Please tell me it's possible to have a teen DD who doesn't post pouting selfies and

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responds to photos of friends' selfies with comments like "gorgeous girlie" "l❤️v u loads"

I have several goddaughters dotted around the country and look at photos on their twitter accounts (only chance I get to see them theses days!) and they're all HD brows, cleavages, knicker skimming dresses and babyish talk.

Now I know I might sound like Great Aunt Prudish but DD becomes a teenager next year and I need stories from MN about teenager girls who are NOT like my godaughters.

I, too, love your take Brian Cox, and this, U2

Thankfully I don't look down on teenagers who go through these stages. I just remember the things I used to do myself and would probably have done if I had FB at that age.

Gentle teasing is one thing, but I think openly mocking teens who do this should be approached with caution...

As a teacher, obviously I don't follow my students on social media, but I do see the gaggles of girls all crowding into the toilets to take selfies or putting their freshly lipglossed pouts on snapchat at break. I don't know what they do in their free time, but from what I can see at school it's only the same few girls who always do it.

I have a 17 yr old who LOVES a selfie & a 13 yr old, who is very much me & refuses to have her photo taken let alone post it on FB.

Why not mock the fish pout?

As an aside just seen a 1970s photo of Fleetwood Mac in my paper. All smiling, no airhead pouts, women in flattering light make up not thick red and black circles. The two women have different hairstyles too.

Times change...

My daughter is 19 and has never done Facebook, Instagram etc.. I think she's on a art site as she is a struggling illustrator. My DD was always different at school, whilst all the girls were watching TOWIE my girl was listening to PJ Harvey and admiring women who were actually talented.

Bully for you you sound like an arse.

I LOVE seeing people's selfies and taking my own. I despise how women have humility forced on them where men don't.

OP I have no advice or experience to share but I hope your DD doesn't turn into one of those pouty preeners!

Yeah, it would be awful wouldn't it? Imagine it, her daughter posting harmless pouting pictures. The shame of raising a child who does that!

I'd be really upset if DD was looking down on other girls and thinking she was better than them because they made different choices, much more upset than if she took pics of herself pouting

My DD was always different at school, whilst all the girls were watching TOWIE my girl was listening to PJ Harvey and admiring women who were actually talented.

My son manages to admire really talented people as well as watching crap on TV and using snap chat filters.

Maybe I'm reading the tone wrong, but there seems to be quite a bit of smugness coming from some people.

My DSD 16 does and it's pretty cringeworthy, but I wore baggy combats, docs, band t shirts and had purple hair at that age!

The pouting and the 'totes goals bae' stuff IS deeply silly but then they are all about 15-16 years old. I was deeply silly then too thanfkfully my silliness isn't documented for all time

The thing I don't get though is the superfluous vowels. Like LOOOOL or Louiseeee or similar, what's that all about?

Lol Kieren

Please could you translate? what the hell does 'totes goals bae' even mean??!!

I am genuinely curious!

I had no idea teenage boys did this too, I find that really sweet in a way.

I think it's a lot more cringey when grown adults repeatedly post selfies for likes etc.

The difference between my dd and my own teenage self is that I saw my quirkiness and odd interests as something special that must be not contaminated by the mundanity and silliness of my contemporaries, whereas to her, her love of Twitter and of Shakespeare and of makeup and of Victorian novels and of silly television programmes is all part of the same thing: it's about enjoying the world and its variety. I think I can tell whose attitude is the more mature...

Blimey, never mind teenagers duck facing. I'm 34 and a fair few of my Facebook friends the same age do this!

I honestly don't know how people can so confidently take so many pictures of themselves so regularly and then upload them all!

My niece does this and she's 30!

Aw. I quite like all the 'look at yourself babe' and 'fittay' posted on pics of perfectly ordinary looking teen girls. I do gently take the piss but kindly. Noone is being horrible.

Dd 14 admires lots of amazing women, she is clever funny and kind. She is also on instagtam with dog ears and flower crowns. She's extremely popular and doesn't criticise anyone.

All the baggy shapeless clothes and pj Harvey type posts are smug as all hell

Crikey. That escalated quickly...

Bitter

Well it makes me so cross. My DD is not smug far from it. I'd like to see you deal with a suicidal teen.

What makes you think I haven't?

Sorry to hear that Harry about your child, Harry. That said, your post was really smug and you suggested anyone who watches a particular to show or takes selfies can't admire anyone with talent as well.

And maybe fuck off with the hostile name calling, since you know how vile that is eh?

Not getting into argument with a total stranger. If you have then I empathise. I rarely come on mumsnet but whenever I do it always, always turns nasty.

You know what. I don't think I or anyone else deserved to be told to fuck off or called a butter old bitch.

I am sorry your daughter was bullied. I know what that is like, watched my son go through it.

However, your post did sound a bit smug, like many other posts here did.

No one said anything about your child, but ours sound like sheep?

Classy.