SIL tattoo

[charley3005]

Basically my SIL has met my DD for the first time today as have the rest of DP family due to us living far from them! SIL decided today to announce she is getting a tattoo of my daughters name and something to represent her! AIBU to be really annoyed at this without even being asked?

YABU. She doesn't need to ask you for permission. It's her body and her tattoo, and all it is is a name. A name that probably belongs to countless other people too. Don't be so precious.

She really doesn't need to ask your permission (as weird as it may be).

Atrocious I think your tin foil hat might be a bit too tight on your head.

atrocious what are u on

Weird. She wants your daughters name scarred onto her skin? but it's up to her

So she just met her TODAY? And instantly decided to get a tattoo of her name?

I think she's a twit. But it's not your call.

She met her today. Wants her niece's name tattooed. It's weird, possessive and a little blind to the feelings of others.

That says clearly that the woman's boundaries are askew.

Very strange. I wouldn't like it at all.

OTT much Atrocious?

When you said disturbingly possessive, I thought you were talking about the OP and I would have agreed.

She's the woman's niece, not the Messiah.

Atrocious, a lot of people have quotes tattooed on them by people they've never met or even spoken to. Many have tattoos in memory of people they've never met, or have no memory of (including me). Does that make all of those people disrespectful of "boundaries"? Or does it only apply when it's a family member's name?

But...it's possessive and OTT to have someone's name tattooed on your body: a child you've only just met.

I really believe that someone would have to have questionable boundaries to want to do that immediately and voice it immediately.

So...if you had an acquaintance, and that acquaintance said they were pregnant and they were going to call their child Mabel...and you said oh wow I'm going to have Mabel tattooed on my wris thent...

...would that not be a little weird and disturbing of you?!?

If having names of family members tattooed is the norm for her, then crack on I say... What a lovely welcoming gesture. Your daughter must be very lovely OP :)

it's possessive

It's not. You don't 'own' any part of an individual just because you choose to have their name or image tattooed.

Hmm well if she always has family names tattooed then maybe I can see that it isn't her norm...

But I would still think it was intrusive.

Rubbish

Lots of people have family members names tattooed on them.

It's not something I'd do, but it's certainly something millions of others do all the time.

This is a baby with a wider family, not the OP's personal and private possession.

Atrocious How is that the same?

This is the child's aunt.

*that should say IS her norm

But OP hardly knows the SIL, she has never met the kid before.

Where does it say she hardly knows the SIL? It doesn't.

Also, we don't know how old the child is. It could be 3 weeks old, for all we know.

And it has made OP feel uncomfortable.

I mean, wouldn't any of you who are disagreeing with me at least ask the mum if that was ok with her?!

I thought it implied it in the OP. Live far away, never met the kid..

My sister didn't ask and I probably would have laughed if she did.

Ok for all those who are adamant this is ok, please at least ask your mum friends/relatives if they are ok with you tattooing their kids' names on your body, yeah?

Unless, of course, you don't care how they feel.

I really can't see what the problem is. Your SIL has obviously fallen in love with your DD, which is lovely, plus it's her body that's getting the tattoo.