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To ask if at 5'4 and nine and half stone I would be considered slim

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Worried61 · 18/02/2017 18:47

Mil commented today that I'm in her words quite a high weight for my height. She is around the same height and over a stone lighter. I think I'm a good weight and that 5'4 is slim and not overweight at all. Am I in denial?

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HappyAxolotl · 18/02/2017 18:58

I'm the same height and weight as you OP and I think that's my ideal size. I go chubby at not-much-above-it and gaunt at not-much-below.

Doesn't the healthy weight bracket for our height go from 8st7 to 10st7 or similar? So we're both smack in the middle and should focus on health rather than weight.

Talllara · 18/02/2017 19:00

Op your weight is most definitely absolutely fine,healthy and slim. Everyone is different shapes and sizes how boring if we were all the same.

Why on earth is your mil commenting on your weight?

bigtapdancingpimp · 18/02/2017 19:00

You sound a perfect weight OP and very slim.

MegBusset · 18/02/2017 19:00

I'm roughly the same height and weight and consider myself perfectly fine at the curvy end of slim - I'm a comfy size 10 in most shops. I wouldn't want to be much heavier but DH thinks I'm too slim and would like to have a bit more to grab!

The lowest I've ever been is about 8st 10lb but that was through constant exercise and eating like a sparrow. Frankly life is too short. And your MIL is very rude - I would just refuse to discuss weight with her any more!

Bibs2014 · 18/02/2017 19:01

You're the exact same height as me and at 9st 7 I looked fucking awesome - would kill to be that weight again! So YANBU.

Semaphorically · 18/02/2017 19:02

I'm 5'4 and when I'm that weight I'm a size 8. Which I consider to be slim. If your mil is really a stone lighter then she's borderline underweight and (depending on her build) she may not be very healthy as a result.

I'd ignore if I were you, they are her issues and it's probably worse and a lot more unhappy inside her head. Ask her why she's policing your weight if it bothers you.

PuppyMonkey · 18/02/2017 19:03

I'm exactly the same height and weight as you as well. I'm size ten most things but I have a bit of a tummy id like to get rid of, so I don't always feel slim and some clothes don't suit me at all because they show my tummy. Tops etc. I'm 50 so I think I've got the middle aged spread thing going on.

However, other people always tell me I look very slim and ask what exercise I do to keep my figure etc ( ha ha ha ha). I think as long as you're eating well and doing a bit of walking or running it's a fairly healthy size tbf.

Nquartz · 18/02/2017 19:03

I'm 5 ft 6 and same weight, I'm a size 10 but more wobbly than I'd like. Definitely look slim when I'm dressed, don't think you have anything to worry about.

BubbleBed · 18/02/2017 19:04

I'm 5ft 4 and weigh 11st 5 and I'm a size 12-14. But I run several times a week and my body shape is most likely very different to yours. When I'm around 10st I'm a 10-12. My boobs are always a 34E it seems though.

MillieMoodle · 18/02/2017 19:05

You're the same height as me and I'd also kill to be that weight again. 2 stone to go!

And your MIL should mind her own business and her manners.

MrsBobDylan · 18/02/2017 19:05

You are slim. And what Batman says.

OddShoe · 18/02/2017 19:05

It all depends on build. I'm 5'8 and normally weigh around 9 stone and am a size 8-10, normally a 10. I have no boobs though and narrow shoulders so I don't carry any extra weight well at all.

Janet80 · 18/02/2017 19:06

I am 5'4" and I would love to be your weight! I am 11.5 stone, 12 on top and 14 on bottom. I am quite muscly (mesomorph) and don't actually look 11.5 stone. Your mil is being mean, don't listen to her.

notgettingyounger · 18/02/2017 19:06

You are in the middle of the healthy and normal weight range. Ignore MIL.

acquiescence · 18/02/2017 19:08

I'd say you're just about right. But it depends on your body shape,bland if you exercise. If you are very sedentary than you probably are carrying extra fat, if you work out lots you are probably very trim.

Susiethetortoiseshellcat · 18/02/2017 19:09

I'm 5.5 and 8 1/2 stone. I have been 8 and look too skinny and recently, after giving birth, was 10 and looked a bit chubby. Currently am size 8/10 and would say I'm slim but not skinny.

Bambambini · 18/02/2017 19:09

Sounds ok and healthy but not what really i'd class as slim. 9 1/2 stone is what i sim for at 5 6 - and i don't class myself slim.

danTDM · 18/02/2017 19:10

Absolutely not slim. Normal. Don't fret.

Susiethetortoiseshellcat · 18/02/2017 19:10

Very rude of your mil! I'm sure you look fine and obviously feel fine.

sleepy16 · 18/02/2017 19:10

I'm exactly the same as you, I'm a size 10.
I have large breasts though for my frame (34f).
I would like to tone rather then loose weight though apart from that I'm rather happy with the way I am.

WallisFrizz · 18/02/2017 19:10

I'm 5'3" and my pre child weight was 8'11lbs. Your MIL may have thought I was average to chunky but in all reality, I was obsessively careful about what I ate and went to the gym 4 times a week. It is the slimmest I will ever be without an eating disorder or illness. Some of us are just not petite build and we still look good and suit our weight.

She was unkind to comment.

I am overweight at 10st now but aiming for about 9 st 4lb which I think would put me at a similar weight to you and I'd be happy with that.

thecatneuterer · 18/02/2017 19:11

I'm an inch shorter than you and a stone and a half lighter and I consider myself slim-ish and definitely not thin. So I think I would consider myself significantly overweight at that height and weight.

However these sort of threads (with photos) have taught me that everyone seems to carry their weight differently and people can look surprisingly slim when, from their height and weight, I wouldn't have expected them to.

So I don't really know. It's all relative and it depends how YOU feel about it.

Funnyonion17 · 18/02/2017 19:11

Some people carry weight better then others. So nobody can say really. Very cheeky of her to comment

thecatneuterer · 18/02/2017 19:12

Sorry I meant to say an inch taller.

worriedmum100 · 18/02/2017 19:12

I'm 5ft 4 and 9 stone 5. I feel flabby but it's baby weight I've yet to shift and a lack of tone. I'm a 10/12 at the moment. Ideally I'd be 8 1/2 stone. My measurements are 35-30-37 which I think sounds bigger than I think I look (if that makes sense!).