To not be able to wait for Menopause?

[StewPots]

Ok, so I know that title sounds a bit silly, but at the grand old age of 33, I just want to be done with the whole monthly thing. I know (from my mum and MIL) that menopause is absolutely not a bed of roses, far from it, but PMS ruins my life for at least three weeks a month and I'm truly fed up.

I've been to the GP and there's nothing to recommend (can't take Pill due to family history of DVT , strokes etc). I'm currently on an implant which is the most reliable contraception I've ever had (GP did recommend Coil but risk of getting pregnant a lot higher apparently - I have 2 DCs, 15 & 3 and certainly don't want anymore). I've had AD for issues unrelated but have been free of them for a year and don't feel a need for them anymore (much happier settled life with DH following years in an abusive relationship).

I am just fed up, sick and tired, of the constant acne round my face for at least 3 weeks a month, despite clear skin until my late 20s, trying loads of methods/products/supplements etc, even ABX from GP which didn't work. I'm fed up of this awful blackness that swallows me whole for at least 4 days at a time once a month - proper sobbing fits followed by an absolute feeling of rage. It's exhausting as I need to keep it all in for the family, although poor DH bears the brunt of it.
The stages of undereating/overeating g at different points in my cycle. The absolute exhaustion I feel (like today) for no real reason at all (currently working PT but have night shift tonight- great) which leave me wiped out and drained. The bloating despite a good balanced diet.
I know this sounds very small fry and there are a lot worse things I could behave, but honestly it rules me for at least 3 weeks a month. I have one week where I feel really happy, energised, slim, clear skin etc etc and that's it.
Am I totally BU in thinking although the menopause is a nightmare, it can't be any worse than this for the next 20 years? The hot flushes I can put up with as also once a month at least I get a temperature surge and I spend my days and nights having real sweats (sorry, TMI).
Sorry for the long post and rant, and sorry if I've offended anyone, I'm just really fed up and frankly down about it. I never used to be like this. Thanks for all of you who made it to the end 😌

Oh and I already have a prescription here ready to go for after the op for Tibolone so hoping that will be in my system quickly.

I had appalling periods (11 days out of every 22 or 23, VERY painful) until in my early 40s I got the Mirena coil - unlike most people, it didn't stop the bleeding entirely but it made me have more 'normal' periods and erased the awful pain.

Menopause happened when I was 51. I'm now 63 and still get hot flushes! Not as many as I did for 10 years...

As someone indicated, menopause is different for all women and for many of us, it's the beginning of our bodies deteriorating rapidly and depressingly. Get help in alleviating your periods - don't wish for menopause!

My hot flushes started in 2013 when I was 52. Still having several every day and night. Haven't worn any of my long sleeved tops and dresses for 8 years! Had to get my OH to do all the food shopping since I had a bad hot flush in the supermarket while wearing a mask and nearly fainted- had to sit down on the shop floor for 5 minutes.
When I have a hot flush my back literally drips with sweat, it's disgusting and embarrassing and extremely disempowering in the work place.
Be careful what you wish for!

I get you OP. I’m nearly 42 and just over the whole periods thing, I hate them. I would love a hysterectomy, not sure if I’d be offered; GPS seem to like suggesting the coil instead and I’ve read some awful accounts from women who’ve had it and it’s made symptoms worse and has been painful.

The menopause does not have to be a nightmare - periods become less regular, heavier or lighter, 'spottier' or whatever. Hot flushes are momentary and after it's all over you'll feel so much better.

I rarely take painkillers now (menstrual migraine was terrible) and I'm no longer anaemic - in fact my health has never been better. So hang on in there, there is a light at the end of the tunnel and there have been many medical advances which can make periods easier to cope or lighten the flow. One day they will be a distant memory.

Periods and my cycle will no longer happen from Wednesday as I’m having my womb, cervix and ovaries removed. This has been a process of nearly a year and a half, with lots of discussion between myself, my gynae consult ( I’ve got dodgy cervix cells so am in frequently ) plus my pain management team, and it hasn’t been a light decision. However, with my gynae history, PMS stuff documented with the GP and mental health, and the fact I could time my admissions by a period this was absolutely the best option. I’ve been through a 6 month trial of it thanks to injections, alongside HRT, and didn’t have any problems at all so my gynae consult is hopeful this means the real deal will be a damn sight easier for me than everything my periods and cycle have put me through, especially in the last two years.

At the end of the day, we have to go through it at some point - it’s unavoidable - and this operation will benefit me mentally and physically. I can’t do this for another 10+ years and my consultants agree.