To be fed up of people thinking it is really easy for me to be slim?

[Pomegranatesaremessy]

Yes I am slim but I am fed up of the comments I get around me. People saying it is ok for you, you are slim. You just don't put weight on easily like I do, you can eat what you want etc

Well no I can't eat whatever I want. I am careful and that is the reason I am slim. I rarely eat cakes, unhealthy foods. If I do eat a slice of cake people pressurise me to have more because it doesn't matter apparently.

I feel like I am belittled and I can't know what it is like to be overweight. Well yes I can because I was overweight and lost it all and am determined to keep slim now.

I wouldn't criticise anyone who was overweight to criticise their food choices but people think it is ok to make comments to slim people.

I've been following the MFP thread with interest and alarmed at the amount of junk food people are eating whilst 'trying to lose weight'

Agree with this. People say I can eat whatever I want while they sit and eat junk and then are surprised they don't lose weight!

I remember seeing a BBC horizon documentary where they looked into this and they followed women who thought they had slow and fast metabolisms respectively. They found that people either under or over estimated how many calories they were taking in respectively - the plural of anecdotes isn't data and I certainly can't speak for anyone else, but for me this rang massively true. I genuinely thought I ate loads and had a fast metabolism. I was completely astonished when I started using MFP and found how wildly out I was. I couldn't believe how much I was under eating by.

I'm not the skinny person who takes one biscuit from the packet - I will eat half a packet of digestives easily in one go. So I thought I must have a really fast metabolism. Actually it turns out I eat the biscuits but eat nowhere near enough by way of proper meals. My brain focused on the sugary crap I ate and thought 'well I eat junk so I must be eating loads of calories'. Turns out I was massively far out and I was skinny because I was eating way less than I thought

I was astonished about how much more I had to eat to get 2000 calories a day in. Once I started getting more energy in than I was burning off, I got the weight on. But bloody hell, it was an adjustment. I had to drastically change my eating habits - my perception was so out of kilter with the reality I was truly shocked

As I say this is just my own personal experience and not saying this is true for anyone else. Just amazed me how completely inaccurate my estimation of how much I ate actually was

Sure people over and underestimate, but there are also differences in metabolism. For example "The Functional Significance of Individual Variation in Basal Metabolic Rate" study found that for the same lean body mass, one person had basal metabolic rate 715 calories higher than another. Meaning one can eat 700 more calories. Or the other has to run an extra 10K every day, for both of them to stay the same weight. That's quite a difference.

YANBU. I have been scornfully called a skinny bitch and relatives by aquaintances (not so much in last few years). I was always taken aback as it felt fucking rude. So I understand why the dismissive attitude irritates you.

YANBU!!!
I was a fat child (back in the 80's, although by todays' standards I would probably be "normal"...) I was the fat kid at the back in cross country.
I was slim-ish around 18 due to restricting calorie intake and discovering exercise once it was no longer compulsory!
As an adult I've always been around 10 stone (although I haven't actually weighed myself in months, these days I go off my clothes).
Over the years I have done varying amounts of exercise. I could be 10 stone and blobby or 10 stone and toned. And a completely different shape.
I cannot cannot cannot "diet". Not that I have ever really needed to, but I've tried to be "good" and I can't do it for more than about 20 minutes, I have zero willpower.
I've had one gym membership or another for over 20 years...
These days I run. Quite a lot. Started a couple of years ago. And when I am training I need to eat more. I do eat rubbish, but not all the time. And I burn it off.
I get the same comments as the OP and others...
A friend said something to me about how I would struggle to gain weight... friend from SCHOOL DAYS clearly with limited memory!!! I told her right back, "Oh no, I could be a world champion at weight gain. If I ate everything I really wanted to eat, I'd be absolutely huge. I try to be reasonable about food but mostly I look this shape because I run".
I have said to people who make comments when I'm submerged in a cake "but I'm going for a run later"
I still think I have a huge arse. That fat kid will always be inside me. I think I have laid my running ghosts to rest though.
I'm not great. My diet is quite poor (although healthier than average, it could be MUCH better). But I'm healthy. Ish.

Talith

"YANBU. I have been scornfully called a skinny bitch and relatives by aquaintances (not so much in last few years)."

I've heard that one a few times before. Once I returned to my desk at work to collect my towel before hitting the showers and a colleague said, "Oh you skinny bitch." My sweaty gym outfit is a big CLUE? And I'm not sure how being slim automatically makes me a b*tch.

onlyjustme I like running too and currently preparing for a half marathon!

Thankyou Zeppo

I do agree that it is easier weight wise now im a smaller dress size . I cant wear anything clingy though. Because of the loose skin and slight belly overhang i have left after the weight loss. I have a size 14 (which is my size now) red lace/black lace Per Una dress but because its clingy i cant wear it because its clingy round the belly. Because im an hourglass with a small waist a 1950s flared style suits me better.

My mum gave me the dress. I have no idea what to do with it. Id probably feel guilty for giving it away.

And i did and do excersise People are ignorant though. Ive actually had a couple of people tell me that its possible to excersise off loose skin.

They obvs think that their knowledge gained from reading celebrity rags is better than that of medical professionals.

My life is a constant battle between loving shitty food and wanting to remain slim.

I have been dieting again as I've put on close to a stone since I lost 5 stone about 4 years ago. Tonight I am having a friend over for bread, cheese and wine and I feel guilty as hell, even though I've been strict for two weeks. I know that once I start tonight I will find it hard to stop eating when I'm full.

I am slim but not skinny, I still have a healthy BMI but a stone loss would make me feel much better. I have worked hard to keep 4 stone off and it is not easy to be slim as I hate healthy foods and think of food all the time, no matter what.

My body needs very little calories unless I'm doing 12 hour shifts. I am small and I just don't need much food. It's miserable.

I get treated better being slim

Me too
My "scientific proof" is that I get lots of different busses (change twice on way to work and back on busy route) so I'm not talking about the same few bus drivers:
When at my slimest: I can hand in a £20 for a £2 fare - no problem! ever! I get a smile and a purse full of change
When I'm at my fattest: I can't even pay for a £1.90 fare with a £2 coin without getting a big huff about "don't you have the right change" and then they have a big long huff to make the point that I'm holding everyone up by not having exactly £1.90.
(These are not "exect change" policy routes, when I'm slim I can pay with paper all I like!)

TT I was told by a one of our local taxi drivers that i look much better now im slimmer And he went on saying "cor you were a fair old size wernt you"

Hes got a huge beer belly though.