Husband is stealing my hobby

[AngelPot81]

I have never really had a hobby or anything I have ever been very good at. Last year I started running and I felt like I had finally found 'my thing'. I'm not particularly good at it but I have been enjoying it. Until that is my OH decided he also wanted to get into running. We are both training to do a half marathon next month, we don't run together (we have young children so have to take it in turns), but my OH has got so into it that it's making me question my own ability. He's so focused on the miles, speed and the food he's eating. He comes in from a run and is all 'that feels good, that was amazing, that was my fasted time yet'.
I run and find every single mile hard, really bloody hard. I have never tried to muscle in on his hobbies, there are quite a few. I feel put out and I just wanted my thing to be my thing. Does anyone understand this or am I being unreasonable?

Grow up

gemmagemma16. Are you having a bad day or something? You seem a bit annoyed.

Sorry, haven't rtft but surely a fit and healthy DH is better than the alternative?

Men get daftly competitive about stuff... there's nothing to say that it doesn't actually hurt when he runs though. I know I've fibbed about how awesome a gym session was when I was dying inside due to partially digested cakes and the resultant extra pounds

Besides, lots of people run. It's really quite common. Just as it's not unusual for men to hit faster running times than women. It's just part of life. Please don't let it discourage you. Whether every step is joy or agony, at least you're doing it!

Sorry not RTFT but this is occasionally my husband. Every now and again he'll decide to join me in a race, do next to no training then kick my arse. I'm over it. I don't care about his times or ability, I enjoy running, I know I'm keeping fit and active and I'm only in competition with myself.
You are only questioning your own ability if you allow yourself to. You aren't running together so you're getting your me time. Savour it, go as fast or as slow as you want and don't let anyone tell you you're better or worse than them because if that's how they think, then that's their issue not yours.
Also, tell him. Tell him how he's making you feel. My husband thinks he's encouraging me....he's really not!

you can get fitter by using a proper training technique, basically do little sprints as you run and progressively sprint for longer and longer over several weeks. you'll get fitter and be able to run faster. also have you got the proper kit, been assessed for the right shoes in a running shop? tried running on an empty stomach etc? Running shouldn't be hard. Men can be fitter than women naturally but you can even things out with technique, equipment etc.

OP, are you DH and is this a reverse?

Or are they all at it?

YANBU. but have a chat. Tell him you don't want it to turn into a big competition. If he carries on, tune him out when he starts talking about times etc.

YANBU I'd refuse to engage with his competitiveness, when comes back boasting just keep repeating 'that's nice' in a bored way and be disinterested. When you go out running don't discuss your run with him just say 'it was good' and change the subject. If he can't get you to compete he might get bored with it.