to want to be able to moan about my job

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DH and I have not agreed on the best way to raise a child, we've made some uneasy compromises. DH feels under 5s (ideally under 10s he says) should have a full time parent, obviously this needs to be me as I don't earn enough to cover the mortgage, but I was reluctant to go down this path. At first I thought I wanted it but the days on maternity leave were so so long.

So we compromised and I went back part time, 3 days a week. DH has done nothing to make life easier for me, every time I ask him for help he says "well if you'd give up work then you wouldn't need help."

The thing is work is very stressful right now but I can't say it's anything less than perfect otherwise he starts pressurising me to quit.

He's amazing but this is really getting me down :(

Your last post totally contradicts itself. He's really done a number on you.

Of course he's not horrible all the time or in all ways, if he were you would have left. But some of the things he is doing - pushing you to leave a job you really want, not letting you feel safe to go to the Dr on your own, are so horrible that they outweigh all the good bits.

Abusive men are not one dimensional pantomime villains who do nothing but throw women in cellars and beat and starve them while laughing and twirling their moustaches.

OP, to quote a man who knew how to misrepresent himself.. .the greatest trick the devil ever pulled was convincing the world he didn't exist.

He's an abuser, OP. Please call Women's Aid: 0808 2000 247

They will talk things through with you but won't pressure you into doing anything. They won't judge you.

You're DH sounds like a dick.

*your