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To expect people to be dressed if they've invited people round

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Exileinengland1999 · 28/12/2016 14:37

Just that really- got invited round for Xmas drinks at some friends at 4pm and they were in their pjs and stayed like that for a 2 hour visit - Aibu to feel uncomfortable with the extreme casual-ness of it all. Even my kids asked why they were in their pjs Confused

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P00pchute · 29/12/2016 20:44

I sleep in the nip, and only wear PJs for lounging. TBH I don't tend to have people round anyway - I feel even less inclined if I thought they would whinge that my clothes were too informal for my own couch.

CaraAspen, I am just as delightful as my username, you'd f*cking love me.

Tapandgo · 29/12/2016 20:45

Unbelievable stores and schools have had to tell adults to get dressed before going in to them! Slobbish and slovenly behaviour.

CaraAspen · 29/12/2016 20:51

Horatio, not quite as you expressed it, originally, but I like it. Smile

caringcarer · 29/12/2016 20:57

There was a Mum at DS school last summer who took him to school in PJs and not lounge pants style but thin and flimsy and very obviously no underwear. Lots of giggles in playground.

1horatio · 29/12/2016 20:58

Cara

English... sometimes I wonder if DH is aware that I can actually be funny on purpose in German and my 2nd language (at least compared to my joke making skills in English), grumble....
in English it only happens unintentionally, when I use a word in a way a native speaker never would. 😅

Oh well... I'm still wondering how often post-sleep-shower-people change their bedding... but maybe I'd need a new thread for that.

1horatio · 29/12/2016 20:58

:)

robinia · 29/12/2016 21:02

I was once asked to go round to another school mum's house to sort out handover of PTA treasurer job from her husband to me. I had never met him before and they were both in their pjs. Spent an hour sitting on the sofa going through paperwork and not knowing where to look.
So you are definitely not being unreasonable OP. It's embarrassing for guests - it would also be embarrassing if some were dressed in jeans/t-shirts and others were in evening wear - but pjs just adds another layer of embarrassment.

ItShouldHaveBeenJingleJess · 29/12/2016 21:16

I am now in my pyjamas and eagerly anticipating my dream-time tonight, which will undoubtedly feature bowls of keys, Hugh Heffner, cats, gimps and (hopefully) Brad Pitt. Real life is never this fun.

NotLadyPrickshit · 29/12/2016 21:18

This thread is hilarious... if only for the fact that many people can't differentiate between pj's & loungewear!

I'm always in loungewear at home, with clean underwear & having showered... sometimes I even pop across to the shop wearing them simply swapping my baffies for flip flops or ballet pumps!

The only pj's I own are hideous fleece ones that my mother gave me for Christmas Hmm there's not a rats chance in hell that I'll ever be wearing them (can't be doing with pj legs twisted up around my knees).

As for the why not just shove on trackies or leggings... I personally don't own trackies & would rather my host was wearing some nice loungewear than some manky old trackies and I own a solitary pair of leggings to wear with a long tunic & high boots.

That being said if I had invited school run acquaintances over as opposed to actual friends I'd shove on jeans & a top but would wear my baffies as there's a no shoes rule in my house!

1horatio · 29/12/2016 21:20

Brad Pitt was very attractive in Troy, wasn't he? The guy playing Thor is very attractive as well.

But I don't want my dreams to include any gimps. Those are creepy!

mummydawn07 · 29/12/2016 21:27

wouldn't bother me, if I don't go need to go out I wear my pj's all day and when I get home in the evenings the first thing I do after taking off coat etc is put my pj's on, I like to be comfy and cosy, I am not lazy though, I find its easier for me to clean in my pj's they are more free to move in if you know what I mean, there have been days where I stay in the pj's I slept in but I always will have a shower or bath that evening and change them lol.. on the other hand though if I have people come round depending on who it is and how comfortable we are around each other I would normally be wearing clothes, even if it's just leggings and a jumper.

Floey · 29/12/2016 21:29

Completely agree with you OP, what a load of slobs. Why invite people round if you can't be bothered?

melj1213 · 29/12/2016 21:39

I sleep in a PJ t-shirt and lightweight cotton pj bottoms

My "lounging around the house because I'm not going out" outfit are t-shirts and cotton trackpants (occasionally I throw on a hoody/jumper/cardi if it's cold)

My "going outside the house" outfits are t-shirt, leggings/jeans and maybe a hoody/jumper/cardi ...

They are all very similar but different things and just because I'm sitting around my house in my comfy clothes doesn't make them my PJs nor does it mean I haven't remembered there are guests coming round, but I'm not going to get changed out of one set of clothes into another set of clothes just because the ones I'm in are "too casual" for sitting around in my house.

mummydawn07 · 29/12/2016 21:40

thought I would add that my "pj's" are actually lounge wear, or so it says on the label lol but I have always called them pj's

Jaxhog · 29/12/2016 21:42

YANBU. I might (might!) if they were VERY close friends or nearby family, but otherwise it's just rude.

Roussette · 29/12/2016 21:46

Can you pj wearers at a party honestly say that if you have people round and they arrive looking smart, make up on, high heels maybe, red dress and husband in chinos and a shirt, ditto more couples, sparkly top black jeans etc... .. you honestly wouldn't feel like a total slob in pyjamas, slippers and a dressing gown??

Because I'm not sure I believe you if you say no... anyone would feel out of place in night clothes (call them what you want but pyjamas ARE night clothes)

I'm all for relaxing when we're on our own but having a drinks party with pj's on is so naff. Thank god I've never come across it and TBH I'm not likely to.

Wookiecookies · 29/12/2016 21:52

rousette, which "pj wearers at a party"? I havent seen any here. No one has disagreed that it is out of the ordinary, just that the faux outrage by certain pps is perhaps a little OTT and lacking in perspective.

Wookiecookies · 29/12/2016 21:56

Would I greet people other than very close friends and family members for afternoon drinks in my PJs? No. Would I overly judge those that did? No.

1horatio · 29/12/2016 21:57

But nobody here has said they'd wear pyjamas to a party, rou?

I simply wrote that I hosted brunch (for family members) a few weeks ago wearing pjs and a dressing gown when I didn't have time to get dressed...

I simply think the outrage here is ridiculous and OTT.

CommunionHelp · 29/12/2016 22:13

Are the pyjamas ironed or not?

fans flames

Wookiecookies · 29/12/2016 22:16

Oh communion you do like to live dangerously! hides

1horatio · 29/12/2016 22:17

communion

Of course. Our housekeeper needs something to do, doesn't she?

(Yup, I'm being a bit goady😉...)

StoneRosesSallyCinnamon · 29/12/2016 22:20

What brand PJs were they?

That may help us to judge more viciously

OP can you go back and ask please

StoneRosesSallyCinnamon · 29/12/2016 22:21

I pray to fuck they were Primark.

And unironed

And had a toothpaste stain on the front

Maybe a skid mark in the back

(too far?)

SarfEast1cated · 29/12/2016 22:21

Very odd behaviour OP. I imagine them in two Ronnies style checked PJ's. is there more info about food?

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