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To think I got 'spiked'

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MadHattersWineParty · 01/01/2017 11:17

I did what you're not supposed to do.

I picked up an abandoned glass of fizz, and I drank it as I'm flat broke after Christmas, had a Diet Coke at the pub but wanted a fizz and couldn't afford to buy my own it was just sitting there at the bar. Already had a few glasses of wine at home with a meal then popped into our local to see some friends at about 11:30. DP had to carry me home, (his poor back!) I can't remember a thing and apparently was pretty much unconscious and when I did wake up a bit, totally incoherent- I couldn't form any words. He said he had to move all my limbs like a puppet to get me on my side in bed then didn't want to leave me alone so just played on iPad most of the night.

I feel appalling now. Shaky and sick and a racing heart and I've drank loads of water but can't seem to wee

It was the local bit-up-it's-Arse-gastro-pub and I know 'mine-sweeping' a drink is a bit student and scummy and I shouldn't have done it, but I'm starting to think it must have been laced with something and whoever it was bought for thought better of it and left it alone. Total memory blackout from about half an hour after I drank it, and before that I was ever so slightly tipsy but holding a conversation and dancing. Only wanted to stick my head in to see in the New Year.

I'm so stupid aren't I

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LivingInMidnight · 03/01/2017 10:57

Bathsheba the link was a study of 101 people, it's probably not definitive evidence of anything. I doubt many people report it, and I think my ending up in hospital was unusual. It's not, at least in my case, anything like just drinking too much over a night out. I'm sure there are people who do just say their drink was spiked to cover up drinking too much, but the stories I've read on this thread don't sound like that at all. It's a bloody terrifying thing to go through and I don't think that should be minimised.

hanr84 · 03/01/2017 10:59

Yes definitely sounds like the drink was spiked. My husband had his drink spiked when my dd was 10 weeks old or so, he was out with friends and one (who lives miles away) thankfully brought him home. We took him to a&e as it was clear he wasn't himself, more than just drunk, he wasn't focusing on me, was able to understand what I said etc. They inserted a saline drip and that eventually brought him round, he has absolutely no memory of anything that had happened, how he got home etc. Thank goodness you had your dp, I shudder to think what might have happened to my dh if his friend had let him go home alone (which he was apparently claiming he was fine to do!!). He reported to the police and bar x

Procrastinationismybitch · 03/01/2017 11:24

I for one would really like to thank the OP for overcoming her embarrassment at what was, undeniably, a very poor decision and posting about this.

Yes, the thread title was a little misleading but if it was to ensure multiple views and readings (and I'm not necessarily suggesting that) then I believe that could be a good thing.

I'd obviously heard about drink spiking etc but am not especially educated about how quickly it acts etc or the lasting effects as I rarely/never go out much anymore.

However, I will be passing this knowledge onto my son when he's older and to my nieces and nephews as well.

I hope you're feeling better OP and haven't beaten yourself up any more than you already have. We've all made bad decisions at one point or another, it just so happens yours could have been potentially quite dangerous but you clearly realise that.

Thank you for being brave and for raising my awareness of this

UnbornMortificado · 03/01/2017 13:05

No idea on the statistics but I've had something put in my drink.

I don't drink so it was a lemonade had one sip and it tasted off. Not of alcohol but chemically if that makes sense and it was fizzing wrong?

Scary thing was I was in a wetherspoons type place for tea with my 5 year old before we went to the cinema.

I did hand it back to the bar so I don't know if anything came of it. I've heard a few friend mention it happening but wether it's been too much as drink as someone mentioned, I don't know.

I'm in quite a deprived area with quite a bad drug issue if that makes any difference.

driveninsanebythehubby · 03/01/2017 13:07

hanr84 How seriously was your husband taken by the hospital/police? Because from your post it does sound as if they believed him - yet there are countless posts on here where women have not been believed at all! Strikes me that it may well be another situation where sexism is rife - they'll take the attitude that a man knows his own body/reactions etc but a woman probably made it up or just drank too much

I hope I'm wrong, but I suspect that I'm not sadly.

mw63 · 03/01/2017 14:59

Birdsgottafly Mdma is not like ecstasy, it is (or used to be) the main ingredient in ecstasy, the happy loved up huggy drug. Most ecstasy is so cut with rubbish now that it doesn't contain any. Mdma would not have had the reaction the op experienced.

