To think some people just come on here to argue?

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I swear some people just come on here to argue and make other parents feel like utter shit! Almost every post on here someone comes onto and finds a way of giving the OP some abuse.

I thought this site was to help each other and give advice. You know a support network.

I could literally write something like 'saw a cute kitty today' or 'had a banging cuppa' I bet someone would cause an argument! I wish some people would just get a grip! Bet it makes them feel really big hiding behind a keyboard!

I've just remembered how much I loved What Katy Did
I wanted a bell that I could ring when I needed something fetching to my bedside
I seemed to miss the point that that she was bed bound

My favourite is when people get argumentative over points that haven't actually been made. They've 'read between the lines' and come up with a fantasy story or inference of their own design. Thus causing a huge, utterly pointless and tedious debate on the semantics of something that doesn't actually exist.

I have, on a couple of occasions, wanted to type 'Are you on crack?!'

Didn't her or cousin also teach whilst bedbound? I think I did in my fantasy (I used to take a register for the soft toys) . Maybe I should blame that for my ill-considered foray into teaching.

I want to reread them but am scared I will see all their flaws.

Yes sanitys sake - that is so annoying. It's like they have to make up extra stuff to argue with.

reup Little Women is semi-autobiographical too - Louisa May Alcott had a sister called Beth who died at 22 from complications from scarlet fever contracted whilst visiting a poor German family....

Just read your other thread OP

You had some lovely support and reassurance from many MNers
Don't let a couple of judgemental nitpickers grind you down

Now not trying to hijack the thread......but I think Katys cousin was a teacher I think she was called Cousin Mary
Anyhoo she was kind and gentle with a sunny nature and wise twinkling eyes ....... I still would like a bedside bell ...

Remember Cousin Helen lying using her fingers to keep her forehead smooth during attacks of pain, because it's an invalid's duty to look fresh and pretty, not wrinkled and fretful, for her visitors?

And some just come to AIBU expecting everyone to say 'yes you are right hunnn'

Yes moongirl

Not everyone on here is a parent - HTH

Still on AS to see if I can't find something more contentious, DesolateWaist. Maybe you've voiced an opinion on PJs in the supermarket or or public eating.

Nah, it's not arguing. It's called having a differing opinion. MN has been ridiculous for sulking/huffing over them lately.
If you don't want to know if you're BU, then why bloody ask in the first place?!
(Not you, OP, just posters in general.)
If you want advice and support, you get plenty on here. It's very supportive. If you post in AIBU asking if you're U then cry when you're told you are, maybe it's not the place for you. Try Nethuns instead. A lot softer, a lot more heavily moderated, and therefore no really differing opinions what kind of defeats the object of asking in the first place.

I just reread the Katy books! They are still lovely plus I found the last one on kindle, clover, Elsie, Johanna and Dr carr all living together at the end, plus dorrie gets married..
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No, not at all. What are you saying? Fighting?
In the site known as a viper's nest? Dear God. No.

I hear NM can be worse.

It's the net. You don't get support only.
And quite possibly some people you find picking for a fight with you in some matters are incredibly supportive in others.
Humans often are.

If you want support, no questioning and endless "awww hunni" comments, then either steer clear of AIBU or head to Netmums.

There is a lot of support on this website but support isn't always agreeing blindly with the poster and never pointing out alternative paths.

I completely agree, and some posters seem to be on here to be as nasty as possible, it's nearly funny.

It's not about disagreeing, which is fine, it's about insulting and twisting words, picking every little details and showing no support. New mum, obviously lost, asking a question about her new baby will get great answers, but a few "how stupid do you have to be to ask" "another PFB snowflake in the making". Completely useless, just nasty for the sake of it.
Too many name changes to keep track, but you can sometimes recognise the ones who will always answer the question by attacking it.

I strongly suspect that the worst culprit have a shit life and try to make themselves feel better online. Others have set up views but no idea about real life at all. Lots of examples, but the last one I know of was a poster being rude and nasty towards SAHM.. until someone reminded her about her own thread complaining about how miserable she was at work.
Don't get started about the feminists, who will find something oppressive in the colour of your tea.

You want to start a fight? start a thread about drying your clothes, outside or in a dryer. That should turn nasty within 2 or 3 posts.

Clothes are dried outside where ever possible, but I do have a tendency to leave them out over night....whispers I also have a toilet brush

It's half term FFS. What do you actually expect?

Go to netmums if you want the "u k hun?" lot running after you keen to spread glitter on your arse.

Given the additional strain on parents during these I am actually amazed that there hasn't been a thread that was practically live blogging the murder of a MIL / DSD / DSS / Idiot husband / obnoxious neighbour / car park wars starter.

I'm so glad the OP raised this. I've only been on MN for a couple of months but have found some of the threads really disillusioning.

One of the worst I've seen is the current long thread on the MMR vaccine (no doubt referred to earlier on here). The poor OP, who was probably pro-MMR, saw a programme which raised some issues and just wanted other people's' opinions. She was being literally abused by a lot of posters - it was quite upsetting and I really felt for her.

It can make you wonder if there are more nasty women out there than nice ones.

A few weeks ago I defended a poster on another thread who was getting some nasty responses. Cue loads of responses to my post calling my DH a c**nt. I tried to treat it humorously...

why do you need to insult someone to express a different opinion? Why do posters merely insult others, without bothering to even offer an answer or explanation. That's not having a different opinion.

Some posters are not here to offer any advice, they are just here to insult others.

Kaybush - the MMR thread I think is actually a great example of MN. The OP was referencing a very debunked and dangerous study and infomercial documentary, and a lot of posters posted links to real science, current information and more accurate study.

The OP may have had a bit of a bashing but a quick Google before she posted would have made it very obvious that the documentary and study she was discussing are a. bollocks and b. never gently received on MN.

There are a lot of users on MN who have children or family members with ASD and starting a thread about something that implies a choice they have made has caused that ASD is never going to be a gentle topic. To see that so many users of MN are so clued up about science and medical developments though actually makes me really proud to be an MNer.

Vax threads are always good for a fight, a couple of months isn't really long enough to learn the flash points kaybush stick with it and you will be chucking with the rest of us

I saw someone told to fuck off the other day for moaning that next doors food delivery at almost 10pm had woken up her baby.

Didn't justify a fuck off at all.

YANBU but it seems to mostly be contained to AIBU. There are some lovely people on MN but there seems to be an increasing number of people who pop up in threads, dont bother RTFT or read it and misunderstand/wilfully disregard it, totally ignore the AIBU question, attack other aspects of the OP's life such as parenting/work/relationship with dp which has no bearing on the original OP whilst twisting/outright making up parts of the OP to suit their vindictive views. I imagine these people are pretty unhappy in their own empty lives that they need to come onto an online anonymous forum and spew forth such idiotic crap. Ive found it best to not even acknowledge them.