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dh wants a threesome with his best friend's gf

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twoscompany · 28/02/2007 14:10

have changed my name for obvious reasons.

Me and dh have been together for 12 years, married for 8, we have a 4 year old dd. Have always had a great relationship, although I?ll admit that sexually I?m not as open-minded as some people are, but dh has always respected this.

However over the past year or so dh has been saying more and more that he would like us to have a threesome. To start with he said it jokingly, and I took it as such as he knows there?s absolutely no way I would go for it. But more recently he?s been saying more and more that he wants to have a threesome and is ignoring my attempts to laugh it off, saying that it should be his birthday present from me.

Then last night he said that I should invite a friend, who happens to be his best friend?s gf, over for the weekend, and he then said ?because she?s the one I think we should have a threesome with?.

I?ve pointed out that this isn?t going to do much good for dh?s friendship, but he said that I should be the one to ask her, that way his friend need never know. He?s also promised that he will give me the majority of attention and that he won?t actually have sex with her, but just wants her to be there.

Am I being selfish for not wanting to do this?

OP posts:
nailpolish · 28/02/2007 17:24

lol @ half time change ends

kittylette · 28/02/2007 17:42

no its not me

and if you dont want a 3some dont have one, simple.

if he pushes it still then hes an arsehole

Muminfife · 28/02/2007 17:52

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ohsmellyjelly · 28/02/2007 20:16

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Aloha · 28/02/2007 20:31

My favourite bit is that he wants the OP to do the asking! Like he's too shy! Hilarious!

divamumplus · 28/02/2007 20:45

defo 3some will save marrage or relationship.
uqd, if your wife offers you 3some with your friend(male) will you be happy and not being jealious?

Pann · 28/02/2007 21:46

revised attitude to three-somes

IF I bagged either Mariella Frostrup or Shilpa Shetty, I'd be prepared, for one night only, to share the other one with her.

It would only be fair.

UnquietDad · 28/02/2007 21:51

I'm with Pann on Mariella - but Shilpa does little for me.

Hey, I've not said - just in case this gets back to DW - that I'd actually like a threesome, just that the idea is appealing as a typical male fantasy!

UnquietDad · 28/02/2007 21:52

"offside" v funny.

Pann · 28/02/2007 21:54

I know UD.......do you think she'd be annoyed????

UnquietDad · 28/02/2007 21:55

Probably not. We've joked about it often enough! I stress joked.

kittylette · 28/02/2007 21:57

some people can do it and enjoy it and it doesnt effect their relationship, but the OP obviously doesnt want to so she shouldn't even consider it!

and shilpas mingin

mustrunmore · 28/02/2007 22:02

Well, FWIW, when I read the thread title I interpteted it as the 3 being dh, dh's mate, and dh's mate's gf. And was horrified. When I realised it meant dh, mate's gf, and you, it sounded more more 'normal'.
Sorry if that doesnt help you much!

Pann · 28/02/2007 22:05

kittylette....you know absolutely nothing. In very small amounts.

Pann · 28/02/2007 22:13

kitty. teasing. I think Shilpa has poise in gallon tins. Minger, she ain't.

VeniVidiVickiQV · 28/02/2007 23:15

Shilpa is not minging!

UD..

expatinscotland · 28/02/2007 23:39

I hope we are all more poly/kink aware due to this thread.

I'm still shocked cod didn't post:
fraeks. vom.

TeeCee · 01/03/2007 10:12

I keep think people are talking to me whent ehy say TC don't have a 2some of you don't want one', it's horrid!

Can we all just be clear that the TC ont his thread is TwosCompany not TeeCee!

Rhubarb · 01/03/2007 10:13

TC - you perv!

TeeCee · 01/03/2007 10:14

If this was my thread, there'd be no duiscussion, I'd be well up for it!

newhorror · 28/02/2019 09:39

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iklboo · 28/02/2019 17:57

ZOMBIE THREAD. DO NOT BITE.

This thread should be in high school by now

Zaeemthecat · 28/02/2019 18:37

What makes me laugh here is the assumption that the friend would even be up for it with either of you Confused I mean does she get consulted about this at any point? Hmm - what do we think her answer would be?

Seriously OP, this is a wind-up, isn’t it?

Having said this, my DH has admitted that the only porn he’s into is the girl-on-girl stuff. Well he can crack on and I won’t be viewing with him any time soon. All this “bi try” stuff is nonsense.

I think if you a couple want to do this kind of thing, you need to pay someone, rather than make fools of yourself with friends.,

OP, on the slight off-chance that you might be semi-genuine, please don’t get pushed into anything you’re not comfortable with. There is no need. If he wants to shag this woman anyway, then let him get on with it and know you’ve dodged a bullet. I doubt she’s remotely interested anyway.

iklboo · 28/02/2019 18:49

@Zaeemthecat - this thread is 12 years old Wink

Sniv · 28/02/2019 19:14

Never I have I been so relieved to find out I've been reading a zombie thread. W T F

Anyone who moans about how Mumsnet used to be amazing in the good old days should be directed to this thread where someone genuinely needing support in their relationship somehow sprouts this shitshow