SIL tattoo

[charley3005]

Basically my SIL has met my DD for the first time today as have the rest of DP family due to us living far from them! SIL decided today to announce she is getting a tattoo of my daughters name and something to represent her! AIBU to be really annoyed at this without even being asked?

wouldn't any of you who are disagreeing with me at least ask the mum if that was ok with her?!

No. If my DP's SIL wanted to tattoo my DD's name, it would be odd for her to ask my permission. I don't own her name. It's not subject to copywrite.

Yes but isn't it determined by the relationship Cheerfully? I'm assuming you and your sister are reasonably close.

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So what if she's only just met the baby, she's still her niece.

Having tattoos of family members, is hardly unusual.

Oh well I can see I am in the minority here and will bow out!

it is weird if you aren't close to the mum or kid

It's her brother's stepchild. That's close enough. It's a gesture and a lovely promise of taking her under her wing, one could say.

We are, yes. But there's nothing in the post to say that SIL isn't close to her brother, who's also the child's parent? Physical distance alone isn't an indication, my sister lives 6,000 miles away.

Though it would be slightly weird if the OP's partner isn't the father...

atrocious we're on a different page here

if i want my niece and nephews name tattoes on me doesnt mean i have issues and crossed a boundary

genuinely thinking about having it done now

No, it is her niece. Looked up OPs history, their baby is about 8 weeks.

Well, Gabs, that's lovely A touching gesture.

I just mean if someone you don't know well announces they're going to do this then it's weird. Am assuming you know your n and ns so that's marvellous.

The OP describes something different, something she isn't comfortable with.

Where has the OP said 'step-child'?

As she hasn't been back, I did an AS and the OP has given birth fairly recently, so maybe that's why her DP'S family has only just met the baby?

yes i get that its soon but it doesnt mean shes mad we dont know her

I just think....it's always good to ask.

I know it's everyone's absolute right to tattoo whatever they want on their bodies and I have no problem with tattoos.

This situation isn't about tattoos, it's about someone the OP doesn't know well doing something intrusive and over-familiar.

If someone you don't know well at work decides they want to give you a big cuddle and you don't want them to, because you don't know them that well, doesn't mean you are anti-cuddles - but is purely about boundaries, and being sensitive to others, and not always doing exactly whatever the hell we feel without regards to others.

Just because the OP isn't comfortable, it doesn't make it weird.

Lots of new parents can get possessive/controlling over the weirdest of things...like strangers interacting with their baby on the bus, family members taking photos, grandparents actually wanting to meet their GC before it's a few weeks old.

There's nowt as strange as folk.

I agree with you atrocious 😁

I suspected the child would be young, and wouldn't be years old like Atrocious is suggesting.

Hehe I'm not suggesting the child's age at all...!

How old is the dd?

A few weeks? Months? 15?

Why is she necessarily a stepchild? There is nothing in the OP to indicate age. (although the OP says 'my' not 'our').

Maybe the SiL is going to tattoo the whole next generation on her body as they arrive. What does the OP's DP think?

So Worra, if you had a new baby, and your next door neighbour said oh yeah I'm going to get a tattoo of your baby's face on my lower spine...

...weird, or not?

Buttercupdaisies

if you had a new baby, and your next door neighbour said oh yeah I'm going to get a tattoo of your baby's face on my lower spine...

This is like saying that monkeys are the same as giant squid.

It's more extreme, but on the same scale.

More like a squid, and a giant squid.

Disclaimer: squids don't mind if you tattoo pictures of their squid babies on your bodies because they really aren't aware of it.

I don't understand why SIL is being likened to a work acquaintance or a neighbour. Does the sister of the mother have more rights than the sister of the father? Or are all aunties just random people?