To be fed up of people thinking it is really easy for me to be slim?

[Pomegranatesaremessy]

Yes I am slim but I am fed up of the comments I get around me. People saying it is ok for you, you are slim. You just don't put weight on easily like I do, you can eat what you want etc

Well no I can't eat whatever I want. I am careful and that is the reason I am slim. I rarely eat cakes, unhealthy foods. If I do eat a slice of cake people pressurise me to have more because it doesn't matter apparently.

I feel like I am belittled and I can't know what it is like to be overweight. Well yes I can because I was overweight and lost it all and am determined to keep slim now.

I wouldn't criticise anyone who was overweight to criticise their food choices but people think it is ok to make comments to slim people.

YANBU at all. I get the same and I really am disciplined about what I eat and I exercise most days- I want to be healthy! It feels amazing, I have so much energy and am happy and productive, I also don't go around sabotaging other people's lifestyles or making judgements! Go me!

I do agree with the point it's not always about making the wrong food choices though, it's not always about eating cake or chocolate, sometimes it's simply portion control, people eat too much in comparison to the energy they expend and need for their height.

I am not naturally slim, I wish I was but I have to work at it.

You said that earlier in the thread, so just say that to them. Simple.

Two of my friends are naturally slim and they hate it because of the put downs, people sometimes don't realize that slim people get shaded as well.

I am slim. People often say, you can eat whatever you want so you're slim.
I've never been overweight and I am used to eating smaller portions so it's easier for me.
I don't care. This is an absolute First World problem. I'd probably be bothered with it if I were so bored I had nothing else to think about. Get over it. Some are slim because they are naturally so, some have to make the effort, some will never get there and some will never want to get there as they are comfy as they are. That's it.

Bluntness100 i agree

Well done for maintaining! I fund that the hardest part of weight loss. I lost 3 stone four years ago and gained it all back again with an extra stone! I am losing again and plan to research how to maintain.
When I was at my lowest weight I got sarcastic comments that I was too skinny, looked awful etc. It was horrible! I was 9st7lb and 5ft 7in so not a particularly low weight. I was just about a size 10.
It really is just jealously though!

There does seem to be a celebrity thing that is thankfully on the wane - of pretending that thinness is down to being lucky and doing a bit of pilates. Oh the number of celeb interviews I've read were someone who's a size 6 claims they eat whatever they want, if they want pizza they'll have it, don't join in any 'faddy' diets, that's all so dull, life's too short, right ladies?!

It's bullshit, for the majority of woman, being below a size 12 requires genuine effort, exercise and portion control (although some will have enough exercise in their normal lifestyle to avoid having to add that in). Very few woman who wear a size 6 are strangers to the feeling of hunger. They just don't give in to snacking/eating crap foods and wait for the next meal.

And it's not easier or easy to stay slim - that's the hard bit - when you are seeing results, when you are 'on a diet' it's relatively easy to stick to, it's then maintaining it for the rest of your life that's the hard part.

I had gallstones many years ago and became very thin before I got to the top of the waiting list to have my gall bladder removed. Someone at work told me to put some weight on, I was offended by it and was tempted to tell her to have a breast reduction.

You remind me of people who get annoyed at being complimented on their nice lifestyle. They want everyone to know they work hard for it.

You know they think it's a positive thing, right? They are not insulting you.

Either suck it up, or tell people you work hard.

I'm with you Op, I work really hard to keep slim it is definitely not some happy chance. On the other hand obesity is extremely complex as This fantastic chart demonstrates.

Best not to comment and stick to the weather. As a slim person you can't win because if we say we are careful it implies anyone overweight is a lazy, greedy person. I tend to just raise my eyebrows and smile.

YANBU. I'm from a tall, slim family and the youngest of twins. Hence, I am lightly built, always have been. I've had a lifetime of 'anorexic/bulimic' bullying and comments and people trying to 'feed me up'.
I eat well, sometimes too much, but work most of it off with nervous energy and exercise. Wasnt until I had my DS, I finally grew some tits and curves-hurrah! I dont care about my size, or anyone elses, because its who you are not what you look like that Im interested in.

On a side note......its blowing a snowy hoolie here!!

