Give me the most outright xenophobic bigotry over the mealy-mouthed, complacent, passive 'oh, it'll be okay - don't worry' attitude.
What are you going to do, to make sure it's okay? Bugger all, most likely, except distance yourself from the problem. 'This isn't what Leavers voted for!' This situation has been entirely enabled by the Leave vote.
Why do you assume our current government is capeable of making compassionate, even rational, decisions about this? We have an utterly ineffectual left-wing, and a Conservative party with a proven record of non-compassionate actions, trying not to lose voters to a further-right-wing party.
And why is 'it's just a negotiating ploy' supposed to be a reassuring response? Any government willing to let people hang in limbo about their residency rights, while it (painfully, incompetently) muddles through a protracted negotiation process with no clear plan - this is a shamelessly ruthless and compassion-free course of action.