AIBU to think I've just been put in my place by DS' girlfriend

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DS has been away for a week. His GF texted earlier to ask if she could come round and cook a surprise special meal for them. Obv not a problem and she's a nice girl btw.

She has just asked me if DH, DD and I will be eating before them or after them!!! That kind of tells us to bugger off doesn't it? She's 16 FFS.

I'm going to have to keep on the right side of her aren't I?

Some of you lot are horrible!

You've said yes, so surely you weren't planning on being there whilst they ate?
She's just trying to plan ahead.
If it was me, I'd let her know that you're not planning to go out , but the kitchen will be free before x o'clock and after y o'clock and also that you expect it to be left the way it was found.
Is it planned for the day he gets back? I may have said she could do it the day after as you'd like to be together as a family when he returns.
Start as you mean to go on - don't vacate or they may start to expect you to leave when they want the place to themselves, make sure it's all cleared away or they'll always expect you to clear up after them

Some of you lot are horrible!

Indeed. And obtuse. The text was also sent on Saturday, so the horse has probably bolted anyway.

I find this thread fascinating. My kitchen is just that: mine. It's full of things that are precious to me. Only very trusted people get to play with them!

Why is no one reading the thread? The meal has happened already! On Saturday.

Gosh- what on earth do people think is going to happen to their kitchens if someone else cooks in it? And how on earth do children learn to cook if their mothers are so protective of their appliances?

What the hell is going on here? The OP posted a lighthearted thread, there was no issue, she didn't mind, and it all went well.

Why is everyone jumping on her?

what on earth do people think is going to happen to their kitchens if someone else cooks in it?

Justifiable homicide, I think, BR.

She asked your permission to come around and cook a special meal for the two of them; I would clearly take that to mean that she plans for them to eat alone. You wouldn't want to play goosberry at their romantic reunion, surely?!

I don't see why this is at all rude. I think she is just asking when you plan to eat so that she can make sure she is not in your way when she is cooking.

I would send back a cheery texy saying "We're eating at 6.00pm (or whenever); kitchen's all yours from 6.30pm. We'll keep out of your way in the living room. Have a lovely evening!"

We do these things for those we love, well done, you did the right thing.

what is AIBU?

Yeah OP..... She was only asking what time was best! You were not 'steered' or 'pushed into line!'

ZOMBIE THREAD

I wonder if the OP will be one of those MILs who wonder why their DIL can’t stand them 😆😬

Couldn't be arsed with that. I'd bung her £30 and tell them to go out for a meal

I honestly don’t think she’s being rude just to wants to surprise her boyfriend and not have the trauma of cooking for his entire family! I’d just say don’t worry I’ll make sure we’ve eaten and not get in your way. We have no plans to go out so you can always shout for me if you need any help

Ah, that’s sweet.

I’d take it as her trying not to get under your feet. I’d make plans for them to have some privacy for the meal if at all possible.

ZOMBIE THREAD

This thread is a year old (and was resolved amicably at the time!)

Maybe she wants to avoid the baby photos. I would let her off.

Oh. I thought it might be the OP with an ‘They’ve announced their engagement & want to host a party here’ type update.

No, just some WOMBLE resurrecting ZOMBIE THREADS.

deja vu about this one. Am sure the exact thing was posted before.

I'm having deja vu. I have definitely read this thread before

oops, nevermind! I'm not loosing it, Zombie Thread!

Yes you have read it before, it’s a zombie thread!