Aibu to feel worried that I'm 26 and have never had a proper job?

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I fell pregnant with ds during my second year of university, took a year out and then went back and graduated. Before falling pregnant I had intended to go straight on and do a masters in speech and language therapy, but oh and I decided that it would be easier in the long run (and we wanted two together) to do babies now
And start my career once the kids are at
School. I love being a stay at
Home mum but all my friends from school are really getting on with their careers and I'm starting to panic a bit that when they go to school too much time will have passed between graduating and getting a job. Oh says I'm overreacting but I'm really worried... aibu?

We don't own our house

Have you considered apply to care homes, local NHS to be a bank HCA and then work eve and school holidays
Is the Msc near where you live?remember you'll be on placement too
You should do some more study in life science so by 2019 you have recent exp study
What exp does the course ask for
Call admissions Tutor get update on requirements

does a first really count that much?

I think a lot of these posts are just propping up that patriarchal twaddle that motherhood has no value. As someone who has hired (and fired)many times - Id hire a mum over a new graduate any day

Not saying you'll walk straight into a dream job, op - but you will get on the career ladder when you decide it's time. (Presuming trump doesn't get us all blown up in some horrific by lest crossfire first)

Good response OP.

I haven't read everything, but I would say that I think having kids first is a GREAT idea! When they're at school, you can start your career and never have to stop. Your friends might seem to be racing ahead of you now, but in the next 10 years, when they start having kids/maternity/childcare, they will have to take some time out. It all evens out.

Can you use these preschool years to do more training? A masters or anything?

And -- GOOD LUCK!

And bush,you may specifically hire a mother before a new grad.its not universal
Being a mother doesn't make one a better,or more able worker.it doesn't confer magic ability
I have read to my kids,help with hw,help make models.none of this means I'd be a good teacher or better worker than a new qualified graduate in any field
One only has to read mn to see it can be a struggle to get back into work/study after break. It's unrealistic to big up parenting as equivalent to or exceeding work experience

Whatever you do don't go on about play groups and family family when you do apply for jobs, it is the kiss of death to mention that you have young children in connection with a job application. Provided applicants are open and say, when explaining gaps, that they were at home with their children but are now fully available for work I take that at face value when I'm recruiting but if anyone faffs on about transferrable skills etc it puts me right off.

I promise you, when I go to those interviews, I'll be telling everyone that my 9 years in a highly pressurised, very public role, were in no way as challenging, exciting or instructive as my time with the baby.

Please don't say this. You'll bemuse/annoy many interviewers.

I just want to say that the "I can't afford marriage" line is old and silly. We got married in a local registry office, the smallest room they had on a weekday, it cost about £60 hire the room. Marriage isn't expensive, weddings can be, but marriage itself isn't. You can do that and then always have a big wedding party celebration later down the line when you can afford it. I wouldn't be basing my financial security off the good will of someone else, if DP means it he can show that by marriage, then you are protected, it's a small price to pay and any loving partner who means what they say would understand that.

it's utter rot to compare being at home with your own baby to working
Plus if you say that you'll look utterly deluded

The best applicants are usually people in work at the present time doing a similar job, they seem to be more confident and you can be sure their skills are up to date. As a mother myself I think to talk about being a mother as in anyway relevant to or an advantage for most jobs would be ridiculous and would put employers off.

I know it's not the done thing to comment on SPAG on MN but it is ACADEMIC. There's no h OP. I fear if you keep writing it with an h and do so on a masters application you might struggle to be taken seriously.

Obviously I wouldn't try to be like "I've learned to work well and stay calm under pressure from all the times LO does a massive poosplosion when we are already pushing it to get to nursery in time because 3yo has refused to change put of his dinosaur costume and needed
To be bribed with biscuits" but I mean surely it's a legitimate excuse for gaps on your cv?

Thanks for the spelling tip fiyh 👍🏻 I'll be doing my masters app when lo is a little older and I've had more sleep and less coffee.

No one is getting at you,although I guess you feel got at
It's noteworthy Your oh simply won't accomodate your career needs,and youre ok with it?
You have very limited options regard how to get SALT/work experience e.g. Only evening and school hols
You are getting no support from your oh to progress your own career
I don't think being on a toddler group committee counts as masters experience irrespective of how mn sugar coats it
And whilst being a mum to two is demanding it's not a job,and it doesnt count as relevant experience
You're applying for a competitive masters,others will be well qualified & experienced too. You need to get yourself experience and recent study

How is the MSc funded?do you need a student loan

Oh fml. My
Lifestyle choice has made me unemployable, I shouldn't have had babies first. My oh is going to leave me
To a life on benefits and now I've forgotten how to sleep words longer than 'grufallo'

Agree with those who say the parental transferable skills argument can look a bit silly. I can see why people would say it on here but it really isn't the case. I remember reading one post which was talking about how a sahm could evidence delivering under pressure and the suggested example was her children's sats results!!

Yes you explain the gap matter of factly.

Also if anyone asks anything touching on your knowledge of child development, on your ability to multitask or stay calm under pressure, youncan legitimately use knowledge and examples gained from any part of your study,work or life experience.

I'm totally okay with it because he's working so we can provide for our kids, I mean I would change it but I don't think he's being selfish.

Sorry that wasn't in response to your 16.08 post though it looks that way :o not seen any evidence you'd do so, but it's always the advice on these threads.

SLT is nhs bursary, pgce is bursary

I feel I am missing the point. I was travelling or at law school till 26....

You'll be fine! I've never understood the "oh, no one will employ you because you've been a sahm" stuff. I was a sahm for 5 years and had NO issues getting a job when I wanted to go back to work. I applied for 6 jobs and got asked to interview for 5 of them. Obviously if you've taken a break from an already well established career it may be harder to go back too. You may be out of date on stuff/out of touch etc, but in order to start a career or just get a bog standard job, I don't think being a sahm will ever hold you back there.