to not bring my child up with technology??

[Babyblues14]

I hate seeing kids in prams holding phones or ipads. Surely children and supposed to be children. When I was younger I could play on own for hours and it was the best time of my life
My partner has a son who lives with us and although hes a teenager now there has never been a time where he is not on a pc, phone or games console. when he was smaller he would scream bloody murder if it was ever taken away from him.
Im currently pregnant and have no plans for my child to grow up like this but my family think Im mad. I just think its a lazy way to shut your kid up. I do use technology but only when necessary and I hardly used social media. I just want my child to have a real childhood instead of scaring at a screen. What do you think??

My DS is severely disabled but can easily make his way around an iPad!
He has kids tube and loves to watch videos of trains and other kids opening kinder eggs.

He also has an iPad given to him but SALT .... he uses this to talk as he is non-verbal .... imagine if he couldn't use an iPad ... then he wouldn't be able to use this amazing technology. He was using Picture exchange system but he is so weak he couldn't pull the picture from the Velcro!
I think you are being very very narrow minded and are coming across as a right knob!

bumsexatthebingo

I am responding to the OP's thread title, not to bring up her child with technology and I was merely stating that that would be very difficult if she uses a smartphone or tablet

he had tantrums when he was younger. he is 15 now. I would change it but its not my place.

Of course technology is needed, it's integral to the future, watch a few tech people talk about what then envision the future to be like, technology is it. Why limit your children by your 70/80/90's memories of childhood?

Gets my back up when people talk about how child today don't have a childhood like they did back in the day. We are continually evolving. So my children are not sent to play from morning to evening out on the streets, but guess what if I did that no doubt child services would be called as it would be deemed neglect it's a dangerous world out there.

Everyone has ideals when expecting their first born and judge parents. Wait until you have walked the walk and then come back on your findings.

Lol my brother and SIL said my nephew was not going to grow up with technology and judged me for letting my DD use a tablet and occasionally my phone when we were out and about.

That was until he was about 3 months old, really ill and clingy ... and they discovered that Justin Bieber music videos kept his attention long enough that they could change his outfit that he'd just soiled, wipe up the mess that got on the sofa, change their own shirt and even have time to bung it all in the washing machine before he noticed that he wasn't being held and cuddled.

He's now 18 months old and just spent two weeks in hospital, with an IV drip in his foot due to a nasty viral infection ... some times he was able to run around and play with the toys in the playroom, but other times when he was hooked up to his medication and was upset and fractious from being ill, the fact he could watch some Youtube videos and play with some toddler apps meant he was distracted from the fact he was in hospital because he could play his favourite games (mostly ones where you have to press animals to get them to make noises, or musical ones that are just sound lol) and knew what to do. If he'd never used them before he wouldn't have settled to play with them and it would have made life one hunderd times harder.

Have your own and then see. Seriously. You don't have a CLUE until you're in the situation - so stop judging others. Fwiw I have 3 and limit screen time but have no qualms on say, a rainy Sunday morning when we want a lie in, for them to spend 2 hours watching laughing babies on YouTube.

Honestly, get a fucking grip!

Also preschools and childminders often have IT toys etc too. The daycare I worked in had a ICT activity planned every week as it was part of the framework. It would usually be a computer application but plenty of toys relied on tech too. We used to have a beebot that the children loved to use to figure out which directional buttons they needed to press to make the robot end up at a certain point.

Children who are growing up with technology do not have real childhoods.....it's sad, they are all getting lazy & fat.

Like op, I won't raise my child the same.

I suspect that once your baby is here you'll end up doing quite a lot that you swore blind you'd never do. Especially if you end up having another in the future and your first is an active child who isn't good at sitting still and doing arty creative stuff or reading quietly etc.

Fwiw though op, dh and I did have a similar conversation like this earlier today where we reminsced about riding our bikes with cards attached to the wheels with pegs, choreographing our own dances, playing tennis in the street etc etc and I do think many children have lost some of this joy due to an over reliance on technology. We are currently battling with a 6yo who has apparently lost the ability to use his imagination and play with his other toys since discovering Angry Birds.... so while I think you're being a little bit unreasonable, it's a real problem too and I see your point.

thanks karma someone who agrees lol
no one likes to get judged on here but then you all like to be very critical of the way I want to do things. I was asking for opinions not to be talked to like shit

they are all getting lazy & fat. All of them? Every single child who accesses an iPhone, iPad, laptop, kindle or computer is lazy and fat? I think you'll have to try to back it up if you want to say stuff like that and not be laughed at, Karma because right now you're coming across as a joke.

