BIL & SIL BOOKED THEIR WEDDING 2 MONTHS BEFORE OURS

[wingingitmomma]

Aibu?? My dear sweet mil popped in tonight (which I am surprised about because my daughter was asleep and she would of known that she only usually cares if she gets to see the baby) she stayed for about an hour it was a nice visit although I was kinda pissed because I cleaned the bathroom specially and she never went to the toilet to inspect it (I know how she loves to judge me) Anyway, she so happened to SLIP into the conversation that my OH brother booked their wedding 2 days ago. Great! I love a wedding when have they booked it for then she tells me 2 months before yours! Me and OH have had our wedding booked for a while. They are having a destination wedding 2 months before our freaking wedding our wedding is costing in excess of 10 grand there's no way we can afford this and even if we could we have a young baby who I would not feel happy to take on a plane for 10 hours or leave her for nearly a week which is what they are asking. they got engaged earlier this year after me and OH they have known the date of our wedding for sometime and I feel like they are stealing our thunder and trying to overshadow our big day! Am
I being unreasonable? I feel so put out that they have done this surely they know we can't afford to make their wedding! When Mil told me I had to act really happy for them but inside I was raging!

But this is MN where people love to show off that they got married without any family and friends & finished the day off with a £3 sandwich deal and went back to work

10K really is not going over the top for a wedding!

I spent more than 10 grand and it was 18 years ago! It wasn't a particularly flashy wedding either.

Anyway, I've never read such a dramatic overreaction from all sides. Why your Dad and brother got pulled into it, God only knows! Not to mention the MNers that you abused in your fury. Tell MIL you'll speak when you've all calmed down. And remember, weddings are supposed to be happy occasions.

DD & DS got married 3 months apart - not problem for either of them, bloody expensive for the rest of the family though

Your in laws have behaved outrageously MIL is an evil old hag and BIL and SIL are obviously selfish gits.

Cant believe the comments about the cost of your wedding btw, its your money, spend it on whatever you like!

Hope you have a lovely day, and SIL and MIL take V&D in Mexico

The only person in all this who needs to grow up is MIL, she has been a nasty piece of work and overstepped the line.
After the comments about your Dad and your Brother I wouldn't want to ever speak to her again. Not sure an apology would even scratch the surface.
This comes from someone who hasn't seen or spoke to her MIL in over 20 years after she tried to break up me and Dh ad take over our Ds. Dh stopped all contact and never took Ds there again, I used to work weekends so had no idea till Ds told me where they had been one day (he was 3) and I asked how come he hadn't been to Grandmas house. Dh spilled and told me everything.

YANBU. Your OH and DB sound close so they should have discussed whether it was ok to book their wedding before yours so late in the game. It is courtesy. It wouldn't be so important if the 2 werent brothers. I feel your SIL-to-be was the unreasonable one and booked without proper consultation and your BIL let her get her way.
MIL is ridiculous- no need to speak to her ever again unless she apologises sincerely. Un-invite her to the wedding if apology not given.
Just apologise to BIL. No need to go into further debt for their wedding. Their wedding shouldn't have much of an impact on yours.