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MIL and being obese TWO

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YellowBlinds · 24/01/2017 10:16

original thread

Hi, I know a few people didn't like the title before and I'm sorry for repeating it but I figured it would be the best marker, as its what I used before Confused. Honestly, no offence intended.

OP posts:
Mynestisfullofempty · 27/01/2017 10:37

Astro55 "I think she thinks you moved to be her mate"

I don't. After all, the OP has said that she has come downstairs and found that MIL has let herself in and is in the kitchen taking and eating her food. She's not interested in being with the OP, she just likes to have another supply of food. After all, MIL had dinner with her husband and then sat outside the OP's house eating another dinner!

hangingoutthewashing · 27/01/2017 13:28

Marking place

Kskifred · 27/01/2017 14:05

I agree that if you decide to have children this situation would be a nightmare, then you would struggle with a move on top of a small child. Move first so still only 20 minute drive away but too far for her to treat your house like an extension of her own.

FlopIsMyParentingGuru · 27/01/2017 14:20

If she does start appearing when their are viewings, surely a discussion, about how such behaviour will make it more likely that you move further away, would be in order?

Northend77 · 27/01/2017 14:24

Fantastic handling from MrYellow though I find myself feeling rather sorry for him having to speak to his mum like she's the child and effectively train her in how to behave. However, if you both do have children I can see him being an amazing dad and really supportive and capable when the DC play up. Well done to you both and long may the peace continue (and good luck with your work) x

CotswoldStrife · 27/01/2017 14:31

When we were buying our property it was put on the internet even though it wasn't up for sale publically - it got over 100 views in a few days and only one of the many people who asked me about it was actually looking to move house! Lots of people seem to keep an eye on property in their area, I found!

Blondeshavemorefun · 27/01/2017 15:04

Certainly no harm in looking

Somewhere 10/15muns away would ve perfect

Close enough so there is fil I'll but too far for mil to wander there

Mynestisfullofempty · 27/01/2017 16:38

Don't forget that MIL can drive and has a car.

AcrossthePond55 · 27/01/2017 17:59

Don't forget that MIL can drive and has a car.

This is a good thing to bear in mind. DH and I are retired and it's really nothing to us to jump in our car and drive 100 miles to have lunch somewhere. (of course we have great freeways). You need to seriously think about how far away would be too far for her or what roads would make it difficult for her to 'get a notion in her head' and drive over unannounced. And how difficult will it be to turn her away and deal with 'I drove all the way over......' if when she kicks off?

If I were you I'd move forward with 'scouting' areas for prices, jobs, all those things but putting off final decisions unless you find a place that really ticks all your boxes, somewhere you'd like to live even without MiL's visits.

CoraPirbright · 27/01/2017 18:14

How are things OP? Is she behaving herself?

Kskifred · 27/01/2017 19:09

Yes she could easily get to a new address in a car, but the possibility of being turned away after driving x amount of miles I imagine would make her think twice (and we have deduced she is of sound mind) where as now it means absolutely nothing to walk a couple of feet to OPs. They live in such close proximity that MIL is treating OPs home like an extension off her own, that she is free to access all areas. That boundary is naturally taken away with a move. I'm guessing she is constantly peeping out the window at the mo checking who is in/who has gone out etc which wouldn't happen if they moved.

Kskifred · 27/01/2017 19:11

boundary is restored that should say!

Sybis · 27/01/2017 19:51

I'm conflicted.

Sounds like the OP had everything well in hand now, and that'd obviously for the best.

But this was such a good thread Blush

MipMipMip · 28/01/2017 09:04

I think you've summed up how a lot of us feel perfectly Sybis! Delighted things are working out but it's our very own version of Eastenders...

Mix56 · 28/01/2017 09:50

Of couse MIL can drive, she has been playing the infirm card for more attention, driving to shops etc as neighbour said, she was pretty agile while jumping up & down in the flower bed

mummypeepee · 29/01/2017 22:40

Is she behaving OP?

Mum2jenny · 30/01/2017 22:09

I hope Yellow that you have resolved the issues with your mil, to your satisfaction. Else I really would be seriously looking at Rightmove.

Reow · 31/01/2017 09:55

Any news Yellow?

LexieLulu · 31/01/2017 10:28

Would love an update... x

accendo · 31/01/2017 14:05

@YellowBlinds any update?

steppedonlego · 07/02/2017 18:09

Any update op?

LexieLulu · 07/02/2017 18:39

I got very excited when I seen there was a post on this thread! Gutted it wasn't a update

DartmoorDoughnut · 07/02/2017 18:41

Hope all is quiet yellow and mryellow

fj3568 · 07/02/2017 18:42

Miss you yellow

GinIsIn · 08/02/2017 11:27

@yellowblinds Just checking MIL hasn't locked you and DH in the cellar or anything.....

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