MIL and being obese TWO

[YellowBlinds]

original thread

Hi, I know a few people didn't like the title before and I'm sorry for repeating it but I figured it would be the best marker, as its what I used before . Honestly, no offence intended.

Thanks quim...😃

Will "posting the cat" become the new "cancel the cheque"?

MIL needs a hobby

Bushy - really don't think MIL 'hates' yellow, I really don't. I think she is very very lonely and has slowly become obsessed with her. Mil wants to be yellow's bestie

Am sure that, further up the thread, OP said that her MIL had planety of friends and a social life. No need to be lonely...

*plenty

Oh dear OP, doesn't sound like you're getting a break from this behaviour at all! Best of luck to you!

Followed the first thread abs just wishing you good luck for getting this resolved.

You know something - I have no words.

But I will say this; threads like this are common on MN.

DHs with backbone are not. You've got a good one there OP. I'm glad that he's got balls bevuaenif he was umbilically tied to mummy and doormatting then you'd have one option only x

*because if

Thanks for updating and for the new thread. Glad you're ok

The key thing with behaviour like your MIL's is not to react in the moment. You stay calm and deal with things in an adult-to-adult way later on, when it suits you. So I think your DH going over for tea but saying nothing to MIL is not a bad thing, for the reasons Quim gives. At some point though, MIL should face some kind of reckoning.

Brilliant post, Quim

Admittedly the MIL might think that DH's calmness means she's got away with it; or, now he's seen her at it, she might be on tenterhooks about what he'll one day say and hopefully behave better to avoid losing him

The alternative - that he thinks telling her once to leave them alone until she's contacted is all that's needed - doesn't bear thinking about

Placemarking.

I have a similar, less batshit situation going on with my mum that my brother doesn't believe in. I await suggestions for how to deal with her (can't move away)

Well done op for managing to get your work done, good luck with the launch!

Told you Yellow was under seige AND working like a Trojan!

Really thought she would have given in by now! She's got stamina

You have been so calm about it and how you dealt with her. More than I would have been for sure.

I hope you have spoken to your DH about moving. The situation cannot go on and you need a long term solution. He seems a good guy, what were his thoughts on moving?

Glad to hear from you yellow sorry things are so busy at work whilst you have all this going on, hope MIL winds her neck in now!! Agree that it says a lot that she can control herself when DH shows up but then it didn't stop her calling you a bitch in front of him did it!

Don't forget that aside from the weird door banging and ranting, she is showing that she is in fact a lot more mobile than she is making out.
She can't drive due to her ankles, but she can walk to and from yours multiple times a day plus stand for a very long time banging on the door, climb on flower beds etc.

I don't think your dh has been supportive at all. He had the ideal opportunity when he was working from home and he did nothing.

As he doesn't work from home, it doesn't affect him and therefore he has no need to deal with her.

Until it does affect him I don't think this issue will be resolved

I bet she shat herself when her son appeared!

I think a "watch and learn" attitude may be not a bad thing at present, at least for a few days.

Oh Yellow. Sorry to hear she's not apologised at all and is still at it. My future MIL is not far off this and we're moving closer (for work reasons) although not four doors close so am hoping I can deal with her as calmly and collectedly as you have with yours!

Please, no more key. Ever. No matter how well she behaves in order to get it. No "emergency" you could have would be urgent enough to warrant it.

Sending

Very tough..very tough indeed

Hope you've got some work done today...