To do the washing up in diamonds?

[38cody]

Not just in Diamonds but...
When I lost my wedding ring my Great Aunt gifted me a beautiful 14 Diamond eternity style ring, she had it made in the 70's and it's very lovely and looks fab with my engagement ring. I've had it for about a year and wear it every day as a wedding band. It's way nicer than my original.
She's one of those people who give you something but don't quite let go. I took her on holiday and she was tutting because I swim with my rings on, complains to my mother (her sister) that I garden with them on and nearly collapsed when I played in the kids sandpit wearing 'her' diamonds.
Anyway, on boxing day I was doing lots of washing up - I usually dishwash everything but we already had a load in so I handwashed the rest. That evening she noticed that a stone was missing from the ring and she is really really cross and keeps bleating on about how she had it all those years and only wore it occasionally and how upset she is and how nobody ever washes up in a diamond ring and it was bound to happen!
I'll get the stone replaced but I'm not a 'keep for best' kind of person and like to enjoy wearing it daily.
So my question is really - Do you take off your rings (if they have a stone) every time you wash up, bath the kids, go swimming, play in the sand...etc etc and AIBU not to do so?

I've always done chores wearing jewellery.

I would be tempted to get it fixed and give it back as it doesn't seem worth the hassle.

I think it depends on the setting you have on the ring. Platinum is super resistant and if the stones are set properly, they will be safe. In any case, it is useful to have the setting of rings on a regular basis to check that the stones are safe.
I personally rarely take mine off because I think they are safer on me, and as a pp, I am worried I'd leave them somewhere and lose them.

Get it fixed and enjoy wearing it, Simply tell your aunt that you wear it constantly as you love it so much and everyone admires it .

I never take my rings off. I wash up, shower, swim and do everything I normally would with them on. I am also of the opinion that they should be worn as what's the point of spending all that money on them just for them to sit in a jewellery box and if I kept them to only wear for special occasions they would never get worn because we don't go to many fancy places haha.

A small stone fell out of my engagement ring shortly after I had it. Whilst wearing rubber gloves. The shop replaced and reinforced the settings. Since then, I take it off. However, it would be extremely unlikely to lose the diamonds around the main stone again.

I never take mine off. I used to, but not since I had to take apart the plumbing under the kitchen sink to find it one day many years ago. It's set in platinum and going strong since 1987.

My mum lost a lovely ring because she was careful to take it off for baby washing, etc.

Remove only when making pastry. Engagement and eternity. Wedding ring doesn't come off.

In 26 years engagement ring has been made a teeny bit bigger, lost one diamond (insurance claim) and the claws have had a Cpl of minor repairs. Am sure ring would gave been lost years ago if I had been forever taking it off.

Get it fixed and give it back, her breathing down your neck sounds so annoying.

I think you should show her a bit more respect tbh. She has given you something very precious to get and you seem very casual about the fact that you have damaged it after a short time of wearing it in a way that goes against her wishes. I think you should replace the stone, apologise and wear it for best from now on.

It doesn't sound like you took the best care of it TBH - I can see why she might be a bit upset.

Mine has quite a delicate setting, with lots of tiny diamonds around the main stone. It lost stones several times in the first year or so I had it, and now it comes off for anything like showering, washing up, cooking or sleeping.

I have a ring tree in the kitchen, bathroom and bedroom to make sure I don't lose it when I'm not wearing it and as a result it hasn't lost any stones in years now.

I rarely take mine off, I'm terrified I'd loose it if I did.
The comment about water making the diamonds pop out would mean that with the amount of times I wash my hand in a day my rings would be constantly on and off. I'll take my chances.

I put on my wedding/engagement rings after showering and then they come off as soon as I get home. I don't like wearing rings or any jewellery at home, or when swimming/at the beach.

Noticed that it's getting a bit harder to take the rings off now!

A bit of washing up liquid won't cause your diamond to become one loose , it'll be a weak claw which is understandable if it's years old.

I wear a 60 year old sparkler all the time.

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I wear my engagement and wedding rings all the time - they do not come off. My wedding ring is about 50yrs old. No diamonds missing on any of the rings.

Either it's not as well made as she thinks it is or you haven't looked after it very well.

No. Because I'm a single parent and don't own a dishwasher and I'm often stood over the sink washing the pots. I'd be taking them off so often I'd probably forget to keep putting them back on and then stop wearing them altogether.

Moreslack - have you found that the emerald has discoloured at all? I've always worn diamonds in my engagement and eternity rings and they haven't left my fingers for thirty years plus. However I bought myself a big emerald and diamond ring a couple of years ago and was told that the emerald wouldn't survive if I wore it constantly. Is this not the case? I'd like to wear if more, but am afraid of the emerald going cloudy.

Whats the point of having a beautiful ring and then keeping it in your knicker drawer?

She is entirely unreasonable. You don't give someone a gift - no matter how valuable - then dictate how and where and when they use it. You give a gift entirely because you want them to have it. I don't give my DC gifts then shout "keep it for best, you fools" when they play with them. Gifts are to be used and loved and cherished.

I also don't believe in keeping things for best. It's pointless.

My engagement ring is an antique opal and diamond ring, it almost never comes off. I've worn it constantly for nigh on 30 years.

It's a deep stone and setting too so it's had a couple of nasty knocks but has survived so far.

I think your Aunt is one of these precious "keep it for best" types so you are bound to clash if you are not!

A friend of mine who works in a fancy jewellers and has loads of lovely (I.e. Expensive) pieces always says the safest place for a ring is on your finger. I never take mine off! I know I would set it down in a "safe place" and lose it.

I never take off my wedding or engagement rings for anything. I was gifted my Grandmothers ring when I turned 18, and its not of my style at all. I debated wearing it permanently because I would be devastated if I was burgled, as per PP.

On another note, have you checked in the U-bend of the sink for the stone?

My engagement & wedding rings are quite big diamonds. I remove them to shower/swim/wash up etc. I'd be terribly upset to lose them. I also sometimes get irritation under them due to product at work getting trapped as they have the tendency to collect in the back of the ring. It's satisfying to clean them though.
I understand why she feels upset. The way you treat jewellery is obviously different & your way has lost a stone which you seem very casual about. Get it repaired if possible & return it.

I wash up wearing mine all the time, my eternity, engagement and wedding ring all have multiple small stones. Washing up makes them all Shiny again :) I never take them off though and never will, she shouldn't have gifted it to you if she as worried about that.