To think this parent is really grabby?

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NC (is that you UCM) red rug/Titania/clay of cock.

My ds go to a local scout group. They run loads of events. Another parent used to go in and help out and she'd take photos for the newsletters and social media. She also used to e mail us digital photos.

She still helps out but in the newsletter there is a link and she is now selling all her photos.

AIBU to think she's only doing this to boost her business and I should tell her I want my children exempt from having their photos taken unless I can have copies (in lieu of modelling fees)

OP with her 'big camera'...

Well she clearly now has competition.....
Cue Op and her Hasselblad

I've sent an e mail saying I'd rather the children were withdrawn and I'd also like to come with my big camera to take my own photos the other parents are welcome to any I take. Free of charge of course.

If you're half as lovely in reality as you appear on here, I'd make a point of paying the real photographer and ignoring you just to piss you off.

I'm not being petty
I used to get photos from her all the time, now I have to pay as she won't email them any more

This ^ you ARE being petty, yet this is your own post?!?!! which reads to me as 'I still want this woman to give her time and resources for free so I can benefit'

She taking pics OFFERING the option to buy. You're no worse off no one HAS to catalogue your kids lives for you to enjoy for free. Buy the pics or don't but don't confuse YOUR graspiness with a moral issue.

Still hoping for a reverse here.

Pooryorik I hazard a guess you're right and other parents will especially as they've asked her to be there!

Feralberyl sorry to disappoint you I'm. It backing down and reversing my opinion.

I'm sure they could use the extra help and if anyone objects I can just take photos of my own dc.

Dione
I will thank you for your support.

Ha ha - a reverse doesn't mean reversing your opinion to infinity

Op would you be having a stern word about dbs check if she was still churning out free photos - me thinks not!! It's going to be one cringy conversation when the poor scout leader has to tell you that no thank you they don't want your big camera they'll stick with the professional already kindly donating the scouts her time and resources for free! The other parents I suspect will continue to buy as you yourself said they asked her to be a events to photograph their kids!

I'm imagining that when they can get my photos for nothing they will see she is cheeky to charge so much and to be profiting from us parents. I know she cannot force people to buy but still.

I don't think it's unreasonable

Op, you really are pathetic and not a very nice person.

Have you considered the impact of your childish, bitchy behaviour on your children? I imagine they'd like to have friends rather than be avoided or taken the pee out of due to a lunatic mother

I'm imagining that when they can get my photos for nothing they will see she is cheeky to charge so much

Ah, this thread is in fact a wind up then? Well done, OP - you did have us going. At least my faith in human nature is a little bit restored by knowing there isn't really someone out there as selfish and self-regarding as you pretended to be.

I think I've had plenty of support on here thank you.

Yeah, nice try but you jumped the shark with the "when they can get my photos for nothing" comment and pretending not to know what a reverse is.

Top effort though.

It's you who's doing all the reversing

Why can't I do the exact same as her?
I'll wait for interest then charge and still be cheaper.

Don't all be hypocritical now and say that's not on.

Thank you. I've had enough insight and tips on here to know what to do.

You're assuming that the scout group will welcome a second photographer, who has a blatant grudge against the first one... Why do you want to bring this drama to your dc's hobby? Do you approach everything in life with a sledgehammer mentality?

I can appreciate that you feel a photographer suckered you in with free photos in the hopes that you'd continue to buy them from her, but you didn't lose anything. You gained several free photos! Now all you have to do is ignore her site/emails. But if you go barging in with a camera because you now feel you have a right to free photos of your children's activity, don't be surprised if the scout leader is displeased.

At least check with the group before you blow £500+ on a professional quality camera and memory cards. And remember that the parents may have to sign a second round of permission slips, the first ones probably don't cover you.

'No, MY camera's bigger..'

I'll wait for interest then charge and still be cheaper.

Definitely a wind up. Truly pathetic and sad.

Oh so now you want to wait for interest and then undercut her?

Not above benefitting from parents yourself then? The very thing you accused her of!

It seems you're just jealous that she spotted a business opportunity.

I fear this has been blown way out of proportion, now that you're thinking of, essentially, running a photography business through your children's scouts class. It really is simple... don't pay for them. Nothing in life is free. You sound grabby and unreasonable and I did sort of understand your indignation at first but reading through the thread it's just escalated into a petty playground fight.

Why can't I do the exact same as her?

She's a skilled professional. You're a laughably unaware bumbling amateur with a grudge. Amazing that you can't see how you're embarrassing yourself and potentially your children.

So just what experience do you have with professional photography OP?
Can you mange your converging verticals? Sort out your white balance?

I haven't RTFT

sounds like she is tired of her skilled labour being taken for granted and is charging for it, rightly so. Women are often expected to do things for free, bullshit to that. Why shouldn't she charge if she is providing a talent/skill that no one else can in this scenario?

I am a good photographer. Years ago when I was in a better position financially I got all my equipment and the price of everything was very high. It took me a very long time to be able to take a photo at professional standards and I still have a long way to go.

I once took some photos of children at a party per the mother's request and the parent's who wanted photos were told to come and see me. I did things like this often and people ended up taking the piss. One parent moaned when their photos weren't ready four hours after I had taken them. I shoot in raw, I have to process them and it is very timely.

Now I only do free photos for two of my close friends. Despite what people think you can't just pick up a good camera and take great photos, it's about composition, lighting, white balance, DOF, SS and so much more and it takes years to really learn how to do it well.

YABU op.