To be so annoyed with other drivers 'waving' me on

[TheresaVGreen]

I am quite happy to wait until a natural break in traffic to continue with my turning right manoeuvre thank you. I do not need you to come to a complete stop for me (which is dangerous and against the Highway Code), holding up everyone behind you, to then wave me on and get frustrated with me when I don't immediately take you up on your kind 'offer'.

I think I'm almost getting to the point where I am simply not going to move when I am waved on, and wait for the other driver to continue driving.

AIBU to be frustrated with drivers who take the rules into their own hands like this?

Shd prob add, the turning part ends the two lane thing, so I only have one lane to turn into.
Like others have said, I fully understand that the intention is the best but I've been waved on too many times when it could have caused an accident. I really don't like it.

I don't think I have ever been told I lack confidence

And oh my goodness evening MNers - please RTT. This is not about being let out, that is an entirely different manoeuvre to the one which vexed me so this morning!

Yabu to be annoyed at people being polite. How bizarre.

When I pull in behind a parked car to let an oncoming car take their right=of=way, it's b.infuriating when the moron decides to flash me to continue. Haven't they realised we'd both get on quicker if they simply continued, instead of waiting for me to change gear, pull out if safe etc? Gritting my teeth and growling, I then feel obliged to give a grateful wave, when I'm actually tempted to use only one or two fingers.
Whoever said uncertainity was dangerous was right.

But, isn't it an instruction? Because once the driver had completely slowed to a stop for me, holding up everyone behind him, I have no option other than to go. He has made my driving decisions for me, and that is wrong.

Why? You want to turn right, you are presumably sitting there indicating that that is your intention and waiting for a gap in the traffic. He creates that gap by stopping and waves to let you know that you can go, i.e. that he does not intend to continue forward at that time. He hasn't made any driving decision for you.

If you're in the wrong lane and indicating that you want to move over into the next traffic lane, and someone stops and lets you in, waving or flashing their lights to let you know - are they making your driving decision for you? Or are they just being considerate?

Someone invariably stops because theyre turning into the road i'm in and waves at me to go. At least half the time there's someone coming around the bend in the adjacent lane and I'd cause an accident if I blindly obeyed.

But it's highly unlikely that they expect you to obey blindly. If I do that, I obviously expect the other driver to take normal care to check for other traffic and pedestrians.

Your a weird one OP you'd happily sit and wait idyling with traffic piling up behind you instead of pulling out of a junction ? It sounds like you shouldn't be on the road tbh .. wonder what other annoying moves you pull whilst on the road

OP will be back in a minute to say that she's not talking about pulling out of a junction, she's talking about turning right off the road she's travelling along. Though I'm not sure why she thinks it's such an important distinction.

If your desire to turn right is causing a tailback on your side of the road and I can safely stop so you can turn, then I will do so.
While all the time thinking how I really get annoyed with thoughtless drivers stopping everyone in a great big queue behind them while they sit and wink purposelessly and seemingly endlessly.

I agree with the OP! When drivers obey the rules of the road, everyone knows who has priority. When one driver chooses to override the rules, it causes uncertainty.

Flashing of headlights has no specific meaning; it merely draws other drivers' attention to the vehicle. It's a way of letting other drivers know that you're there, so it could just as easily mean "get out of my way, I'm coming through" as it could "you go first, I will wait for you."

If you pull out when another driver flashes at you, but they then collide with you, you are in the wrong for pulling out in front of them! To say that they were flashing you is no defence, you chose to pull out when another car was approaching.

While we're on the subject of weird minor traffic annoyances, the thing I hate is when I let someone pull out in front of me (yes, yes I know that's not the situation you're talking about OP), or indeed turn in front of me and they don't wave to acknowledge that. Although I must say this thread is giving me insight into why that might be - maybe far from feeling grateful they're feeling annoyed

OP
YANBU
This is a thread I've considered starting myself. Many times.

This is the weirdest AIBU ever. I let people out of busy junctions all the time. They always wave and look grateful. I never do it when I'm the last in the queue ( what's the point? ) . I never wave them on and then drive anyway and smash into them ( why on earth would anyone do this ) .

Should I stop then and just be one of those people who steadfastly ignores everyone coming out of a side road when they are crawling along in traffic ?

OP so are you one of those wankers people that is creating along in traffic and blocks the junctions stopping people entering the traffic queue? After a, it's YOUR priority, not theirs...

Crawling along, not creating

I let someone turn right today.

they waved to me in thanks.

Drivers stopping in the road and "waving" my children over are MUCH WORSE. Do they really not know how dangerous it is to do that to a kid who doesn't have the same awareness as an adult and might think the driver has taken all dangers/traffic into account. It does my FUCKING HEAD IN! Why don't you just run them over yourself?

What goes around comes around.

Yes, you are unreasonable. Traffic would often go nowhere where i live if people didn't let you out. You should move to Australia. They don't seem to get it.

utterly bonkers.

I don't mind drivers letting me out as long as they don't get all grumpy if I don't (hazard they can't see). I am fervently with Craigie about being against drivers waving children to cross the road. Whilst kind, it is open to being misinterpreted and I don't want my kids to think sometimes it is ok to walk in front of cars if you think the driver has seen you and is waving to you. It is safer to presume they aren't and wait for a safe gap a la Green Cross Code/Tufty. They might lose patience with waiting at just the same time as my dreamy 9 year old finally steps out.

I live in the countryside. On my journey to school I turn right out of a country lane onto a main road. Often card continuously come from one direction. Then, when there's a gap they start coming the other way. I'm always grateful when it's clear one way and someone from the other direction slows and flashes their lights, leaving a gap for me to pull out in. I'd never get to school otherwise.