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To expect people to be dressed if they've invited people round

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Exileinengland1999 · 28/12/2016 14:37

Just that really- got invited round for Xmas drinks at some friends at 4pm and they were in their pjs and stayed like that for a 2 hour visit - Aibu to feel uncomfortable with the extreme casual-ness of it all. Even my kids asked why they were in their pjs Confused

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Bluntness100 · 29/12/2016 14:14

Santas, I did read it and I clearly meant stop reading the thread. Very obviously if you've read a post you've read it and it can't be unread. 🙄

I'm sorry, I see nothing on this thread that contravenes the guidelines of the site and as such nothing to report. People are simply expressing their opinions. Again, if you don't like it, move to another thread. That's not meant as an insult simply if the posts are within guidelines then reporting in an attempt to shut it down is wrong.

BadLad · 29/12/2016 14:18

I'd think they were strange, slobby and lacking in self-respect. Or that they had forgotten I was coming. I've never, ever visited anyone who answered the door in their pyjamas.

CaraAspen · 29/12/2016 14:27

"Wookiecookies

I am with you there 1horatio. The general tenet of this thread has been vehemently against anyone who has dared to show an alternative opinion.

I am off too, to be slovenly in my PJ's in my own home. Not giving "shiny shits" about what anyone thinks. wink"

It's PJs - if you must use that term. Save all your random apostrophes...

CaraAspen · 29/12/2016 14:30

"Bluntness100

Santas, I did read it and I clearly meant stop reading the thread. Very obviously if you've read a post you've read it and it can't be unread. 🙄

I'm sorry, I see nothing on this thread that contravenes the guidelines of the site and as such nothing to report. People are simply expressing their opinions. Again, if you don't like it, move to another thread. That's not meant as an insult simply if the posts are within guidelines then reporting in an attempt to shut it down is wrong."

I imagine the thread moderators will take that view also.

LionelRitchieAndTheWardrobe · 29/12/2016 14:35

Why bother with pjs, why not hang out naked and make everyone feel really awkward?

SnowWhite33 · 29/12/2016 14:43

U2, sure Id wear PJs round my mum too if she pops in before noon, or if im ill, or if im having a lazy day etc thats fine.
But if we invite my parents, or in laws, or other friends/ relatives for drinks at 4pm i think it is sloppy and bad manners to still be hanging around in pjs. And i am 100% certain our friends and relatives feel the same way. That's just how we were raised.
But I agree others might have different standards.

SimonLeBonOnAndOn · 29/12/2016 14:44

YANBU.

Dirty and lazy.

Footinmouthasusual · 29/12/2016 15:05

Part of me would love inviting random friends round and answer the door naked but sadly at our age it would be taken as senility and not edgy.

Sallystyle · 29/12/2016 15:15

It's not dirty. I completely understand people thinking it is lazy etc, but it isn't dirty. If you are dirty you are going to be dirty no matter what you wear.

My pjs aren't dirty, they are always clean and never slept in.

CaraAspen · 29/12/2016 15:16

"My pjs aren't dirty, they are always clean and never slept in."

Huh?? I thought they WERE for sleeping in.

SantasJockStrap · 29/12/2016 15:20

I have never slept in my PJS

SantasJockStrap · 29/12/2016 15:21

I have never slept in my PJS

SantasJockStrap · 29/12/2016 15:21

woops

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 29/12/2016 15:26

Don't tell me you sleep in your normal clothes and slip into your pyjamas when you get up? Like Mr. Topsy Turvy in the Mr. Men books. (I'm joking Grin)

Sallystyle · 29/12/2016 15:35

Huh?? I thought they WERE for sleeping in.

You learn something every day don't you?

Roussette · 29/12/2016 15:48

I went for drinks at a friends a couple of days ago, 4pm too, everyone there had made an effort and looked great. There were some lovely people all looking lovely.

If I'd turned up and the host and hostess were in their pyjamas I would think...

  1. Oh god it's fancy dress and no one told me. Or
  2. I've got the wrong day
  3. They're both ill and want us to leave but haven't had a chance to tell us.

It's bloody rude when you've got guests. You may as well sit on the sofa in your pyjamas with the telly blaring and ignore everyone because it is not welcoming.

Very luckily, there's lots that I read on MN that just does not happen in RL. So I'm unlikely to encounter the PJ wearing brigade at a drinks party.

FWIW I'm ill at the moment (hacking cough, temperature etc) and have barely got out my pyjamas but I'm not seeing anyone so that's fine

SimonLeBonOnAndOn · 29/12/2016 16:01

Roar at pyjamas not for sleeping in. Heard it all.

It is dirty, if you're still in your pyjamas at 4 pm, you've been in them for nearly 24 hours and not showered.

StoneRosesSallyCinnamon · 29/12/2016 16:06

Roar? Which word does that translate to?

So many assumptions

If someone's in their PJs at 4pm, how do you know they put them on at 4pm the day before? As above, not everyone sleeps in PJs - some folk are using them as lounge wear

How do you know they didn't have a bath at 3.30pm that day and just fancy popping on a fresh pair of PJs to chill out in the comfort of their own home - rather than get dressed again?

SimonLeBonOnAndOn · 29/12/2016 16:12

Roar, means laugh.
Used to be quite common on MN back in the day.

StoneRosesSallyCinnamon · 29/12/2016 16:16

:)

Sallystyle · 29/12/2016 16:16

Roar at pyjamas not for sleeping in. Heard it all.

It is dirty, if you're still in your pyjamas at 4 pm, you've been in them for nearly 24 hours and not showered.

^^

Bloody hell, are you hard of thinking?

People shower and put on clean pjs. Some people like me sleep naked and don't wear their pjs for sleeping in.

I am now getting ready to go out for the evening (in clothes) and I've just had a shower and put on new pjs. When I come home I will get back into them. Clean body, clean pjs.

It isn't difficult to understand is it?

RichardBucket · 29/12/2016 16:19

I wear PJs in the house. Only put proper clothes on to go out (or when expecting people apart from my best friends...) My PJs are always clean.

Cary2012 · 29/12/2016 16:21

This thread is one of the best in ages, thanks OP.

Halfway through reading I nipped upstairs to put my pjs on, cos I didn't want to feel left out. If either of my adult DDs call in later, I won't change, but any hint of them having friends/boyfriends with them, then I'll certainly change back into jeans and a hoodie.

I know I'm getting a bit long in the tooth, but I would feel awkward if friends hosted in their pjs, I wouldn't feel comfortable at all.

StoneRosesSallyCinnamon · 29/12/2016 16:29

Talking of fashion items that are a bit urgh to other people

My FIL, he has a pair of short shorts, that he wears in the summer, with no top on, and his oversized gut hanging over the top

Don't get me wrong, lovely bloke, but I feel uncomfortable receiving a hug from a virtually naked middle aged bloke!

I'd rather he had his Pajamas on

dangerrabbit · 29/12/2016 16:30

This is the thread that keeps on giving!

OP, what have you decided about your school gate friends after reading the thread?