MyNewBearTotoro · 03/01/2017 15:15

Your drink wasn't spiked - you drank something you stole from the side of the bar with no idea what was in it.

My friends and I used to add recreational drugs (mdma & speed mostly) to our drinks when out sometimes as an easy and discreet way to take them. We were aware of the amount we were putting into our drinks and the effect it would have on us but obviously if someone had stolen a drink from us they would have felt spiked.

You were stupid - you have literally no idea what you drank but as it wasn't your drink in the first place there's no way to say whether the contents were added maliciously by someone hoping to 'spike' someone or whether somebody purposefully added stronger alcohol or recreational drugs to their own drink.

Hopefully you've learnt your lesson not to steal other people's drinks.

JorahsMissus · 03/01/2017 15:20

Both my partner and I were spiked by a so called 'friend' on a night out. He didn't like that we didn't want to take drugs with the rest of them so slipped an ecstasy tablet in my drink and 2 in my partners. That was a nice way to arrive home to our newborn! Thankfully my Mum stayed with us that night but what sort of a cunt spikes new parents on their first night out after having a baby?

That was about 15 years ago but we' still haven't spoken to him since.

mw63 · 03/01/2017 16:26

I can't get my head round people drugging there own drinks in a public bar and leaving them unattended to be mineswept.

Armadillostoes · 03/01/2017 16:38

MyNewBear-are you aware that you could have been criminally liable if somebody had taken your drink and died? Whether or not you think that's fair.

OhMrBadger · 03/01/2017 18:35

MadHatters I'm so glad you're feeling better today. What a terrifying thing to have happened.

I can't believe that some posters are still debating whether or not you can legitimately say YOUR drink was spiked or that it is in any way pertinent that you nabbed an abandoned drink!

BoneyBackJefferson · 03/01/2017 18:39

Armadillostoes
MyNewBear-are you aware that you could have been criminally liable if somebody had taken your drink and died?

Genuine question
What would they be criminally liable for?

GloriaGaynor · 03/01/2017 18:45

Fwiw I think it's much more likely that someone added it to their own drink and then either had second thoughts or got waylaid and left the venue.

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MadHattersWineParty · 03/01/2017 19:02

I have no idea why someone would add that to their own drink. Not being able to walk talk or remember anything at all doesn't sound like fun to me.

I don't think it could have been laced with alcohol, I'm sure I would taste it, and DP has known me for long enough through a few booze-fueled nights and he said he's never seen me like that before.

I am duly chastened but I'm sorry, I did let slip a little chuckle that it's on a par with stealing a house....

Some really shocking spiking stories on here. I'm lucky nothing sinister happened...even though it would totally have been my fault if course

Also FWIW I'm a nice person. I always hand in 'abandoned' or lost possessions. It didn't occur to to hand in a drink that no one wanted. No I shouldn't have drank it obviously (I have said that MANY times)

It doesn't mean I have a bloody alcohol problem either, although I suppose by defending myself against that particular accusation means I'm in 'denial'

I got the title wording wrong, not deliberately, just poor for-thought. And I could have lied and said it was my drink but I didn't want to lie! Although then I suppose I would have garnered more sympathy from a few posters but I'd have known it was misplaced so it'd have been pointless.

Can I get down from the prosecution stand now?! (Or whatever it is where you defend yourself!)

Anyway thanks to all the lovely supportive posts

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UnbornMortificado · 03/01/2017 19:11

Get yourself back in the stocks

Gileswithachainsaw · 03/01/2017 19:12

Glad your ok op

I really hope it didn't happen to anyone else that night. Don't care whether it was their drink or not either. No one deserves that.

Soubriquet · 03/01/2017 19:13

Can we tar and feather you first?? Might cheer some people up

GloriaGaynor · 03/01/2017 19:16

It's quite common to add drugs to your own drink - a poster above said she did so herself, for example

Why do people take drugs like ketamine at all (not saying that's what it was). I've no idea.

