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AIBU to feel a little annoyed this woman googled my husband?

180 replies

farmerswifey33 · 11/01/2017 20:34

My husband is handsome. I often look at him and wonder what he's doing with a plain Jane like me 🙄 Our whole relationship I've had to deal with other women openly flirting with him.
He never flirts back, he's incredibly awkward around people (men included tbh) he'd much rather be in his tractor or with his herd of cattle 😆 We have a very loving relationship and I trust him 100%
Anyway, we've been happily married 12yrs and have a lovely life with 2 primary aged children. He is very rarely in the playground, I'm a sahm so do all the school stuff. A few of my mummy friends have commented that I have a very handsome husband but I laugh it off and tell them they wouldn't put up with his obsession with all things farming and never being able to go on nice holidays because he won't leave his animals etc.
However, the other day a school mum friend stopped me in the playground and told me she had seen my husband in his tractor and they had waved at him. Then, she said something very odd. Whilst giggling she said she had gone home and googled him then proceeded to tell me what articles he's been in and she found a picture of him in the local paper from 2006. I honestly didn't know what to say. Why the hell is she googling my husband?? Is this normal? I'm guessing it might be but why tell me?
I now feel a bit sick about it. I told dh and he said she was a weirdo!
AIBU to feel a little uneasy? Thinking of keeping my distance with her 😕

OP posts:
Perola · 12/01/2017 18:19

I have a Google alert set to show me if my name is found in any article. It normally just serves to show me that I'm not the only person with my name!

Jaxhog · 12/01/2017 18:22

I google lots of people. Does that make me a super stalker?

Mentioning it about your husband is a bit weird though. A foot in mouth moment I suspect.

Jaxhog · 12/01/2017 18:25

Ah, as someone (almost) said: Beauty fades, but Google is forever.

Theladyloriana · 12/01/2017 18:27

Sorry I don't think it's that weird...

TaylorP1234 · 12/01/2017 18:40

What would prompt you to google someone else's husband then?

EC22 · 12/01/2017 18:52

I google people all the time. I just don't admit it!

FreddieMercuryTheTenth · 12/01/2017 18:59

This is very strange OP.

Maybe she did tell you for a reason, to make you feel threatened, or whatever, however you don't HAVE to feel anyway about it. You don't have to give the weirdo that much control

I am very forthright in most situation and would have definitely told her there and then that I thought it was a fucking weird

KayTee87 · 12/01/2017 19:03

Weird... I only google my own husband Grin

Dinnerout1 · 12/01/2017 19:03

I think she fancies your husband and I would steer clear from her, I think she's taking the piss tbh and I would say to her that you think she's out of order googling him. There can't be any other reason for her to do so.. Weird bitch. I hate anything like that especially giggly immature hurtful cows like her. Don't put yourself down your husband is with you cuz he loves you x

RedNoseRumble · 12/01/2017 19:05

Why would she google him Confused and admit to it Hmm

In the back of this thread I put my name into google and my twitter photo comes up on the first page! Shock

RedNoseRumble · 12/01/2017 19:05

On the back not in! Argh!

Nanna61 · 12/01/2017 19:12

You are a very lucky lady! I would steer clear of her, she sounds like a bit of a bunny boiler!

SherbrookeFosterer · 12/01/2017 19:13

I'm afraid nosy neighbours googling one another is a grim fact of modern life.

Don't worry about it.

RedNoseRumble · 12/01/2017 19:16

When we met 20 odd years ago dp looked very similar to Brock O'hurn! I kid you not! I felt on cloud nine when we started dating! Still feel the same today but have had my share of flirty women folk to deal with.

Might not be everyone's cup of tea but he doesn't half remind me of dp in his hey Day!

AIBU to feel a little annoyed this woman googled my husband?
MycatsaPirate · 12/01/2017 19:16

My DP looks like Idris Elba

Except he's white.

And not as tall

And doesn't have that fucking gorgeous 'come to bed' voice

And he has less hair

But apart from that they are twins.

samcroreaper · 12/01/2017 19:18

Tbh I don't think it's odd to google someone or search on Facebook etc it's something I would do, purely because I'm a nosey sod!! I've done it in the past not because I'm attract to them or anything purely good old fashioned nosiness.

I do think it's incredibly weird to tell the spouse of the person that you've googled them tho Confused

HorridHenryrule · 12/01/2017 19:31

She might be a bunny boiler???

redlittlesquirrel · 12/01/2017 19:38

Linkedin is the worst. There's a "see who has looked at your profile" function on there. I had to delete myself as I'd looked at two of my DH colleagues (one looks like Barbie). She'd then gone and looked at mine. Mortifying.

You can change your settings so it will tell them someone has looked at their profile, but not who. I absolutely hate LinkedIn (though have to use it for work) but I do like that feature!

ineedmorelemonpledge · 12/01/2017 19:38

What a lovely problem - mines pig ugly.

Bloody marvellous. Grin

Isyss · 12/01/2017 19:44

its weird she told you that is one of those things you keep to yourself

dontpokethebear · 12/01/2017 19:47

Someone can tell if you've looked at their LinkedIn profile?! Fuuuuuuck!

RedNoseRumble · 12/01/2017 19:53

Can you only tell if another LinkedIn person has looked at your LinkedIn profile?

scoobyloobyloo · 12/01/2017 19:58

OP - are you South West based?!

roundtable · 12/01/2017 20:00

Maybe her voice just ran away with her and she's at home cringing.

It happens. See if it's a pattern of behaviour before you judge imo.

Earlgreywithmilk · 12/01/2017 20:07

Grin Lol at Brock o'hurn!! Who the f* is Brock o'hurn?!