Husband is a thoughtless git

[Chickydoo]

So have just blown a gasket.
Worked this morning, now working at my laptop, presentations to prepare.
Can smell yummy smells downstairs. DH
Preparing lunch.
I nipped down and had a look.
Roast pork with all the trimmings.
I don't eat pork, however I would be fine with the veg and potatoes, maybe a few extra mushrooms or something.
Went back upstairs carried on with work.
Got quite bogged down with it, assumed lunch must be ready, went in to kitchen to find DH & the 2 teens who are home today clearing up. They had eaten the lot! Not even a potato left. I am so cross. I cook every day of the week for all of them, but today I was busy & not even offered lunch:(

It is our anniversary tomorrow, apparently he is playing golf.
I think I am being a mug

Rant over

I don't know any man that would do this. I'm appalled to hear these stories of horrible people who can't even cook for their spouse who is upstairs working.

Who has roast pork and all the trimmings for Saturday lunch? Lucky to get a cheese toastie in this house.

I think a lot of the time us mums make martyrs of ourselves because we value the rest of the household above our own needs, we are natural carers.

So, er, stop doing it. I came in this afternoon and had a nap. DP has produced supper for a large number of unexpected teenage guests including a vegan. I am appreciative but not gobsmacked.

So OP what are your DC and DH doing to say sorry/make it up to you/show that you are appreciated?

And if your DH is reading this WTF is wrong with you? you are some kind of selfish shit!

I would honestly suggest your DW leaves your selfish arse and finds herself someone that treats her as a fucking human being.

PCFW - well the OP family for one

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Any chance he did call you down but you didn't hear him? Didn't you hear them all eating and presumably chatting?

Victim blaming.

So they called and obviously got no reply. Why didn't one of them get their sorry arse upstairs and do the job properly. Instead of which they stuffed the food and didn't feel a flicker of guilt between the lot of them.

Next they'll all go off to Spain on holiday and leave poor OP Home Alone.

And this: 'You don't eat much anyways.'
I assume it's code for, you can go starve in the attic for all we greedy guts down here care.

How's it gone tonight? I hope your friends have made him feel guilty as he obviously didn't give a shit earlier in the day as he tried to justify his actions and didn't just say 'sorry'!

So just got home.
DH came with me this eve, he didn't drink so I could.
He Drove us there & back
Has cancelled golf tomorrow, & suggested we go out for lunch.
Me thinks he feels rather guilty. I Told my girlfriends, who then told him what an arse moron he was!
I think the message got through.........we shall see.
Thanks again all for your support today.

Result! Hope he has taken notice. Enjoy the rest of the weekend

I really hope he's thoroughly ashamed of himself- and I hope your friends take the piss relentlessly

Good luck Chicky. Just remember you've got support on here if you need it

Suggest you stop doing all the shopping and cooking. DC and DH should be taking turns. Working from home does not mean you are free to do all of that.

Glad he seems to be taking notice. No kids here, so DP and I might grab a snack at weekend lunch alone if doing our own thing (toast and pate, cheese & crackers, something we'd cooked and frozen) but no way would we cook an actual meal without checking in with the other person in the house and offering to give them something to eat. That is so spectacularly rude.

Hell even most of them time we're in the kitchen it'd be 'I'm getting some cheese and crackers / a cup of tea / whatever - do you want one?'.

Me thinks he feels rather guilty not enough to say sorry though?

yep get a takeaway and say"sorry you never said and I didnt think you would like one"

I suggest you get absolutely steaming drunk for two days and treat them all like shit and spew all over the house and make them clean it

. Ridiculous suggestion.

My ex husband used to do this. l worked shifts, he didn't. lf we were both at home, l'd cook something for both of us. He'd often cook something like chilli (l don't eat meat and l'm allergic to spicy stuff), just for him.
My mother was the same. From me being 14, l cooked for myself. Her reason being "l never know what you want." Even when l was working late shifts, and getting home at 10pm. The kettle wasn't even boiled for me coming in.
l live on my own now, and it's lovely. lf l want to cook, l do, if not, l don't.
Make stuff just for you and see how he likes that. He'll soon get the message.

I'd be pissed off - but not THAT pissed off.

Leave em a note that says.."as I now realise that your culinary skills are so good ( the roast pork dinner smelt so delicious) it's time to split the cooking duties between the four of us. Kitchen table meeting 6pm Monday. Please bring your menu suggestions/ideas that you'd like to make so we can do online shop. New system will be in effect from Saturday" and DO IT. Check calendar commitments etc too so as to be fair....

Maybe he is planning an extra special surprise tomorrow.....

I'd tell them that they are all cooking for themselves, and clearing up after themselves from now on - if they can't be arsed to give you a shout when dinner's ready then cater just for yourself and f**k 'em! Thoughtless sods - it only takes a second to ask someone if they are ready for a meal or not and it is customary to expect everyone in the house to at least be asked/offered.

Wow that's really nasty hope you pulled him up on it.

I made a roast chicken one evening and let it rest while I jumped in the shower. I told my DTs they can 'pick' a bit. I got out of the shower and they had polished off the whole chicken without leaving a bite for me (they had literally picked the bones clean). But they were 7, and they got carried away. They did get told off and have never again dared eat everything without leaving any for me lol.

If my DP (if I had one) or teenage/older children did what yours did, I would be fuming, and they could have toast with butter (prepared by their own fair hands) for the foreseeable future, while I prepared lovely meals for myself.