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Sharing inheritance

162 replies

NaughtyNC · 31/12/2016 20:00

NC. Curious about this one.

My great aunt has left me about large sum of money.

She has 8 great nieces and nephews - i am the only great niece. My family (not my parents, they are going to split equally) are very much “money is left to males” only. My cousins hadn’t seen her in the ten (fifteen years for some) years before she died. I visited every time I could, helped with the house and went on holiday together twice a year, plus had her stay in London twice a year for a couple of days each time.

I didn't know anything about the money, or that she had that much. Apparently she spoke to my brother about it (he's an executor to the will) and my parents have known for years but didn't tell me incase she changed her mind.

My aunt has gone ape shite and wants me to share the money with her two boys (well all of them, but says it's unfair on her two boys). My brother has told me not to be a dick because her two boys both received 60,000 when my granddad died (they all did) and i received sweet FA. At that time there was no mention of any of them splitting the money with me. All the boys will receive the house and my nana’s savings when she dies.

What would you do?

OP posts:
Grilledaubergines · 31/12/2016 20:23

It's yours OP.

Remind them "you reap what you sow".

DonutParade · 31/12/2016 20:24

Keep it. That's what she wanted.

kilmuir · 31/12/2016 20:25

She doesn't get a say. Don't be bullied
It was your Great Aunts wishes.
I bet the nephews wouldn't be sharing if you were left out.

WatchingFromTheWings · 31/12/2016 20:25

Tell her to go fuck herself.

^This! With bells on! 🔔

Hercules12 · 31/12/2016 20:26

I don't see how you have a choice
Her intention was the money gout to you not to others. Morally you'd be wrong to go against her wishes and send her money the way she didn't want it to go. Keep it with a clear conscience.

eddielizzard · 31/12/2016 20:27

your great aunt wanted you to have it. if she'd wanted your cousins to have it she'd have left it to them.

your aunt is behaving in an inappropriate manner.

ConvincingLiar · 31/12/2016 20:28

Respect an old lady's wishes. Keep the money. Perhaps she was trying to compensate for the inheritance you'd missed previously.

Enkopkaffetak · 31/12/2016 20:28

Another one who says keep it. If aunt says anything further simply say you do not wish to go against great aunts wishes.

Fartleks · 31/12/2016 20:29

Keep it as she left it to you. That's what she wanted.

Hellmouth · 31/12/2016 20:29

Keep the money, don't let her guilt you into giving it away.

FurryLittleTwerp · 31/12/2016 20:30

Well perhaps if they'd been caring towards DGA in the way you clearly were, then they'd've inherited something too.

Tough titty.

Fartleks · 31/12/2016 20:31

Your aunts and parents can do what ever they like when it comes to writing their own wills. Your great aunt wanted you to have the cash though.

S1lentAllTheseYears · 31/12/2016 20:31

Keep every penny.

She wanted you to have it and with good reason.

RainbowJack · 31/12/2016 20:32

Tell her to go fuck herself

Yip.

Listen to your brother. He's talking sense whilst your aunt is talking out of her grabby backside.

FurryLittleTwerp · 31/12/2016 20:35

Your brother is being very reasonable, considering he must be one of the great-nephews. You might consider treating him to something.

AntiHop · 31/12/2016 20:35

Oh my god keep it! No question.

MrsSchadenfreude · 31/12/2016 20:36

Yes, absolutely, tell her to go fuck herself, and ask her why she wasn't concerned about inheritances being unfair when her two sons were left money by your grandfather and you got nothing. I hope what you have been left is considerably more than they got. Enjoy spending it, she left it to you for a reason.

eddielizzard · 31/12/2016 20:40

tell her that her sense of past fairness with other family inheritances is what guides you now Grin

Redsrule · 31/12/2016 20:42

Keep it, you need to respect your GA's wishes, she probably had a lifetime of being treated as 'inferior' because she was female and wanted to redress the balance.

BattleaxeGalactica · 31/12/2016 20:42

Your aunt can leave her estate where she likes. Just as your great aunt has done. Keep the cash and enjoy it as she intended.

expatinscotland · 31/12/2016 20:44

Oh, fuck her off. Keep the money.

Marley45 · 31/12/2016 20:45

She wanted you to have the money, please don't feel you have to split it!

Teddy1970 · 31/12/2016 20:46

Echoing what everyone else has said, and don't let her guilt trip you in to changing your mind, it's your money now...

Liara · 31/12/2016 20:47

I am gobsmacked that no one batted an eyelid when you were cut out of your gf's inheritance and at the expectation that you will be cut out of your grandmother's!

Clearly so was your great aunt. Perhaps your gm will now sit up and take notice.

Trooperslane · 31/12/2016 20:50

Fuck that.