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Some one at the Home Office hasn't thought this through properly

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liberia03 · 14/01/2017 09:04

Wondering if we could have a compassionate thread about UK mothers being told by they may have to leave the country, despite having brought up families here.
www.theguardian.com/politics/2017/jan/14/dutchwoman-resident-in-uk-for-30-years-may-have-to-leave-after-brexit

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LifeIsAButtefly · 19/01/2017 22:56

My situation... I have been in the UK for over 10 years. DS is 7, I am a single mother as my DP (British) died a couple of years ago. My DS is British (got British passport) and doesn't speak my first language as we have always spoken English at home. I was planning to apply for British citizenship and passed my 'Life in the UK' test, then DP died and other issues took priority. Over the years I was in full and part time jobs, on maternity leave, no work for some months, carer for 2 years and self employed with a small income, no benefits. Never heard about the insurance until last year.
I have applied for PR and now waiting for the outcome, getting stressed...

I have no plans to go back. DS went there only once for holiday last year, as I didn't visit 'my home country' for over 7 years. His home is here, he doesn't know any other...
Will HO tell me to go back and leave DS here???

On a different note...
Even if it causes me a lot of stress and anxiety, I can't help thinking that in 10-15 years UK will be better off outside EU.

Lico · 20/01/2017 10:20

Extraordinary!
Good viewing and gives info.

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** Dear fellow EU citizen,
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On Wednesday, Anne-Laure Donskoy and I (the two co-chairs of the3million) were invited by Parliament to present a series of evidence to the MPs who are members of the Brexit Select Committee.

These questions ranged from the impact of Brexit on EU citizens to the burdensome application process for obtaining Permanent Residence (PR) and our request to have our rights granted unilaterally.

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  1. The rights of EU citizens must be unilaterally granted by the British Government on the basis that the 3 million EU citizens living in the country came in good faith and their suffering caused the current uncertainty must stop.
  1. The PR process must be reformed to allow the registration of every single 3 million EU citizens by the Home Office, including the removal of the requirement for Comprehensive Sickness Insurance (since the access to healthcare through the NHS is sufficient to be interpreted as cover) and discriminations based on non-economic activities (for example, carers who are contributing to society in a social manner). Anne-Laure's five-kilogram partial dossier will be remembered.
  1. Finally, the Government must think of the future status of EU citizens who currently live here and offer them a protection in law to replicate the current protective status they are currently enjoying.

The reactions in our social media channels were very positive and it was a well needed break through for the 3 million EU citizens who have been suffering since the referendum without much interest from the media or the politicians.

A big thank you also to Barbara Drozdowicz and Florina Tudose on behalf of the East European Resource Center and Gareth Horsfall, Christopher Chantry, Sue Wilson and Debbie Williams who also gave evidence on behalf of the British citizens living in Europe. We are fully supportive of your own campaigns to secure your rights.

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This is why we've partnered with New Europeans and UNISON to organise a mass lobby to mark the national day of action One day without us (the3million.us13.list-manage.com/track/click?u=9c20dec826b5110f3a7f5e9bc&id=861c3c415d&e=bb7e8f8777) .

On 20 February, be counted and join the hundreds of EU citizens who will lobby their MP to call the Government to recognise the value of of EU citizens who live here urge the Prime Minister to unilaterally grant our rights of residence.

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TheSmurfsAreHere · 20/01/2017 11:52

Lico
On Wednesday, Anne-Laure Donskoy and I (the two co-chairs of the3million) were invited by Parliament to present a series of evidence to the MPs who are members of the Brexit Select Committee

THANK AND THANKS AGAIN FOR ALL THE WORK YOU ARE DOING HERE.

woman12345 · 20/01/2017 13:42

Flowers thanks Lico and Smurf and the the 3 million

Angelil · 21/01/2017 20:59

Mistigri and Martians I have already begun applying for French citizenship - but I am still scared for what the future holds, especially with Marine Le Pen likely in line for the presidency in 2017. I am also so sad and angry for my British friends who are also married to French men who have either not been married for long enough and/or not resident for long enough to be able to go down the citizenship route.

We do not have children yet but I semi-resent the implication (whether by you, or just governments in general) that I would be prioritised if I did.

Mistigri · 21/01/2017 21:49

We do not have children yet but I semi-resent the implication (whether by you, or just governments in general) that I would be prioritised if I did

Children don't give you additional rights in the naturalisation process (except in some very specific circumstances) but the parent of a French child has a right to a residence permit so that they can remain in France to raise their kid. I'm a bit shocked that anyone would find anything to resent in that Shock.

Good luck with the naturalisation process. We need to start ours now that we have both kids sorted out!

TheSmurfsAreHere · 22/01/2017 10:05

Angeli I think that what has been said is that the immigration system and naturalisation systems are very different in the UK and in mainland Europe.
That's just a fact.
Just as it is a fact that mainland eu countries will not split families.

On the contrary, the uk has no issue to send away a parent whose children or spouse is british.
This is a fact too, that has been proven when the immigration laws changed abut a year ago.

Angelil · 22/01/2017 12:07

I don't resent specifically the notion of keeping families together. Of course not. But equally, people in loving relationships (without children!) are important too.

Mistigri · 22/01/2017 12:35

I don't resent specifically the notion of keeping families together. Of course not. But equally, people in loving relationships (without children!) are important too.

The married partners of French citizens already benefit from a fast track to citizenship.

The right to a resident's card for foreign parents raising children with French nationality is mainly useful where the foreign parent is separated from a French partner (and so has no fast-track access to citizenship), or where both parents are foreign (as is our case - both British with dual nationality "anchor babies").

TheSmurfsAreHere · 22/01/2017 17:25

Compare to the uk, its pretty easy (and much much cheaper!) to get the french citizenship as a partner/wife of a french citizen.

