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To expect people to be dressed if they've invited people round

903 replies

Exileinengland1999 · 28/12/2016 14:37

Just that really- got invited round for Xmas drinks at some friends at 4pm and they were in their pjs and stayed like that for a 2 hour visit - Aibu to feel uncomfortable with the extreme casual-ness of it all. Even my kids asked why they were in their pjs Confused

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Wookiecookies · 29/12/2016 12:28

Typical MN, there always seem to be some posters who are quite happy to dish out the insults, but not quite so happy to be called out on it or responded to in kind Wink

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 29/12/2016 12:32

why would swingers wear pyjamas?

Quite. I can't think of anything less sexy than that saggy bottom look you always get with pyjama bottoms. Grin

Wookiecookies · 29/12/2016 12:34

Ilost, well I suppose it depends on the pyjamas! Grin

I tend to agree though, pyjamas dont exactly scream 'kinky sex people' do they? GrinGrin

EveOnline2016 · 29/12/2016 12:34

When I go to a friends for a drink I wear my pj.

We are classy like that.

bluebellsparklypants · 29/12/2016 12:37
  • it's only the 3rd time I'd met the husband and normally it's on the school run.
Grin

That does seem slightly odd to me
If i invite peep round for 4pm drinks I would at least get dressed!

Maybe their'd had a rough night? Got colds? At least they were covered up though!

SantasJockStrap · 29/12/2016 12:41

I struggle to believe that any human on this planet, is so offended by the wearing of Pajamas - in ANY situation - that they need to insult another human because they have a difference of opinion

I am guessing that some children are making accounts whist on half term from school - as this cannot possibly be adults. Mums, on Mumnet acting worse than their children, no

I have reported this to mumsnet and feel a bit fed up as I recently joined this site looking for other adults to talk to

LassWiTheDelicateAir · 29/12/2016 12:44

it's only the 3rd time I'd met the husband and normally it's on the school run

Which makes their behaviour all the more odd and the frantic attempts by the cool kids to explain it all the more pathetic.

1horatio · 29/12/2016 12:48

Quite. I can't think of anything less sexy than that saggy bottom look you always get with pyjama bottoms. grin

Absolutely. And a quick google search for 'swinger party dress code' told me that less clothes are apparent preferable. There were suggestions from: 'Tartan mini with fishnet stockings' to 'nothing at all'....
Although, most people look more attractive in their clothes than out of them, tbh. So... seems like these people are doing something wrong.

LassWiTheDelicateAir · 29/12/2016 12:48

Typical MN, there always seem to be some posters who are quite happy to dish out the insults

Wookie you have been throwing out insults over several pages. I have not insulted you yet you have dragged my name into your list of "pearl clutchers".

1horatio · 29/12/2016 12:53

Well, it's not like other posters haven't been insulting... (slovenly, alcoholic, stinky, rude and quite a few other statements...)

It seems like wookie simply did what everyone else did.

And now I feel as if I'm on a playground.

So, I hope you have a lovely day, mumsnetters 😊

Wookiecookies · 29/12/2016 12:54

No lass, of course you havent. You have been positively lovely and not at all condescending of my opinion.Hmm

Wookiecookies · 29/12/2016 12:57

I am with you there 1horatio. The general tenet of this thread has been vehemently against anyone who has dared to show an alternative opinion.

I am off too, to be slovenly in my PJ's in my own home. Not giving "shiny shits" about what anyone thinks. Wink

jdoe8 · 29/12/2016 13:09

Typical MN, there always seem to be some posters who are quite happy to dish out the insults, but not quite so happy to be called out on it or responded to in kind wink

Ha yes, same bitches as ever being bitchy but can't take it the other way.

MuchasSmoochas · 29/12/2016 13:11

I've seen people in dressing gowns in the reception and shopping area at Gleneagles. New money Grin

MuchasSmoochas · 29/12/2016 13:12

And Trump Turnberry. But then that's Donald's house so his rules.

Bluntness100 · 29/12/2016 13:15

I have reported this to mumsnet and feel a bit fed up as I recently joined this site looking for other adults to talk to

NicknameUsed · 29/12/2016 13:36

Given that the children were there as well and have commented on the fact that the hosts were in pyjamas, I wonder how the conversation will go when they get back to school and talk about what they did over the school holidays?

SantasJockStrap · 29/12/2016 13:44

Bluntness100

I would love to hear your explanation of how a person should not read something they disagree with. ''if I disagree, I shouldn't read it''? How would a person know they disagree if they aren't to read it??!

I feel you didn't actually read my post before commenting, but just to doubly clarify, it isn't that I disagree with anyone's opinion . I do not mind if a person wears PJS or don't. I do not find it that important. I would never be offended by what a person choses to wear.

It is the childish, insulting way, that some people are putting across their opinion that I made the report for

I have never known a grown up adult become confrontational with people over something as minor as their choice of clothing.

Again, please read posts before responding

SnowWhite33 · 29/12/2016 13:46

I cant believe so many people think its ok [schock]
Its bad manners and no respect to your guests, regardless of how close to them you are.
If you cant make the effort to put decent clothes on, why bother inviting guests?

SantasJockStrap · 29/12/2016 13:46

It seems obvious to me that children have hijacked Mums net - I do not feel that all posters are adults

SantasJockStrap · 29/12/2016 13:48

It is in the eye of the beholder. Some people would say bad grammar is equally as shocking

Not me, I am just saying that what is shocking to one, is not necessarily a big deal to others and each opinion is equally as valid

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 29/12/2016 13:59

I agree, Santa, we should respect each other's opinions but sometimes the bun fights on MN over this sort of thing are comedy gold. Grin

The trick is to not to overly invest in it and take everything with a large pinch of salt. Wink

NicknameUsed · 29/12/2016 13:59

Santas if you think this is bad you should read some of the other threads.

Footinmouthasusual · 29/12/2016 14:05

I stick to my original diagnosis of swingers op.

Clearly slovenly swingers but swingers never the less. That school gate meet must have been electric Grin

Sallystyle · 29/12/2016 14:09

Its bad manners and no respect to your guests, regardless of how close to them you are.

Bollocks. In the example given by the OP that is bad mannered.

It was not bad mannered for me to wear them with my in-laws here and it's not bad manners for me to wear them when my mum is here. You might feel that way but my family certainly doesn't.

I am not being disrespectful towards them at all. They don't care, I don't care, so who is being disrespected?

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