What daughter said happened

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First post, please be gentle!
My 5 yr old daughter has told me tonight that 6 boys in year 2 have twice (today and last Friday) cornered her in the playground, pulled her tights and knickers down, and looked and laughed at her girly bits.
This is the first I've heard of something like this and I'm shocked!!!
I know boys will be boys... but seriously?? Also she said she told 2 teachers and the head. But why hasn't anyone told us?
AIBU to think be the school should have contacted me and told me? Reassured me they were aware and dealing with it? Have they told the parents of the boys? Awkward as 3 are pretty good friends of mine.

I've just re-read the OP several times and nowhere can I see that the OP's DD was pinned down. Was it in a subsequent post?

Well done OP, and I am glad the school are now taking this seriously.

I think you've handled it well.

Believed your DD, asked school to investigate and trusted them when they've come back to you. And the fact they've said there are procedures and the HT as out time and effort into responding and calling you I really do think they'll take appropriate action.

Well done OP, sounds like you approached this sensibly.

But please, never, ever use the term 'boys will be boys again'.

Hope everything gets sorted out swiftly and your DD is ok.

Totally unacceptable behaviour and the boys need to be told that in no uncertain terms! Big cuddles to your little girl xx

Ah ok, fine, suburban. Cornering" a younger girl on her own and exposing her is soooo much better

This happened to my DD, she was on the monkey bars and a boy pulled her tights down, she dropped down, pulled her tights up and punched him in the face. While I don't condone violence and had a conversation with school about it they've never done it again.

Ah ok, fine, suburban. Cornering" a younger girl on her own and exposing her is soooo much better hmm

No, sticking to the facts is so much better. Making something up when the OP was perfectly clear about what happened is just irresponsible.

How would anyone here feel if their son was logged on the police systems with a question mark about them being involved in a sexual assault at the age of six?

I would feel I had utterly failed my son in some way, and I would feel desperately sorry for the little girl who had been humiliated and distressed. I would also take any advice/help to ensure that it never, ever happened again.

SaorAlbaGuBrath me too, and I have a son who is in year 2.

HighwayDragon1 sorry to hear this. But we'll done your dd.

It's possible to feel sympathy for the girl and still feel horrified at a 6-7 year-old being labelled a sex offender.

Italiangreyhound I have 2 sons and a daughter and we are raising all of them to respect other people's bodies, and their own. I would be absolutely devastated if one of my sons were to do this.
To be honest, reading what they did to your daughter OP I had concerns about where they got the idea from. It doesn't strike me as "normal" boys behaviour.

No one is talking about a 6 yo being labelled a sex offender. But that kind of behaviour is a red flag to potential problems at home, and they need help. Maybe their parents do as well.

What if those boys have a younger sister?

Similar happened to my dd when she was 5, I arrived at school at pick up was sent straight to heads office where he told me about what had happened and assured me that the boy in question would be punished and parents informed, to be honest at the time I was also a little like " oh dear boys will be boys" etc and head made it clear that wasn't the case and was unacceptable

A few days later my dd came home with a letter of apology from the boy and one from his parents for me.

I'm really surprised your head isn't taking this seriously and I would be very cross and would want to know why they haven't dealt with this

Erm. You weren't there. You don't know what the facts were. You don't know what the "cornering" entailed.

But hey, so long as you correct a stranger on the internet who has misquoted something from 8 pages previously, that's the real point here, right?!

Personally I think it's far more irresponsible to make a blanket assumption that kids cannot have a sexual motivation, as it could minimise a whole host of issues, but there you go.

I'm talking about the facts as detailed by the OP, who incidentally also wasn't there. I sincerely hope you're not suggesting she shouldn't be believed?

SaorAlbaGuBrath you know I was agreeing with. Just waan't clear from my post.

You're just shit-stirring again Rhonda. Thread after thread.

Italiangreyhound I know, I'm sorry if my post came across wrong. I've been doing that a lot today

SuburbanRhonda we are all speculating a bit here but I think /hope we allbhsve the OP and her child's best interests.

I don't think anyone is talking about labelling the boys. But I would like to see the behaviour correctly labelled if it is as described. Which I believe to be the case based on what I've read here.

Stalking is bad form, kitty.

Are you typing from under a bridge, Rhonda?! How else could you make the leap from arguing the toss between "cornering" and "pinning" to disbelieving the OP? Nobody has suggested anywhere that the OP should not be believed.

What happened is horrible and it is certainly not normal behaviour in a typical school day. To say that it cannot possibly be sexual is at best naïve. Sure, perhaps it isn't. But perhaps it is. It should be investigated by those who are in a position to do so, and the appropriate steps should be taken for all children involved. The OP has done exactly the right thing in starting this process and believing her poor DD.

If you think I'm a troll, do please report.

This happened to me at a similar age. Several boys in my class got me in the library corner of our classroom and I let them pull my underwear off and examine me. I was too shy to say no. I've never told anybody until now and have always wondered about it.