 years ago.
We had 75 day guests and 120 in the evening and then a 2 week all inclusive honeymoon in the Maldives.
The honeymoon was 4K so 6k on the day itself. I loved my wedding, we had an amazing day!

BeIIatrixLeStrange · 23/02/2017 14:04

wow this thread really goes to show there is no average or typical wedding cost.

Ours cost £2,500

AVY1 · 23/02/2017 14:11

£2800 in 2015. We'd budgeted 2500.

50 day guests with canapés, main and we did drinks and bridal party did a dessert table.

Extra 20 in evening and had a BBQ.

Most expensive cost was £750 for the photographer.

It was perfect for us.

TriJo · 23/02/2017 14:57

About €7000 plus another 5k for the honeymoon. Medium sized Irish wedding (humanist ceremony, 75 guests, DJ but no band).