She stole my name!

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Ok so I have name changed for this as this is probably going to be very identifying and I don't fancy people working out who am I am then finding all my previous posts. Mainly all the disgusting things I recently admitted to!

I'm pregnant and due February 22nd(!!!). My hormones are all over the place so I really don't know whether I'm over reacting or not. It took me a long time to get pregnant and during this time many of my friends had children and I was genuinely so pleased for them but also (only in private, I hope) incredibly jealous. I say this because I feel like I understand what it's like to want children and not currently have them and therefore I have tried to stay calm.

My DHs sister (my SIL) is in her late 40s and single, having broken up with a long term partner a couple of years ago. After the break-up things were understandably very difficult for her and she moved back in with my ILs. A few weeks ago we asked me what names we were thinking of for our baby as she wanted to do some embroidery and I (stupidly) told her we'd decided on Toby.

Last week I popped over to the ILs and SIL has got a new puppy that she is currently referring to as 'her baby' which I thought was sweet. He's a choc lab and absolutely gorgeous if it matters. However she's called him Tobias which obviously is being shortened to Toby!!

I'm absolutely fuming. At the time I said oh but that's our name for our baby and she did a fucking tinkling laugh and said 'oh but nobody owns a name'. I went home and absolutely bawled my eye out to DH who gave her a ring and tried to explain how we felt. She is refusing to change the dogs name and has passed on a message through our ILs that we graciously doesn't mind if we copy her baby's name but she won't be changing it.

I know nobody owns a name and I know I was so, so stupid to tell her the name early but seriously what the fuck?! Am I being irrational or is this just fucking crazy?!

I'm with Toad on the Wright Stuff, too!

Did anyone else notice just how much Matthew spat when he did his final laugh on the topic?!

It's a dog.
It thinks its name means 'come here for a biscuit'.
Ours is mostly known as SlobberDog, Doggy McDogface or Dogsbreath, despite having a perfectly good and much-wrangled-over name.

The only thing will be, is that people will think that you have named your baby after her dog. Your options would be to start telling people (maybe just family) now what's happened, that that was your chosen name for the baby and sil asked for it to make a gift. Or decide on another name.

God your SIL is a horrible bitch - how spiteful. Tbh if it was me I'd find another name as Toby would be tainted for me now. Do not tell her your choice and give her a wide berth.

When we got married my SIL booked her wedding 3 months before us. We had been quite open about our plans as we were told to coordinate with them given the closeness in dates. Anyway we arrive at the church and she had copied our bridesmaid dresses and colours right down to the last detail (we picked teal dresses with pink shoes so a bit different). I was really hurt by it all - not about the dresses but about the deception of it all and the spite. I felt like they were laughing at me. I remember my mum saying we should just stick with our original colours etc )like many pp's telling you to use the same name) but in the end I changed it all because it took the shine away for me and I didn't want the comparisons to them.

I know that's not the same as a name and is obviously more trivial but I understand how it feels to have the inlaws act out like this! Really angry on your behalf. She is clearly a jealous bitch!

I wouldn't worry - call the dog Toby-dog and tell ds that the dog was named after (or 'for') him.

Ds grows up with a canine familiar/daemon/avatar and tells his friends he can turn into a dog. Great stuff!

Meanwhile will nobody think of the beautiful sampler for Toby the new baby that is being stitched 'back at the ranch' ?

Themed ' Toby, my doggie cousin and me'

Trollspoopglitter Wed 25-Jan-17 10:50:08
I would get a cat and name it after her ex.

any chance someone will tell us what happened on "The Wright Stuff", please?

I don't want to have to go on catch-up and watch that gargoyle-faced wanker the programme if I can help it.

Basically that horrible Yasmin woman made out the OP was being silly. Toadfish from neighbours was actually very nice and thought that SIL was being totally ridiculous/batshit. Gargoyle face was initially with Yasmin but then switched to sit on the fence. He then did lots of spitty strand laughing. Poor camera man.

They actually managed to rack down the Wicked Step-sister SIL?

Blimey! If it was me I'd be too ashamed to admit it.

Thanks for the info Betty

Haha no not the real sister in law I don't think- just a weird ranty woman going off on a tangent

Hope SIL doesn't watch The Wright stuff!

Actually maybe it's good if she does.

What a b*tch your sister in law is. She is one sad individual.
What does your dh think?
What do your in laws think?

Ooops!

Silly me!

Well that's your relationship ruined with sil, and it's all her fault. I'd also hold a grudge against your pils, if they don't publicly tell her how selfish she is being. What have they said? They should be embarrassed for her and very sympathetic to you. If not then thats another relationship screwed forever more.
It's not the name in itself, it's the thinking behind it.

Given you told her your baby's name (for the purpose of the gift) and then she named her dog after it - she actually named the dog after your son.

And I would publicly tell everyone that and thank her for naming her dog after her nephew.

Unless she's willing to make an absolute ass out of herself to others and argue a month from your due date that the baby isn't somehow a person.

Alice in underpants, I got your labyrinth ref, loved that film