To not want to date a tory?

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I know you don't have to date anyone you don't want to. But I'm currently dating someone who's told me he's a tory. He's a good person and I like him but I can't really get to grips with his ideologies about things. I'm politically aware but not active iyswim? I'd basically be ending the relationship purely because he's a tory but he's not actually a bad person so I feel a bit ridiculous.

You really find it harder to understand why people support Corbyn than Trump? Bit weird.

Why's that papayas? Not looking for a fight, genuinely curious.

I would only want to be in a relationship with someone if we had shared values and common goals in life. And that pretty much excludes anyone who voted Tory in the last election, unless they had reasons that I haven't thought of.

Couldn't love a tory. Even a handsome one, they have cold souls, I find.

Nice.

If you have kids, OP, will you teach them to make pejorative judgements about the people they encounter who hold different beliefs?

Do you feel 'unable to date' someone of another culture? Nationality? Religion? Skin colour? Vegan?

How sad you are unable to see past someone's personal beliefs to the person inside.

The world already has too many prejudiced bigots like you.

I vote Conservative; my husband is somewhere to the left of Jeremy Corbyn (literally. He's a communist). It works for us. Maybe you're not compatible, but it would be a real shame if you missed out on someone who could have been just right for you because you couldn't see past your political prejudices.

That said, part of the reason it works for us is because we're both very non-argumentative and are happy to just change the subject. If either of you need to discuss politics often, it might not be so easy.

Agree with Somerville I think everything has shifted. Always considered myself centre left but have more in common with pro remain liberal tories than corbynites. The lib dems have been obliterated and not even worth voting labour where we live so genuinely don't know who I would vote for now. The person I most support is obama but quite pointless really!

How very open minded of you . I bet he wouldn't care if you were a Labour voter though.

Myself and dh have different political views. Im more left wing, he is more centre. He has voted conservative but he will vote party who he agrees with most. We dont argue over things and often our views will collide anyway. To be honest i see it no different to the fact I am vegeterian and he is not, I respect he has a right to his own view as I am to mine. If he was racist or prejudice obviosly would be different but to be honest he is willing to admit the torries have some shit policies as do all the other parties. I personally think none of the parties are particularly strong at moment. Even if someone is tory they wont blindly agree with everything. We also have different religious views but never argue over it. Surely its more important to respect that persons right to own opinion. Unless people are outright racist/prejudice do people really put that much onus on political views. All parties would have to be making cuts. It would be interesting to see where each of the parties would make them. I know dh is currently disgusted by the running down of nhs and education system as am I. He is talking about voting differently but then we both agree that before voting you research all sides to see what agree with.

DP has voted Tory. But he voted remain. And seems far more like my liberal views. But in his area it's Tory or labour tbh, and he voted Tory. We discuss politics, we have the same racial views, economic, welfare etc. Tbh his knowledge of the welfare system and council houses etc was limited before he met me. And I'm an active liberal democrat. I'll swing him my way by next election I reckon

YANBU if he is a complete twat Tory. Yabu if he voted Tory but is a reasonable headed kind man, who happens to need reeducating vote as best he thought in last election for the information he had in the area he resides.

However, I would NEVER date a UKIP voter, or a BNP voter (neither would DP) which could constitute my whole last post bollocks tbh

bookwormnerd Stop being so bloody sensible

No, I don't think I could date a Tory/member of UKIP. DP and I have opposing political views on some things, but fundamentally we are similar (liberal, left-wing), same political party (Plaid). If we were both the same it'd be boring, but I couldn't be with someone whose views I find so abhorrent as I do Conservatives/UKIP etc.

Is this thread reminding anyone of Adrian Mole's mum and dad?

OP I dated a Tory years ago. He now spends his life checking into £££ restaurants in FB and changing allegiance to the LibDems because his job depends on Brexit not happening (he voted Tory at the last election, the prick, so he's partially responsible for Brexit in the first place)

This thread is full of mostly left leaning voters that are generalised as more tolerant than tories, making harsh judgements about tories and your boyfriend in general. Whilst talking about being ashamed of their DC grew up Tory. Even if you have an issue about me talking about generalisations about lefties it still doesn't negate the posts are vilifying him more and tories, whilst OPs boyfriend is kind, caring and listens and respects her opinion even though OP says she isn't fully into politics whilst he is probably more informed if his work is with politics.

I voted Tory but voted remain, hate trump, where I've seen labour voters like trump and vote for and want a hard brexit. For the majority of people one vote every few years doesn't actually dictate how they live their lives.

I'd forgotten about Adrian Mole. There's Lucy Mangan (journalist) - she calls him Tory Boy in columns. I'm sure somebody will have mentioned them already.

I hate threads like this. Voting conservative doesn't automatically make me a bad person. I am pro-remain, pro-gay marriage, pro-equality and loathe Trump and UKIP.

But then I also think it's silly to just align to one party automatically

So, we're clearly in for a Labour landslide next time, according to this thread.

I love all the offended Tory voters who can't understand why people would find it hard to be in a relationship with someone who voted to strip the disabled of their rights. Yeah, it's a real mystery.

One party rarely ticks all the boxes for a person so most vote for the one that does so the most.

All parties have their faults, you could make a list for all parties but the dating pool would soon be tiny.

You can date who you like, for me it's more about morals than the tick on the voting form.

I am one of the few Left wing people in my circle of family and friends - I honestly know very few people who vote the same as me (except the whole of Mumsnet it would appear ). There isn't even a Labour candidate to vote for in our local council elections

I have completely opposite political views to my parents, siblings, husband and DS (although he is not old enough to vote).

But I have been married for nearly 30 years - we enjoy a lively debate and our votes obviously cancel each other's out.

I remember dating a hardcore labour activist. The worst 3 months of my life. Luckily, DH is a true blue Tory.

I'm a Tory, and my DH is liberal. At least he isn't labour, but TBH being in a relationship doesn't mean you have to agree on everything. I hate sport, my DH loves it; I hate exercise and the gym, DH loves it; I'm a carnivore, DH is a vegan. If you're going to hold out for someone who has exactly the same likes and dislikes as yourself, you're going to be single for a long, long time.

YANBU

Catch
Certainly. But we don't have to marry the fuckers