Sharing inheritance

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NC. Curious about this one.

My great aunt has left me about large sum of money.

She has 8 great nieces and nephews - i am the only great niece. My family (not my parents, they are going to split equally) are very much “money is left to males” only. My cousins hadn’t seen her in the ten (fifteen years for some) years before she died. I visited every time I could, helped with the house and went on holiday together twice a year, plus had her stay in London twice a year for a couple of days each time.

I didn't know anything about the money, or that she had that much. Apparently she spoke to my brother about it (he's an executor to the will) and my parents have known for years but didn't tell me incase she changed her mind.

My aunt has gone ape shite and wants me to share the money with her two boys (well all of them, but says it's unfair on her two boys). My brother has told me not to be a dick because her two boys both received 60,000 when my granddad died (they all did) and i received sweet FA. At that time there was no mention of any of them splitting the money with me. All the boys will receive the house and my nana’s savings when she dies.

What would you do?

She left it you for a reason. You had a close relationship with her. Your aunt has sour grapes,
Tell the aunt to fuck off.

Andrew, If it was obvious the aunt had money, you can be sure the males were expecting a sizeable inheritance, as leaving money to the men in the family seems to be considered the norm. It also doesn't change the fact they gave fuck all to the only female cousin. They've reaped what they've sown.

Raspberry The mother might kick off before her sons knew.

PovertyPain If the sons were expecting money so what? If they have swallowed their disappointment and not kicked off to the OP, well, fair play to them. If their relations (female or male and including their mother) have led them to expect to inherit, that's not their fault, is it?

I think she would be very upset if she thought that you would share it. If she'd wanted them to have some, she'd have said so. Please don't disrespect her wishes. She deserves to have her wishes honoured correctly.

Do it for her sake, if not your own.

I guess the mother could have kicked off before the cousins knew, but I'd bet they know by now. People kicking off about "unfairness" tend not to be quiet about it.

There is a government page "Find a Will" that for a small fee (£10?) will give you access to the will.

I am not sure whether you see all the content as the only experience I have of viewing it was for a death without a will involving probate. In my particular case I was able to view the value of the "inheritable estate"

Keep your inheritance, look after your brother by all means. You are a good person and it sounds like your Aunt is trying to take advantage of your good nature.

Raspberry Yes by now they probably know. But we are not told that they have agreed with their mother in kicking off. Some people, male as well as female, don't do that. Thirty odd years a go a rellie of my mother died leaving a shedload (half a million after tax, and that was more than than it is now) to a non-relation and if my mother resented it I never heard her say a word about it. And I never felt any resentment either.

You were left the money so keep it. They wouldn't be in a rush to share with you if it was the other way round. Strange how people only dispute wills when they are unfavourable towards them. Take no notice and enjoy your inheritance.

Seems to be pretty unanimous. Why should you share, did anyone kick off when The others didn't share with you? No.

Tell you aunt to piss off and tell her why.

A) your Great Aunt was fantastic.
B) brilliant to hear that your male relatives, who did not share with you, have reaped what they sow.
C) your brother is pretty fantastic too.

Regardless of other inheritance in the past, this was HER will and she wanted you to have it - probably because you had a relationship with her!!

It's no one else's place to correct her will and say it was wrong. She made a will to express what she wanted and she has done so.

Ignore your aunt. You can bring up your grandfathers will if a conversation warrants it, but at the end of the day her last will and testament is final and it's not your place or your aunts to 'correct' it.

Keep it! Your great aunty sounds lovely.