to not bring my child up with technology??

[Babyblues14]

I hate seeing kids in prams holding phones or ipads. Surely children and supposed to be children. When I was younger I could play on own for hours and it was the best time of my life
My partner has a son who lives with us and although hes a teenager now there has never been a time where he is not on a pc, phone or games console. when he was smaller he would scream bloody murder if it was ever taken away from him.
Im currently pregnant and have no plans for my child to grow up like this but my family think Im mad. I just think its a lazy way to shut your kid up. I do use technology but only when necessary and I hardly used social media. I just want my child to have a real childhood instead of scaring at a screen. What do you think??

I used to give dtds my phones (home and work iPhones so one each) while dd1 had swimming lessons. Dtds were 2-3. Was it top notch parenting? No. Did it save my sanity on a Friday night after school with 2 tired stroppy toddlers? Dear god yes! Could I have coped without? Yes - mostly with food bribes. Some days it's about giving it 100%, some are about just getting to bedtime without breaking down.

You may have seen me at swimming and judged, but you wouldn't have known that that 30 minute lesson was the only time in a week my dds played on my phone.

My grandson knew how to swipe an iphone from a very young age. I think children have evolved to have swiping fingers.

The op is clearly just trolling for an argument. Crack on, op. You're back at school tomorrow, mind, so make sure you get an early night and brush your teeth before bed.

It really doesn't have to be all or nothing.

You're getting a bit of a kicking OP. Although I would keep it in mind for RL interaction it is a bit ridiculous to cast sweeping statements like this before you are a parent.

You're being extreme but I don't totally disagree. I do know lots of children who aren't able to sit still on a restaurant etc because they've always been placated with an iPad. I'm a bit anti on the screens for my own but I definitely don't judge because you don't know those people and it really is not your business.

It is a good point that people have raised re
Moving with the times. But I would add that my DC have all been v limited on screens and I was a bit worried they'd be behind their peers on computer stuff because they'd never used one before school but they were all fine. Not tech whizzes for sure but definitely not behind.

lol im an idiot for wanting to spend with my child when their younger

Based on this linguistical car crash of a sentence, that does not appear to be the only reason.

When you have your imaginary baby feel free to pop back and let us know how things pan out

You sound really horrible and judgey towards others. There's loads of things people do differently, breast vs bottle, bedsharing vs cot, jars vs home cooked food. It must be tiresome to judge people over everything. I just find that the vast majority of parents are doing their best and sometimes we do things to make stuff easier- I have been using screens a bit more recently but I have had HG for about 25 weeks so Peppa is a lifesaver when you spend lots of the day running to the bathroom!

The OP has prbably grown up staring at a screen. That's how they know how to troll a parenting website.

Just for context, relating to the development of technology, none of those teens glued to their iPads and iPhones had access to any tablets or smart phones at all as toddlers!

Perhaps you need to wait and see what sort of child you get.

This reminds me a bit of my DH when he complains about the new club manager and him not knowing what he is doing! I say " I'm sorry are you earning us millions of pounds while I split my many hours of leisure time between Our mansions in Cheshire and Barbados??? No?? Well until you are shut the fuck up!!!"

There's a massive difference between raising your child with technology and raising a spoilt brat.

At what age will technology be allowed?

My one year old doesn't have any screen time, watching the six nations doesn't count. But my seven year old has compulsory computer lessons at school. Therefore even if I said no screens at home she would still get it at school.

It's like mumsnet bingo
Stepmother - tick
Goady premise - tick
Use of "could of" - tick
Goady statments delivered at intervals - tick

Please do come back in 5 years time and update for us OP

* I just find that the vast majority of parents are doing their best*

^this^

Very true PickAChew. DS is 18, his childhood was toy cars and dinosaurs, Dr Seuss, and Tellytubbies. He's not glued to his iPhone, but it rarely leaves him.

Based on this linguistical car crash of a sentence, that does not appear to be the only reason.

Yorick This is the best thing I've seen on here in days.

I think if you don't teach your children how to use and enjoy (responsibly) technology then you are placing them at a huge disadvantage.

That's the way the world is now, kids aren't going to go back to playing with sticks and technology is pretty much essential to most job roles now.

Your children will be playing catch up when they starry school when all the other children are already fab hands at it and ready to learn more.

Are you writing this post with your quill on your parchment?

OP, I'm in a similar position to you - pregnant with first and have witnessed friends/family do a few things with their DC that I disliked.

I'm trying not to come out with "I'll never..." because Jesus knows I'm not the first smart alec to have a child. But I get it. Sometimes you see something that grates particularly- for me it was my 3 yo nephew only eating when the iPad was in front of him - and think "Fuck no".

I dont want my child obsessed and a spoilt little git. Like I said my dh son screamed the place down when it was taken off him and its the most ridiculous behaviour I've ever seen.

They don't need to be playing with technology to do that - my DD had the most ridiculous temper tandtrum when she was 2 because she had her colouring book and crayons taken off her. Children strop - even non-spoilt children occasion have tantrums and strops.

I think anyone bring up a child completely technology free in this day and age is doing their child a disservice. We live in a technology fuelled word - not allowing them any access at all just puts them behind their peers. Like every kind of toy there's a balance to be found between just right and too much.

lol im an idiot for wanting to spend with my child when their younger instead of sticking them in front of a computer screen all day. I see, what an awful person I must be, I guess everyones parents when we were younger were all idiots too

Eh? I guarantee that my grandparents didn't do the whole crawling around on the floor playing with the toddlers thing. My parents certainly didn't do it with me. The idea of parents interacting all day long with their children (as opposed to just living them and keeping them safe) must surely only have come about in the past 20 years.

You're free to ban technology from your home as you see fit. Just don't be deluded into thinking it makes you a better parent.