I think you're coming across as a monumental dickwad tbh. My kid (10) has a mobile, iPad, Xbox and Mac. He loves them. He's also doing maths work at a level 3 years above where he should be, reads like no kid I've ever seen and is startlingly brilliant at retaining facts. He also codes. He loves learning. He uses his devices to learn. All because I've done my job as a parent. I know that I don't just shut things down, I limit the time on mind numbing games and you tube videos. It's not difficult and you're setting yourself up for real problems with your attitude.

your kid is ten I am talking about babies/toddlers

My kid used devices as a toddler and I'm glad. It set him up with a basic knowledge of how to use them and gave me time for a cuppa.

I've mentioned on similar threads my great-niece, now two-and-a-half, being brought up without screens except her parents' IPads which she sees only as what she talks to her grandfather in another country on. No television. The parents use old-fashioned pre-screen mobiles. She sees these devices in other people's homes from time to time, but not hour in, hour out.

And she is verbal, dexterous, and interested in the whole world - not that I am biased - and will do well. You don't need screens to bring up a child.

If my 14 year old hadn't watched baby bloody Mozart on a loop for every meal for his entire toddler years I expect he would have died of starvation but hey ho, no technology.

I dont want my child obsessed and a spoilt little git. Like I said my dh son screamed the place down when it was taken off him and its the most ridiculous behaviour I've ever seen.
You do realise that your child will scream the place down for hundreds of other reasons. It doesn't make a child a spoilt little git. Like when their banana breaks or you stop them from playing with the cat food or you won't let them wear their shorts to play in the snow.
And I'm afraid that sometimes children's behaviour IS ridiculous - that's normal for young children.

The parents you have in your imagination who give their children tablets and phones to play with all day every day, don't actually exist. You see tiny snapshots of children with technology and assume that they must have them all of the time. I have yet to meet a parent who didn't play with their baby or toddler.

I'm sure you will do everything perfectly, in a way that cannot be negatively judged by anyone who sees you for a matter of minutes.

I was asking for opinions not to be talked to like shit
Then don't talk about other people like shit then!

We had that tolovelitime Baby Einstein was it? DS2 is in all top sets at High School now.

I dont recall swearing at anybody or calling people names but I guess I must be imaginig that everyone else is doing it

You might want to have a look at reasonsmysoniscrying.com kids cry and tantrum over ridiculous stuff. But you don't handle it by declaring whatever they want is off limits, you try to teach them to handle it. My son loves technology and doesn't tantrum over not having it. He has however kicked off at not being allowed to go to the moon, not being allowed to drive a car, and one spectacular tantrum over not being allowed his own torpedo to take home when visiting a dockyard. But opinion only is that you'd be disadvantaging your child by declaring tech off limits, both socially and educationally. Just as you would by deciding music/sport/reading to be useless

justanother those are fabulous reasons to tantrum! DS2 loved a good tantrum and once cried so hard he was sick because he wanted to be covered in hair like the dog. No amount of hugs and soothing could calm the lunatic.

He also once had a monumental shitstorm in the local Sainsburys because he wasn't allowed to open 57 jars of marmite as he walked past them. It's like a giant hug, watching your own flesh and blood turn feral because of a yeast-based spread.

I guess everyones parents when we were younger were all idiots too, my parents were too busy leaving me with my dsis to go to the pub, I would have killed for an iPad rather than watching bad 70s TV!

Meffy, my son also has an AAC device, which helps him communicate. When he was little, the iPad was one of the few motivating things to use for all sorts of therapy. I am extremely grateful that he is living in a time of communication apps and touch screens (despite the cat bum mouths i see sometimes when he has his talker in a restaurant while eating!)

No screens (of all types) for under twos here & after that very very limited (less than 3 hrs a week for my current 9 yr old).
They are never bored, they can use technology fine & are book worms.

It works for us.

Hope you don't get a child who eats everything.

I'm talking crayons, paint, 20p's, any bits she can chew off a toy.

Restaurants crayons to keep her busy? That was her starter.

Thanked my lucky stars when we found a drawing app on the ipad. She can't eat that fucker 😂

I think people are being way too aggressive here. Look babyblue has ideals and it's good to try but the reality is somewhat different.

Your partner does 16 hour shifts, that could be really hard on you. The sleep deprivation can be impossible to imagine how bad it can sometimes be.

I had multiple successional nights where I slept 2 hours in torturous 20 minute intervals - this is not uncommon. The next day you are on edge, feel nervous, exhausted and your baby is too. You have to do it for the 8th night and day alone again.

Then your baby is overtired and just won't stop crying. You are on your knees. You've eaten stale biscuits and it's 9 pm and look like a state.

Then you crack. You show the screen. You get at first 3 minutes break. Just 3 minutes but you feel a bit better.

OP this is the start, a slippery slope. You would have to have the will power of an ox not to crack. It's good to try of course but unless you are lucky, parenting can be hard.

Can people stop the spelling thing, it's really not nice and necessary.