AIBU to get annoyed when people turn up at the door unannounced (including family)?

[Itsacakebaby]

What are your views on this? You then feel obliged to let them in (interrupting my plans!!). It irritatates me alot. I just think it's damn right rude but my OH says I should "chill out" and be more relaxed about it - easier said then done.

[CheerfulYank]

Hate it. But given 20 minutes to throw on a bra and hide the worst of the clutter, I love it. :o

I used to think I'd be okay with it if my house were super neat all the time and I got dressed early but now I think I still wouldn't like it. I do like having chats outside in the spring and summer though. I sit on the stoop and watch the DC playing out and neighbors stroll by and stop and talk for a bit.

[Mindtrope]

Alison- my time isn't "strretchy".
My days are hectic.

[Trifleorbust]

Depends who it is for me too

[BananaThePoet]

In the olden days when I had a nice big house I was able to keep one room 'nice' for visitors and I wasn't too bothered about unexpected visitors.

These days I live in the equivalent of a teacher's store cupboard with attached galley kitchen and bedrooms and bathroom upstairs.

Visitors need a deal of preparation beforehand because living in the tiny store cupboard is like Tetris combined with chess and I always need to be thinking four moves ahead.

Luckily I am very anti-social so the need rarely/if ever arises.

I do think it is inconsiderate not to give some warning but the option is always there not to answer the door. I would say no-warning visitors cannot complain if they get no answer even if they can see there is someone in.

[Craigie]

He's wrong, you're right, it's totally fucking rude. Don't answer the door.

[ridingsixwhitehorses]

I am not fine with totally unannounced but am fine with texting half hour before to see if we are in and also they must bring biscuits or something if they expect some with tea as I won't dash out to shop or quickly make some if I have none in.

[OrlandoTheMarmaladeCat]

I work from home and dropper-inners are a PITA as they don't seem to understand that I am working just the same as anyone else, my workplace just happens to be my home. I have been known to hide out of sight sometimes so I can carry on uninterrupted. And I love people and am a social bird at heart, but my work time is my work time.

[Shona52]

I have an open door policy that friends and family can just pop in anytime, but if they haven't checked before hand and I have plans I don't cancel them just say sorry see you another time

[Realjournal123]

My dearest mum used to call them 'callers'. I think years ago it was acceptable when people lived in streets and everyone knew everyone else. These days it's not the case as we all have busier lives and plans laid out for the day. I can't stand it. I always feel like they do it deliberately to catch you out.

[Alleycat1]

Hate it! I wouldn't even drop in on my sister without checking first. I have one husband and wife who just cannot take the hint and completely ruined a bridge evening and also Boxing Day once.

[strawberrisc]

I hate it with every fibre of my being. My home is my castle - I just wish I could fire arrows from the turrets at people turning up unannounced.

[Daydream007]

I agree it is totally inconsiderate and rude. I hated it when I'd just given birth and distant relatives just turned up unannounced when I was exhausted.

[SooBee61]

We're British, we don't do 'popper inners'!

[user1473008242]

People should be grateful that people pop in to see you there's plenty people that has no one pop in to see them at all

[SheFeedsYouTeaAndOranges]

user That is the worst type of argument for anything.

[Mindtrope]

What rubbish user.

Am I to make myself available to anyone who wants my company and I should be grateful for it?

Surprise visits are not welcome in my home.

[louisejxxx]

No dropper-inners here. If the door gets knocked and I'm not expecting someone then it usually just gets ignored!

[honeyroar]

There's been one of those silly "copy and paste if you care" type things on Facebook recently that lots of people are sharing lately that goes "my door is always open, I will always be available if you need me bla bla ...." It always makes me think of this thread, as clearly most of UK people don't mean what they're copy and pasting!

I don't mind people calling in at all. I'm a scruffy bugger too. If people can't take me as they find me that's their problem.

[piggypoo]

We tell family that they are more than welcome to come round if they give us a ring to let us know they are coming. I've been saddled with a bored SIL, who will "just thought I'd pop round", and she's gone a good four hours, expecting me to entertain her and the 4 kids! Nightmare! Last time, she did this unannounced, I didn't open the door, and pretended I was out! She wasn't getting me on that one again! So no, YANBU :)

[Purplealienpuke]

I'd quite like a drop in occasionally. I don't do it to others though.
I did fly down the country and surprise my mum a few new yrs ago. She cried bless her (happy tears I hope 😉) I didn't stay with her , I'd arranged to stay at a friends so I didn't put her out too much!

[MrsDc7]

Oh my god. This is my absolute PET HATE. I'm not particularly anti social but I do like to have a bit of a plan to my day, so when people just drop round unannounced it absolutely f**ks me off. My Nan has a habit of doing this with random friends of hers... usually when I'm sitting in my pyjamas with the kids

[pollymere]

My house is always a tip. People don't stay...lol.

[mellowfartfulness]

Hate it hate it hate it. I think this is as much personality/social style as anything else, though. I'm a really anxious person and there are times when I really just need my own space, undisturbed, no expectations, no need to be socially 'on'. Pitching up at my front door means I have to flip into social mode without warning and it's very uncomfortable. Ringing me half an hour in advance gives me time to get my head in the right place and then we stand a chance of a good chat and a cuppa instead of me panicking and claiming to be busy!