Please tell me it's possible to have a teen DD who doesn't post pouting selfies and

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responds to photos of friends' selfies with comments like "gorgeous girlie" "l❤️v u loads"

I have several goddaughters dotted around the country and look at photos on their twitter accounts (only chance I get to see them theses days!) and they're all HD brows, cleavages, knicker skimming dresses and babyish talk.

Now I know I might sound like Great Aunt Prudish but DD becomes a teenager next year and I need stories from MN about teenager girls who are NOT like my godaughters.

We (a couple of people) said you sound smug. Not your daughter.

I've read people really desperate with problems and get totally ripped apart by cowards on keyboards. Everyone is entitled to their opinion but for fucks sake show some kindness!!!

Funny isn't it that you say you 'rarely come on MN, but whenever you do it turns nasty'

I wonder why that might be?

Maybe bitchplopping on a lighthearted thread that everyone else was enjoying could shed some light on why that happens to you.

I'm not smug. I was trying to point out in a few words that it can be hard to be/feel different sometimes.

I never post only started yesterday. Never again!

Yeah, good call.

Please could you translate? what the hell does 'totes goals bae' even mean??!!

Oh I know this one

It's something like "very ideal darling"

Well yeah, don't post, if you're gonna make snide, sexist comments about other people and their kids. Or at least display a bit of resilience when the inevitable response comes.

Well, instead of blaming people for seeing smugness in your post perhaps you should take a look at what you have written and how it came across.

Self-awareness is a good thing. If more than one person read it in a certain way perhaps it came across pretty shitty.

Your dd was admiring actual talented people, unlike those sheeps who watch TOWIE..

The only vileness came from you, when you called us bitter old bitches and our kids sheep. Take a look at yourself.

So high praise and an endearment. I might start using it around here.

My nieces are 15 and 16. One has been selfie mad for years the other just takes pictures of her pets. So yes it is possible not to. The 15 yr old only got on facebook very recently which was her own decision.

It's really quite sad to see some of the sneering on this thread, clearly lots of you have blanked out your own experience of being a teenager. Every generation of teens has it's own fashions and slang words, teens have always been image conscious and always complemented (and judged) each other on their appearance. The way teens act nowadays is no different than you with your crimped hair or bright blue eyeliner or flared jeans or slang words were, the only difference is that they're pouting in front of a camera rather than in front of the mirror. Let them be teenagers.

I love that fire

I've dealt with a suicidal pre-teen, if that helps?

The difference in her this last year swells my heart, because she's better. How long for? Who knows fuck off mental illnesses but I'm going to enjoy her "being a sheep" because ultimately, the majority of us have some degree of sheep in us. It's what society is, you follow your peers and you stick with people you identify with and who understand you. Whether that be Little Mix or PJ Harvey.

Will you marry me briancox?

PJ Harvey has a totally peng pout!

Don't start agreeing with me and stuff, it'll go to my head and I'll crown myself Queen of the Internets.

I'm much more used to either being ignored or told "you're wrong"

And, yes, but only if we have a money-grabbing poem in our wedding invitations.

Well you're doing a stellar job on this thread as the voice of reason.

Yesssss!! And a tacky ice sculpture please

thank you

Mine doesn't. She thinks they look ridiculous. Nor does she do stupid eyebrows or camel eyelashes.

Harrysgirl17 Sat 21-Jan-17 15:31:35
"Well it makes me so cross. My DD is not smug far from it. I'd like to see you deal with a suicidal teen."

I have done.

And I still don't think I would have improved her life by making her look down on other people.

I was bullied myself as a teen. And while I absolutely do not think that was my fault, I also do not think that my attitude of superiority made me a happier person. It certainly did not make me a better one.

Live and let live might not have stopped my bullies, but it would have been far better for me.

Exactly Cory. We should build up our girls - and boys too - to have confidence in themselves, their own opinions and likes and dislikes, no matter what they might be.

Confidence doesn't come from thinking your choices are more worthy or valuable than anyone else's. It comes from not caring either way.

One of my fb friends has two teen dd. She'll often post photos of them with the caption, My World, the photos are of two pouty princesses, proper in your face duck pouts. I squirm inside whenever she reposts these photos.

Yes, we've all done daft things as teenagers but our parents didn't positively encourage it!