AIBU to feel a little annoyed this woman googled my husband?

[farmerswifey33]

My husband is handsome. I often look at him and wonder what he's doing with a plain Jane like me 🙄 Our whole relationship I've had to deal with other women openly flirting with him.
He never flirts back, he's incredibly awkward around people (men included tbh) he'd much rather be in his tractor or with his herd of cattle 😆 We have a very loving relationship and I trust him 100%
Anyway, we've been happily married 12yrs and have a lovely life with 2 primary aged children. He is very rarely in the playground, I'm a sahm so do all the school stuff. A few of my mummy friends have commented that I have a very handsome husband but I laugh it off and tell them they wouldn't put up with his obsession with all things farming and never being able to go on nice holidays because he won't leave his animals etc.
However, the other day a school mum friend stopped me in the playground and told me she had seen my husband in his tractor and they had waved at him. Then, she said something very odd. Whilst giggling she said she had gone home and googled him then proceeded to tell me what articles he's been in and she found a picture of him in the local paper from 2006. I honestly didn't know what to say. Why the hell is she googling my husband?? Is this normal? I'm guessing it might be but why tell me?
I now feel a bit sick about it. I told dh and he said she was a weirdo!
AIBU to feel a little uneasy? Thinking of keeping my distance with her 😕

"Think of her as 'weird stalker lady' from now on."

Don't just think of her as 'weird stalker lady'. Refer to her as 'weird stalker lady' ... especially if there are other people around!

If your chatting to friends in the playground, or local shop, or wherever, and she joins the group, give her (and everyone) a beaming smile and say "ooops, it's the 'weird stalker lady' ". Then when she looks taken aback, laugh lightly and sweetly and say to her "sorry, I'm only teasing" then immediately, and again lightly and sweetly say to everyone else "couldn't resist, 'Jane's been googling my husband"!

That should keep her quiet for a while!

I actually think she has a crush, and in the crush delerium she doesn't see your role, hence telling you about her Google.

I Googled my DH like crazy when I first met him. He had written hundreds of articles for university that were all online. I'd die if he knew how much research I'd actually done on him. I still do now sometimes. Facebook youtube instagram it all pops up. I try to keep a low profile

That's weird! To tell you is even weirder!

Maybe she doesnt fancy him and googles everyone. Then thought you might find it interesting there is an article about him from 2006 on the web!

But I might avoid her and if she mentions it again I'd tell her she was being a bit creepy.

Its a bit odd but if there was anything sinister behind it, I doubt she would have told you!

Maybe she's a bit socially awkward. Sometimes I say things jokingly and it comes out like I'm a bit of a weirdo. Perhaps she's sitting at home with her head in her hands waiting for the ground to swallow her up!

That's really weird. Google her name and discuss the results with her.

I think dudsville is spot on.

People are weirdos.

I don't mean to offend your husband but I bet you anything that he's not as good looking as you think he is.

Have oftened listened to friends going on about how good looking their husbands are and I think.......................welllllll

People google people all the time. Perhaps the other parents are curious about your DH because you do all the school runs, etc. imo it's odd that she told you but not odd that she did it.

Nobody's allowed to be good looking on mumsnet.

Agree with Chloe - anyone here saying she's deranged to Google your husband is tripping. Googling/fb nosying about someone is normal these days. It's just not the done thing to admit it.

You have nothing to worry about as such, as your husband is clearly not going to stray - but I think we can conclude that this woman is mad as a sack of ferrets and best avoided.

Who the hell tells people they've been Googling their husband, FFS? What a loon.

The clear jealousy about the attractive husband aside (I know I have traded up so know the feeling OP) I think you have worried too much about this. People do google people, its just the telling you that is a bit weird and I think Loaferloveforyou might be onto something.

I would not be worried OP and you shouldnt be stressing over it.

anyone here saying she's deranged to Google your husband is tripping.

It's not the Googling (although I personally do think randomly Googling someone you've literally just waved to once is odd, frankly) it's more the fact that she proceeded to tell the OP all about it. That is definitely weird.

I too have a handsome/desirable husband who is a lead singer in a band.

I imagine you are feeling a bit of what I do sometimes which is a little disrespected & slightly possessive even though I trust him like you trust your hubby this kind of thing can bring out those feelings & it's OK to feel them.
It's just a bit annoying till have someone trigger this feelings in you.

& it's weird to say to you about googling him but maybe she disengaged her brain for a moment which we've all done.

Think we need pics of the sexy farmer and other sexy hubbies ?!

I think she found your husband intriguing and probably finds you intriguing as well. If she was after your husband she wouldn't have mentioned it.

I second AtHome77

I google nearly everyone I meet. I wouldn't read too much into it if I were you.

I think I've found the article!.. How do I link?

Some women have a "thing" for farmers, it's weird. I've known a few farmers who've had odd stalkers. DH is Irish, 6'4" and handsome. Some of the things his patients owners have said to him over the years are eye watering. He suggested one woman transfer practice after she continually groped his arse at visits to her horse 🙄 I've also been in the surgery when women were flirting with him and commenting on his "lovely hands". Some people are just odd.

Actually Dixie she just might be brazen enough ! I'd keep my distance .She's probably working her way up to inviting herself round .

Hilarious how on earth did you find it ?????