To be so annoyed with other drivers 'waving' me on

[TheresaVGreen]

I am quite happy to wait until a natural break in traffic to continue with my turning right manoeuvre thank you. I do not need you to come to a complete stop for me (which is dangerous and against the Highway Code), holding up everyone behind you, to then wave me on and get frustrated with me when I don't immediately take you up on your kind 'offer'.

I think I'm almost getting to the point where I am simply not going to move when I am waved on, and wait for the other driver to continue driving.

AIBU to be frustrated with drivers who take the rules into their own hands like this?

I totally agree with the OP. Around here (rural) often get people screeching to a halt to either let you turn right out of a junction or turn right into a junction. Oblivious to either the cars behind them having to emergency stop, or the fact that there are no cars behind them! Fair enough in crawling traffic to let people join the crawl and stop the side roads getting blocked up too/ letting people exit the clogged up road, but when traffic is going at normal speeds I agree it is dangerous, against the Highway Code and open to misinterpretation. I also agree with drivers stopping to wave my children across the road when a car could still be coming in the opposite direction . I live on a B road without pavements so teaching them how to be safely on our road, and to cross it is critical. Confusing them is not helpful or safe.

Sorry - typo. I disagree (not agree!) with drivers stopping to let my children cross the road when there is traffic coming in the opposite direction/ no one behind them. They need to learn how to judge traffic speed and to check in both directions - not expect cars to stop and let them across should they step into the road.

I totally agree with the OP. Around here (rural) often get people screeching to a halt to either let you turn right out of a junction or turn right into a junction.

Do they really screen to a halt?

I've lived in inner London and in the countryside. I have never seen anybody screech to a halt unless to avoid an accident.

i was taught in my lessons nine years ago now not to wave someone out-i dont mind it but someone practically done an emrgency stop in front of me once to let someone out which was compltely ridiculous

Do they really screen to a halt?

In my area I've seen this, although it's more often just heavy braking.

But I think it's a stupid thing to do when there's no other car behind you. Drive by and then the other car has all the time to turn in/out of a junction, etc.

Lot of scary rage as opposed to mild annoyance on this thread.

If its at a junction and traffic coming the other way stops you taking advantage of the offer it is a little bemusing I guess.
If I am waiting to turn right into a side street and someone lets me through it's greatly appreciated.
Whichever, I never find it annoying. The only time it annoys me is on the road my parents live. It's reasonably busy and has cars parked on one side outside the houses. I have to cut across oncoming traffic to be able to park outside their house and that's the side cars park on so people generally give way to me coming from the other direction. Then when I signal I am giving way to them they are extremely polite and British and signal back. It turns into a "please, carry on" "no, no, please you carry on" "oh no, not at all, please come through" but then im all like ffs i actually need to pull into the space you are waiting in to give way to me. Come the fuck on ...

However, if i am running late and the person in front of me is casually gesturing every tom dick and harry out in front of them, that gets my rage on

pteradactyl I used to live on a street like that. Often ended up having to make exaggerated gestures to let them know I needed the space they were waiting in.

I hate this too. It happened once and i was waved out and after I was about half way out the car just shot past me. Now I refuse to go and simply wave them on. If there was an accident it would not be your right of way.

Lucklessmonster I think it does count as screeching to a halt if the cars behind have to brake sharply to avoid a collision

As a cyclist I often do this, when there is no traffic behind me, especially when drivers want to turn right.

The ones that really irritate me are those people who wave you out, and then get cross that you don't go straight away, because you need to turn across both lines of traffic and they don't pay attention to the fact that the drivers on the other side aren't minded to let you out

YABU

My Dsis won't ever trust anyone who waves her on, ever since a lorry driver called her on in a right turn and someone appeared from behind the lorry and crashed into her.
She refused to turn right for two years

Not at all unreasonable. I had a man give me the middle finger once because I refused to go when he stopped for me. He was the last in the queue of traffic and made no sense for him to stop. I'd have turned after him, and there was nothing behind me, so I wasn't holding anyone up!

Yeah. I was cycling past a queue of traffic once (completely legally), and someone waved someone else out of a side road. She was turning right, assumed it was safe, exited the junction and drove straight into me. I will never flash someone out unless I can be certain it's completely safe - which is hardly ever. I will however, leave a gap or slow down so people can make their own decisions about the safety of pulling out into traffic.

Yes. Unreasonable. Imagine getting so insensed about this you post on here. Helps keep traffic flowing. You just make sure you drive safely as you always would. I am often grateful and wonder why don't do it more myself. What a thing to get angry about. Don't get you lot at all.

Craigie i think you're on the wrong thread

Coming from London, flashing people out and them responding quickly is often the only way to keep traffic moving. It's normal and courteous in London and London drivers, whilst arrogant and often very rude are pragmatic because of the immediate crap blockage consequences of slow, stupid driving.

Since moving to the burbs, I have found it laughable how everyone plods along in their bubble with no quick thinking and no thought for the greater good of keeping traffic moving. And don't get me started on the slow starts at traffic lights. Sorry, I think I may be an arrogant, rude London driver as I actually feel the buzz and fulfilment whenever I'm back in London for some fast and furious driving . I'm quiet and considerate in other areas of my life though ahem. London driving now feels like therapy to me

I think your past being unreasonable and a bit bonkers. People are trying to be kind to you, it rarely happens to me so for it to be a regular occurrence for you, maybe your a bit incompetent?

She refused to turn right for two years

I can beat that. A woman my mother worked with and held a licence for 40 odd years wouldn't turn right at junctions and planned elaborate routes that involved no roundabouts or right turns.

Since moving to the burbs, I have found it laughable how everyone plods along in their bubble with no quick thinking and no thought for the greater good of keeping traffic moving

I agree, the further you get away from the city centre, the worse the driving gets. Driving in a city you get conditioned to be more aware of your surroundings, the flow of the traffic and other road users. Suburban drivers plying the same old roads sometimes seem to do it on autopilot.

YANBU. I agree at times it can be helpful and when I was driving in London it was almost necessary to keep traffic flowing. But now I live in the burbs and when there is no slow moving queue or traffic would flow just as easily if you didn't "let" someone out it annoys me. It goes against the natural flow of traffic you and everyone else on the road are anticipating. Its particularly annoying when drivers stop to let pedestrians cross the road just when traffic lights have turned green which means every poor sod behind the car that stopped is waiting for another turn of the very slow traffic lights in the centre of my town.

Yep, you are a bit incompetent. That's ok, but please don't get angry about it!

I am pleased if someone waves me across the road and thank them with a smile and a wave back. I think this is more normal.

Drives me totally spare! its a different thing if you're in London and the traffic is slow moving - that's wonderful to be 'given' a slot to move into and feels like a collaborative effort to keep things moving but what happens here where I live is people coming to a halt on the main road to let me come out of a side road - I always feel confused and embarrassed to be the cause of every one coming to a halt behind my 'kind helper' - staying put makes everyone wait even longer .....rewriting the rules of the road to be 'kind' sometimes puts everyone in danger- and, like other people say, I end up feeling bossed about ...fuming....and not helped.