To be so annoyed with other drivers 'waving' me on

[TheresaVGreen]

I am quite happy to wait until a natural break in traffic to continue with my turning right manoeuvre thank you. I do not need you to come to a complete stop for me (which is dangerous and against the Highway Code), holding up everyone behind you, to then wave me on and get frustrated with me when I don't immediately take you up on your kind 'offer'.

I think I'm almost getting to the point where I am simply not going to move when I am waved on, and wait for the other driver to continue driving.

AIBU to be frustrated with drivers who take the rules into their own hands like this?

How bizarre. Why would you not go?

Though you are making me think about whether I am being quite as lovely as I think when I let people through.

Obviously my life would be much easier if I didn't but I have always felt that it was the right thing to do.

We live and learn.

What I find odd is when the last car in a long line, with a massive gap behind it, does this. It's like they are totally unaware there is nothing behind them and you could go straight after them anyway.

I don't understand why 'offer' is in quotation marks either

OP, you sound like a very pious driver who drives at exactly 28mph in a 30mph. That's probably OK most of the time, but sometimes you need to relax/use initiative/make things safe and efficient.

YANBU OP I get exactly what you mean, and in 90% of cases where this happens to me, it is not safe to do what the other driver is indicating me to do.

Gosh when I read the extensive range of things that annoy people on here I wonder if I should leave the house! I must irritate multiple people every day!

I take this as a polite gesture and appreciate it. Surely the waving/light flashing is just them indicating to you that they're letting you in? Obviously it's still up to you to check that it's safe. I like it when people do this.

Yeah, I just hate it when people are trying to be nice to me

The Highway Code actually states
Rule 151
In slow-moving traffic. You should:
allow access into and from side roads, as blocking these will add to congestion

So it's correct, as long as you don't make any gestures

The problem with this situation is the uncertainty that tot creates:

"Did he just wave me on? "
"Jesus Christ, mun - I just waved her on. Is she going, or what?"
"Oh yes, he did wave me on. Great - I'll go then."
"Oh FFS, she's not bloody moving. I'll just go then."

CRASH!!

And in this instance, it's you that was getting waved on that would be found at fault for the accident. You can't say to an insurance company, "oh, but I thought he was waving me on".

I absolutely can't stand this either! wtf do people do this? It's so bizarre!
When it's their right of way I expect them to keep coming otherwise as you say they hold up loads of traffic. Quite frankly it makes me want to self harm

It's incredible that kind gestures can be something you moan at.

I agree that someone slamming on the breaks on a fast road is silly. Anyone else letting you go is doing a favour, why being offended? It's not their fault that you are not reacting quickly. Sorry, but if you are in your car, you shouldn't be daydreaming but ready to go.

I get slightly annoyed by drivers at a junctions who see me waiting to turn right, but then turn left without pausing to let me go first. It wouldn't delay them to let me go, I am still stuck, but not that annoyed that I start a moan online about it.

Seeline, I didn't mean I was on a side road. I was on a main road, turning right onto another road.

Maid, I'm not a 'pious driver' (whatever one of those is?!) and I certainly don't drive at 28 in a 30. People who do also annoy me!

When I learnt to drive my instructor told me never to trust someone waving you on. Sometimes I take them up on it, sometimes I wait, depending on my view of the traffic.

Quod, this isn't about me being let in. It's about when the car on the opposite side of the road actually stops to let you cross his path. And then gets grumpy with you when you don't immediately take him up on his kind dangerous offer!

Although cars in front of you that brake to let someone in off a side road can also be frustrating at times. Remember folks - you should never do anything that causes the person behind you to Stop, Slow or Swerve!

I don't think that's ever happened to me other than someone wanting to turn right into my road letting me out first, which is fine IMO

Navy please read the thread. The other driver was not letting me out of a junction.

I don't mind too much on ordinary roads. However, I find the current trend for people in the left hand lane of a motorway to slow down and flash at you on the sliproad so you can come on in front of them no matter who is behind them. That drives me blinking crazy. How effing dangerous. The sooner that motorway driving lessons are mandatory the better.

Consider too that the oncoming driver has an excellent view of what's going on around/behind/beside you, whereas you have to specifically check different places at different times.

If s/he is toddling in traffic and can see that the red light behind you has gone green and a big queue of cars is coming up to you, why wouldn't s/he slow a little to let you go, especially if they are going to gain much/any space in front?

ChocolateDoll you have nailed it exactly!

Oh dear Still, are you someone who beeps at people at roundabouts?! Seeing as you know better than other drivers what their perspective is?!