To want to never go to the cinema again?

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Every. Single. Time. I go to the cinema, there's at least one person who talks/texts/crunches through the film and generally does their best to ruin it for everyone. I usually feel too hesitant to say anything as they've already proven themselves lunatics who care not for others.

Last night it was LA LA Land. Absolutely brilliant, gorgeous film, ruined by some tosser who decided to loudly tap his foot throughout every musical number. He wasn't even in time.

I love watching films but AIBU to not spend any more money on going out to see them, because no one knows how to behave politely? We have Netflix, Google and Amazon video I suppose...

LadyM I would never take advice from someone that refers to themself in the 3rd person.
Many folk with autism do exactly this. You're missing out on a great deal of good advice there!

Would you go to the cinema if "quiet nights" existed?

Absolutely. But I still bet there'd be some prick checking their phone or some such idiocy.

Nathan, you appear to be a glass half empty person.

Nathan, you appear to be a glass half empty person. Sadly you are right. I wasn't always like this. Just life-experience has made me this way.

I am a joy to be on a flight with as you can imagine.

I love going but understand where you are coming from. I go out and complain if there is a problem, I have done it many times. I rarely get out and I am not letting it be ruined!

One time myself and dh had been looking forward to a film for months, new baby and our first time out, we managed to get the grandparents to babysit.
We sat down, the film was totally out of focus, all their heads were chopped off! Dh told me is was the new way of filming now? I went out and complained, several times and eventually went back out with my coat and told them I was leaving if they didn't fix it.
Your film reel guy came in to the cinema and said "oh shit, I'm really sorry, it's all wrong, will I restart the film?" And dh says no! I was RAGING, I had missed the first 20 minutes, no body else had because they all stayed seated while I went in and out complaining!

(Honestly that "baby" I mentioned above is now 6 and it still makes me mad thinking about it!!!")

Anyway, use keep complaining and hopefully it will show people how to act at the cinema because it's fantastic! I love the place, even the smell of the place makes me happy. Don't give up, just complain more!

Nathan, I'm picturing Jack Dee.

Lady M has explained using her mobile on a dim setting assists with her accessibility. That would not make her a prick.

Many people with disability face daily negative life experiences and challenges and manage not to feel sorry for themselves. Or take it out on other people. Especially those less advantaged for themselves.

It's an admirable skill to take responsibility for ones self and not blame others for their unhappiness.

Defending oneself despite all reason does not always happiness make.

Quite so LadyM, but if the "quiet screenings" were full of Nathans, it probably wouldn't be your cup of tea anyway.

Lady M has explained using her mobile on a dim setting assists with her accessibility Why the need to check your phone at all while at the cinema?

toyd that is quite offensive but only because I am a ladeeee.

I noticed that from an earlier post Nathan, I was picturing a feminine sort of Jack Dee.

So, can I clarify this? If I go to the cinema, and someone else in the audience is behaving like a dick, I shouldn't complain or ask them to stop, just in case they have a disability?

Felix Yes. That is the impression I get.

OK, that's what I gathered. I'll try and remember next time someone starts texting in the middle of a film.

If after reading all that, that's your take away, then no one can help you. You continue on living your self-absoebed, "but what about meee??" life. I wish you the best. But if I'm honest, I wish the SNs and disabled people who come into contact with you better.

So answer the question. What do I do in that situation? Do I not complain? Ever?

No one has said that.

Some have said bear in mind that if someone is being a 'dick', maybe they are not being a 'dick' and have a disability and can't help it.

This came about when a poster on the first page of the thread mentioned how someone with SN's ruined their cinema experience.

Some have said bear in mind that if someone is being a 'dick', maybe they are not being a 'dick' and have a disability and can't help it.

• so what are we supposed to do? Not complain about any antisocial behaviour?

Gosh. Lady m didn't say she was checking her phone. Lady M said it assisted her accessibility.
Lady M doesn't ask everybody in the auditorium is they are ok with this. Lady M just does it.
Lady M does not need to explain herself.
If Lady M causes you minor irritation by doing this, lady m is assured that she is behaving in a reasonable manner and it is the intolerant person who has a problem.
This is quite an assertive vuew by Lady M but Lady M has learnt to be assertive in order so that she can be a full member of society and does not pander to ignorant people.

If you feel you must complain, then by all means complain.

If you see others not complaining, it may well be they are more informed, tolerant and compassionate than yourself.

Lady M is always amazed by those who despite much educating by articulate knowledgeable contributors there will still be posters prepared to believe they are more important and can go on questioning why they must adjust instead of accepting.

Complaining away, as much as you like!

Hopefully cinema staff would have more understanding, if person did have a disability and you could leave with a refund

LadyM, any chance you could explain how your phone helps you?

I'm not sure how to gain such knowledge without just asking.

I can't see very well in the dark so use a small torch held down to climb the steps if it's dark but put it away once in my seat although usually wait till the very end to leave so the lights are on. That's annoying for to people to have to squeeze past me they must be like wtf is she waiting for ,,

Yes of course

Lady M can't always follow what is goiing on. She has her phone set with accessibility functions. In fact iPhones can be the main form of communication and understanding of the world for some people, so wonderful is technology these days.

Some hearing aids and other adapted technology are now actually controlled by apps on phones.

If lady m needs to communicate with lord m, they use the scrollboard function on their phones - it's the most accessible way for Lady M. Lady M isn't going f to divulge any identifying information about her particular disability.

Others may need the limited light from their screen to see their surroundings.

Quite frankly their a myriad ways I. Which many disabilities may affect people in a cinema.

Lady M doesn't fully get the benefit of attending the cinema Emma but she wishes to accompany Lord M who does. Lady M doesn't want to stop at home and miss out on social engagement.

Lady M is frequent inconvenienced in all manner of ways when out and about by this less informed and thoughtful. Lady M does not moan about it, although it can be exhausting and frustrating.

Ah jojoanna the trick is not to give a fuck :D (as I'm sure you already know!)

So, can I clarify this? If I go to the cinema, and someone else in the audience is behaving like a dick, I shouldn't complain or ask them to stop, just in case they have a disability?
That isn't what has been said.

Felix Yes. That is the impression I get.
That's an unfortunate impression, perhaps re-reading some of the posts with a different perspective may help you, for example, pop your head off and put on your 'these people would like to be as fully functioning in society as I am' head and re-read. Approach with kindness and understanding, I am (still) assuming you have such capacity.