But I smoked pure, really strong grass once and it had a similar effect, bar the difficulty peeing. I can't remember most of the night. What's fun about that?

OhMrBadger · 03/01/2017 19:29

What's fun about that? this with knobs on!! I'm very risk averse and have only experimented with drugs once. The ensuing experience was so hideously terrifying and the effects so longlasting that I didn't touch even alcohol for years afterwards as I didn't want to ever feel that out of control again.

LivingInMidnight · 03/01/2017 20:16

Wonder what happened to the person the drink initially belonged to. Hope they're ok too. It's only just occurred to me to wonder about it being left in the first place.

GlomOfNit · 04/01/2017 11:12

Glad you're feeling much better OP. What a horrible experience, and obviously you won't do it again. Bloody hell, one small and ill-advised poor decision and some people would wash their hands of her. Some severe lacks of compassion and empathy on this thread. Have none of you EVER done something a bit silly before? If you'd never been spiked before, if you'd not been to pubs where this happened, it's a silly, on-the-spur-of-the-moment decision you might well make.

Regardless of the original intention of the spiker, whether or not it was drugs or just a huge amount of spirits, or whether the OP was being a tiny bit silly, she was really unwell and it could have ended very badly. Saying 'well you stole someone else's drink, so serves you right' is bloody appalling.

Totallybonkersmum · 05/01/2017 17:49

Please, I absolutely beg you to tell the bar. You don't need to admit it was not your drink. This is highly serious; more than people imagine. My son almost died this time last year after having had his drink spiked.
Two policemen who were very worried about him and tried to wake him. He was totally incoherent and his words didn't make any sense whatsoever.
He had slept out all night on some grass. He developed serious hypothermia and had to have emergency treatment. He also has absolutely no recollection of the time after he drank his own drink. He left it on the bar whilst he went to the toilet. He drank it when he returned and has absolutely no memory following that time. None whatsoever. I spoke to the bar, but apparently they have no CCTV in that area, which I find hard to believe.
I won't forget that call in the morning at 06.50am. I literally ran out the house, in my pj's and dressing gown, and drove to the hospital. I was physically fit to drive btw - I was so very focused on getting to him safely, myself.
The memory still brings a chill to my spine. We have no idea if he was abused and it has definitely left him mentally scarred.
That was a year ago, and now he no longer goes to bars or anything. He drinks with his friends at home, instead.
There's still that doubt though, lodged at the back of his mind... I know, and I can see it.
He's totally refused all counselling because he feels so embarrassed and so stupid.
I no longer have a carefree, happy go lucky, no care in the world, son. He's a shell of what he was.

pinkstripeycat · 05/01/2017 17:56

MDMA is illegal and highly dangerous. If my child was using it I would be livid and massively scared for their safety. There were 2,300 deaths from using MDMA in 2015. It can also cause brain damage - nothing magic about that

Totallybonkersmum · 05/01/2017 18:30

I couldn't agree more, pinkstripecat. It's awful to know that there were that many deaths in 2015 from MDMA - 2,300.

I wish they'd hammer it into these kids that it isn't funny to spike someone's drink. Especially if they (could) get into a car and drive it, with passengers. Plus people walking on pavements. I know the police have to see some awful carnage as a result of things like this. Even heads decapitated.
I've also worked as a nurse in a leading London hospital and some of the sights there were horrific.
When my son was growing up, and incredibly accident prone, I used to buy him spinal boards, full face helmets, elbow pads, knee and shin pads, everything. He frequently broke them, too! However, despite their extortionate cost, better that, than a son in a wheelchair or worse. In fact I think he would have ended up in a wheelchair, judging from some of his damaged fullface helmets. All the equipment I brought all had the latest safety requirements too...

ComputerUserNumptyTwit · 05/01/2017 19:21

Without wishing to downplay the dangers of MDMA, according to the ONS there were 57 MDMA related deaths in 2015, compared to 1.2k for heroin or morphine, and 3.7k for all drugs.

This is for England and Wales; assuming that Scotland and NI don't make up the extra 2,343 ecstasy deaths in the UK those figures are a little out, pink

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