To think this parent is really grabby?

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NC (is that you UCM) red rug/Titania/clay of cock.

My ds go to a local scout group. They run loads of events. Another parent used to go in and help out and she'd take photos for the newsletters and social media. She also used to e mail us digital photos.

She still helps out but in the newsletter there is a link and she is now selling all her photos.

AIBU to think she's only doing this to boost her business and I should tell her I want my children exempt from having their photos taken unless I can have copies (in lieu of modelling fees)

misshelena I hope no scout troop is so discriminatory to make a child's experience of the regular meetings dependent on the permission to have their photos taken. That would be incredibly lacking in empathy for kids who aren't able to have their photos shared - some of whom are often already vulnerable for other reasons.

"Special table reserved for those without photo consent"

Nice.

Miss Helena

Special table ? I think you have confused the OP's situation with other families.

Is that the table with children whose parent ( let's say the mum for arguments sake) has escaped DV and her ex is searching for them, photo's online have been used for this before.
Or in some adoption cases where birth family (who may have been judged unsuitable to care for the child themselves) are trying to find a child.
Many other reasons why a parent wouldn't want their child's photo put online.

Op you sound really spiteful in this thread.

Good for the photographer, she's found a business opportunity. No one is being forced to buy anything and as some parents are paying clearly there is a market for this service.

You want free photos? Take your own.

The photos are not for online sharing. Just for parents to buy.

"discriminatory"? To allow picture taking so that op's children are not accidentally pictured?? My ears are open for suggestions.

I agree Puppy

I meant not for online sharing with the public. Just scout parents.

I'm not bloody surprised she is wanting paid. She is a professional. You are the grabby one wanting the prints for free

Another coward hiding behind a name change. You just don't want your normal username associated with the spite you've shown on this thread.

This is the most ridiculous thread I've seen in a while.

OP - YABVU

Mumsnet has spoken by a clear majority. And it sounds like other parents in your scout group feel very differently to you.

You are so entitled I'm struggling to believe you are for real.

HTH

I find the psyche of people like the op interesting. She has openly said early on in the thread, that she would not let her dc be photographed simply to make the photographers life difficult. There are no other benefits to be had. Just to make someone else's life a little bit more difficult, a little bit worse. Why?

Just to make someone else's life a little bit more difficult, a little bit worse. Why?

"Because the nasty lady who gave me loads of stuff for free won't give me any more free stuff."

Think you sound incredibly grabby and mean spirited. If I was the other parents I'd be really annoyed with you. They have the option to buy a prof photo of their children if they are really nice. No pressure Iif they don't . Just be glad that you got prof photos for free as long as you did..

She likely needs a police check! Seriously, in a professional capacity she should have one plus insurance

Think you'll be "waiting a long time for the other parents to see sense" but make sure you share you views and give them all a laugh..

Poor kids to have to leave all the group shots cause their mum is spiteful

Good point Debbs and many thanks those who've supported me on this thread.

Perhaps she doesn't have a DBS clearance in which case I'd be having stern words with the person in charge for letting her help in the first place.

I've sent an e mail saying I'd rather the children were withdrawn and I'd also like to come with my big camera to take my own photos the other parents are welcome to any I take. Free of charge of course.

I know it sounds petty but in this day and age so much can go wrong!

Obviously refreshing the thread until someone appears who might agree with you.

Not withdrawing at all

and many thanks those who've supported me on this thread.
Honestly.

I am pretty sure the parents that take the kids on school trips dont have a DBS and you were happy taking the pics before when they are free.

Why do you have so much hate inside? For a few pictures?

How sad to be you

What big camera?

Wow, not content with being obnoxious about it on here, you want all the other parents to know you are obnoxious too? Yeah, good luck with that....

She likely needs a police check

She is already a helper with the scouts. She will have had a DBS check.

I've sent an e mail saying I'd rather the children were withdrawn and I'd also like to come with my big camera to take my own photos the other parents are welcome to any I take

Nice work, OP - do you feel better now? Feel sorry for your DC with this model of spiteful pettiness as their mother.

Write her a formal email telling her you no longer give permission for her to photograph your children. Ask for an acknowledgement.

Good luck with your big camera OP