To expect people to be dressed if they've invited people round

[Exileinengland1999]

Just that really- got invited round for Xmas drinks at some friends at 4pm and they were in their pjs and stayed like that for a 2 hour visit - Aibu to feel uncomfortable with the extreme casual-ness of it all. Even my kids asked why they were in their pjs

PJs
Comfies
Undies

Ffs

do people wear the same pjs they have had on all night and then fall back into same pair at bedtime yuk!! Very lazy tbh.

YANBU - it is both lazy and disrespectful.

I would be very uncomfortable if my hosts (unless they were bedfast) couldn't be @rsed to put some clothes on, and similarly I wouldn't dream of appearing before guests in my jim-jams.

Very bad mannered!

Grim, definitely. If you were best friends who'd known each other years, fine. Otherwise, weird and grim.

A couple of questions - out of pure curiosity - to people who spend "90% of their time at home in their pyjamas". Do you wear underwear underneath? Also, do you have a separate pair of pyjamas for sleeping in, or do you sleep in the same ones you've spent the day walking around in?

I would make an effort if invited round to a friend's house and would uncomfortable sitting there whilst they were in PJ's
Maybe it's just my age but I would feel that I'm not worth them making an effort for.
I must just depend on who your friends are, none of my family or friends would ever do that, must be a generation thing. I would never answer the door in Pj's and when I had just had a major op I still got dressed knowing that I would be having visitors.

I haven't read all replies. But I'd feel really uncomfortable especially if it really was bedclothes...so no bra or pants underneath. Maybe if dressing gowns were over the top it wouldn't be so bad. I quickly make tea early in the morning before the kids are up in my nightware. Then I go up to drink it. Once finished I always dress, I'd never walk round in my nightdress/pj's. I feel uncomfortable in front of my boys. Especially when one asked me why my boobs were so droopy without a bra on. 😜
Maybe I'm weird on that one? But I'd feel uncomfortable at a planned invite if they weren't dressed. But I would also think it must be normal to them.

I totally agree, disrespectful, bad mannered and lazy

A couple of questions - out of pure curiosity - to people who spend "90% of their time at home in their pyjamas". Do you wear underwear underneath? Also, do you have a separate pair of pyjamas for sleeping in, or do you sleep in the same ones you've spent the day walking around in?

I just knock the bits of dried egg off for guests. If it's family or close friends, then I lie dozing on the sofa with my feet on the dog, waiting for someone to make me a drink.

Ah but you need to remember some people on MN sleep in pjs WITH pants on (to avoid poo particles if they are farting) and a sleep bra on too. Or they have a top with integrated support...

I think we can safely say that the majority of people would find it somewhere between a bit odd to completely vile with a few exceptions who might have turned up in their PJs.

I don't think I've ever spent the whole day inside unless I'll or having just given birth. My kids need a run everyday or they go stir crazy.

My phone puts an apostrophe in pjs by itself. Oh...I've just seen there is either or. Sorry it's in my post above with an apostrophe. 😂😂

Here is a man that sticks two fingers up to the pyjama police.

marjorie. When you say 'poo particles' - how big are we talking? Invisible to the naked eye (not fussed, then) or visible in some sort of Dexter-style 'splatter-pattern'? Because sometimes I sleep naked; should I be inspecting my sheets? With or without magnifying glass?

Notmuch, mine does the same, but dont tell Cara, she will most upset to not have a grammar stick to beat me with.

wookie. Ah, but is that sleep apparel or a smoking jacket - and which will be deemed to be more revolting by MN?

taps fingers as Cara goes off to scour all my previous posts for other horrific grammar transgressions

Itshould, well, my best guess would be, level of poo particles, frequency of washing and time of day? Also, if canapes are involved then it is truly horrifying, smoking jacket or otherwise.

A couple of questions - out of pure curiosity - to people who spend "90% of their time at home in their pyjamas". Do you wear underwear underneath? Also, do you have a separate pair of pyjamas for sleeping in, or do you sleep in the same ones you've spent the day walking around in?

I actually do spend most of the time I'm home in pyjamas. But that's because I'm not home very often, so I'm mostly home when I'm sleeping...
And I don't spend the day walking around with them.

But as I may have mentioned above, I was wearing a dressing gown when some family members came over for brunch a few weeks ago.

DD was super fussy and I just didn't have time to get dressed. But, seeing as I shower in the evening, I do have a cat's bath every morning when I brush my teeth, do my hair etc... I remember doing that when the door rang. So I simply put my pyjama back on, grabbed the dressing gown and went downstairs.

As to answer your question... I don't wear a bra, but that is not visible when I'm wearing a dressing gown. My breasts aren't big enough 😅
And I can't remember whether I wore knickers. But seeing as I did wear thick flannel bottoms and a dressing gown that covered the whole area anyway... who cares?

I personally would not wear pyjamas at 4pm, especially not if we invited somebody for a Christmas party or something similar. But I wouldn't mind if somebody did!

Anyhow, this thread is quite amusing.

So, carry on please, dear mumsnetters ;)

wookie. To be fair, if I had an engraved bannister, a panelled wall and that beatific grin, I'd be getting dressed for no-one.

Wonder if you can buy vaping jackets and what they might look like?

Oh btw itshouldhave we call them 'pooticles' in this house, although I am sure that some PPs will faint at the mere suggestion, based on the pure hatred expressed for the nicknames pjs, jammies, jim jams and comfies etc...

Personally, I think a good motto for life is 'what would Hugh Hefner do?' - and then do the opposite. So I wouldn't entertain silIcone enhanced blondes in my pyjamas, or indeed anyone else. ''Tis ill mannered.

Oooooh... vaping jackets. slinks off to google

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