I'm not sure what you resenting? That people are saying its easier on the continent than the UK?
That its easier if you have dcs?

Rules are rules. How can you be resentful of the rules?

However, I hope you agree that splitting a family and the effect it would have on the children is crap. Particularly crap. Because they aren't independent, they havent add an input/responsibility in the situation and certainly cant do anything about it.
As an adult, you have a choice and a freedom that you dont have when children are in the mix. And a lack of responsibility too.

I did that wo children. Moved to two different countries wo a backward glance because I knew that worst coming to the worst, I could fall back on my feet and be back home (even if with a broken heart).
With children? VERY VERY different.

woman12345 · 25/01/2017 17:22

It's wrong, and EU to investigate.
www.theguardian.com/politics/2017/jan/25/plight-of-eu-nationals-seeking-uk-residency-to-be-investigated-brexit-vote
^Plight of EU nationals seeking UK residency to be investigated
Exclusive: Taskforce will assess cases where citizens trying to secure status have hit ‘bureaucratic wall’ since Brexit vote^

woman12345 · 26/01/2017 17:37

The 3 Million
1 hr ·
^The Government's Brexit bill was missing a point. Or rather 3 million points. So we added our own amendment in point 2 to bring decency back into the bill.
Share widely as the lives of EU citizens mustn't be up for negotiations. We are not bargaining chips, we are people!
"2 Exclusion
The rights of residence of EU citizens living in the UK will not be affected and her majesty’s Government will unilaterally grant EU citizens living in the UK the right to remain after the withdrawal from the EU"

On Monday 20 February, we are asking EU and UK citizens to join our mass lobby and ask their MP to guarantee our rights in law before article 50 is triggered. Register for the mass lobby at^

www.the3million.org.uk/masslobby to stand up for our rights.

PigletJohn · 26/01/2017 17:54

here we go

Some one at the Home Office hasn't thought this through properly
woman12345 · 26/01/2017 18:58
Grin
woman12345 · 29/01/2017 22:09

I am going to change gear on this one.

Looking at what Trump has done and looking at what May has done, I think it's time for immigration officials to seriously look to their consciences in what they are now doing in both countries.

These expulsions, deportations, threats, harassment are not administrative or to do with the EU or terrorism, they are political.

Those carrying out this work should down tools, in the interest of humanity in all its senses. Work with their unions to stop this madness.

PigletJohn · 29/01/2017 23:19

Not much chance of that.

There has never been an oppressive regime that collapsed due to a shortage of camp guards, secret police, or torturers.

TheElementsSong · 29/01/2017 23:20

Sadly, PJ speaks the truth Sad

PigletJohn · 29/01/2017 23:28

The nearest collapse I know of was in November 1989, when instructions were misinterpreted and the border guards didn't know what to do. Crowds refused to disperse. Nobody dared machine-gun the crowds or bring out the tanks in case they had it wrong.

Mr Putin was in Berlin at the time and is reported to believe that such force should have been used to destroy the crowds. It is said that he is determined not to allow popular power to triumph again.

PigletJohn · 29/01/2017 23:35

Look at 6.18

They have lost control and don't know what to do.

RubyWinterstorm · 31/01/2017 08:22

To go back to the original question, I actually think the Home Office thought it through very carefully

They want to show Joe public that they understand their concerns about immigration and that they are reducing numbers.

The CSI requirement (5 yrs sickness insurance) is perfect for this: it means carers/sahp's/parents who work part time without 5 yrs sickness insurance (like me) can get turfed out.

The Daily Mail and the Telegraph and Brexiteers will be delighted to hear all this immigrants who "do not financially contribute" and having been using the nhs are being sent away.

Thesersa May also wants to get rid of the human rights law (esp. article 8) she said. The only thing protecting us AFTER Brexit...

It looks to me they thought it through perfectly and are ona mission to reduce immigrant numbers.

The fact that families will be split up (DH and kids are British, we have lived here over 10 years) does not concern Brexiteers/Home Office/Media (honourable exception for the Guardian here)

It's all part of a grand plan to get rid of immigrants. They know EXACTLY what they are doing.

LMGirl · 31/01/2017 08:26

My 4 week old is suffering from colic, well thats what ive been told, im currently giving her colief after infacol didnt work. Struggling to give her the colief at every feed, as im not getting time to express, she wont take it from a spoon and cries when i try and during the day she feeds every 2 hours!! Its a lot of faffing and means we cannot do anything but stay at home. Can anyone help? Thinking about trying them orally during a feed? When her breast milk has lined her throat. Any tips would be a god send!!

woman12345 · 31/01/2017 08:49

There has never been an oppressive regime that collapsed due to a shortage of camp guards, secret police, or torturers.

Look at victories in:
South Africa
Liberia
Chile

The people have the power.

woman12345 · 31/01/2017 09:02

www.parliament.uk/get-involved/contact-your-mp/

Phone your MP today. Tell them what you think.
They are getting worried about triggering A50.
The demonstrations have scared them.

www.parliament.uk/get-involved/contact-your-mp/

Whatstheproblem2 · 06/02/2017 12:22

@Archfarchnad, we weren't married at the time as I was going through a long and complicated divorce, but we had children, and he had always worked since the age of 17. Also, he was working throughout our time living there in a secure, well paid (ish) job: the same job he'd had since 17 (although he'd obviously moved up the ladder a bit by the end).

Whatstheproblem2 · 06/02/2017 12:44

You are also right in that I was referring to others in the same position as I was back then.
I don't know if it would have been different at that time if we were married as it wasn't something we looked into (because we weren't, and IMO that's not a reason to get married; or rather that's the wrong reason to marry).
We were planning to marry eventually, when finances and my martial status allowed.