I think it is very easy for some people not to get overweight. I don't have a particularly sweet tooth - unless it's something I really fancy I eat puddings to be polite mostly. I don't eat meat which might help, but I happily eat pasta, pizza, cheese, veg and occasionally fish in portion sizes which are far bigger than they 'ought' to be and don't gain weight. It's a lot easier to never buy doughnuts if you don't like doughnuts. No willpower or discipline required. If you don't have that advantage it is a lot harder!

I think age plays a massive part in weight. I was a slim size 10 until I hit my late 30's and the weight crept on very slowly. I wasn't eating any more, I just think my metabolism slowed down. I am now a size 14/16 & I hate it. It is on my mind ALL of the time. I wouldn't have believed this when I was younger but it is true. Not making excuses. This is just my experience.

TheStoic - unfortunately, some people (who are struggling with self control) really take other people's choices as an insult to their own. They see it as the OP not needing to "diet" so her refusal to join in eating the cakes/treat foods is a comment on their choice to eat it.

You see it with people who are annoyed by other people not drinking (unless they have an "acceptable" excuse like driving), it's by chosing to do something different, that's the nominally 'better' choice without 'needing to' that is seen as an insult to their choices.

Plus for some people, they really are annoyed because they're telling themselves "I'll cut out sugar/carbs/fizzy drinks until I'm a size 10" and don't want to face the reality that once a size 10 (or whatever the target is) they'll have to carry on restricting the foods they love but are fattening forever.

I agree Barbara as I also like exercising but sometimes feel I have to play it down. Friends will ask why I’m going again when I’ve been 3 times this week, well because I enjoy going and like the effect it has on my body. I’d never ask the non-gym goers why they haven’t been at least once that week.

As for the OP I get comments like how are you so slim? Look at me, it’s not fair. Well I don’t eat carbs for 6 days of the week, exercise like a demon and have recently cut down on the booze. These things all help!

I could have written this - I also used to be overweight and at no point did anyone say to me - your getting fat but feel it is ok to tell me I am too slim (not at all 5.5 and 9st) and constantly telling me "oh aren't you good but go on you can afford to eat a few cakes" or "oooh salad again, I don't know how you do it".

Unfortunately for me it is not just co-workers but family members also.

I get the same and what annoys me is when people say 'You are lucky, you don't need to watch what you eat'.

But the fact is I'm slim BECAUSE I watch what I eat.

Doh.

My BMI is 19 and my weight is within 4lbs of what it was in my teens more than 40 years ago.

It takes effort and willpower. I DO indulge now and then but on the whole eat a healthy mediterranean diet 85% of the time.

They see it as the OP not needing to "diet" so her refusal to join in eating the cakes/treat foods is a comment on their choice to eat it.

Yes, that is very true. I wish all talk of bodies/weight was banned in the workplace. If not everywhere.

Tinsel, I agree. I eat one meal a day usually. It's usually quite substantial - heaps of veg or salad, and a bit of carbs and protein. I often get comments like "are you going to eat ALL THAT", Ugh! What's that?", "What's that - Rabbit food?". I eat biscuits and cakes occasionally - I'm not that keen and would rather have them as an occasional treat. The comments about what I eat really bugs me though as it is so rude.

I think it's the perfect opportunity to say "I'm slim BECAUSE I watch what I eat. I was overweight, and I lost the weight by eating less and I don't intend to go back. If I can do it, anyone can do it!". If they have raised your weight publicly, you are entitled to push back gently but firmly - but adding a bit of encouragement can really help. (It would not, however, be an appropriate remark to make if someone hadn't already raised it).

I have always been slim, I'm 39 have 3 kids and am a size 8 (5ft and 8 stone). I don't deprive myself of food, I have a big appetite and a sweet tooth. I also have IBS that rears its ugly head if I eat processed food so pretty much all my food is healthy, and that definitely is a major factor in my weight. I don't drink alcohol or soft drinks so no empty calories from those. I exercise a small bit during the week and try to walk when possible (i.e. walk kids to school if dry instead of driving)
I love baking cakes but I wouldn't want to eat cake everyday so I don't binge on it.
It's not rocket science

I have a chronic digestive illness which makes me thin. I hate the oh you're so lucky or the how can you eat that and stay slim. It really upsets me.

evil snowy hoolie here now,

I once told somebody why i am slim they actually glazed over uninterested nobody who says this stuff is actually interested i dont think anyway, they just want your slimness as a stick tobeat themselves with imo which is sad