To expect people to be dressed if they've invited people round

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Just that really- got invited round for Xmas drinks at some friends at 4pm and they were in their pjs and stayed like that for a 2 hour visit - Aibu to feel uncomfortable with the extreme casual-ness of it all. Even my kids asked why they were in their pjs

PJs are underwear in my book. Close female friend who's maybe under the weather - acceptable. Male school gate acquaintance? I'd run a mile from embarrassment.

Another one not seeing the OP encouraging people to tear the slovenly hosts to shreds.

I often see children dressed in PJs at the swimming pool in the early evening after lessons . I don't know when this became a 'thing'. I assume their parents think they are saving time, but wouldn't it be more time saving to simply go to bed in your school uniform?

sorry if going off topic a bit

Super weird. But I also think prancing around in hotels that have spas in your dressing gown is déclassé. In the spa yes, but not when you're walking to it through reception or in the restaurant. I was ever so pleased once when I was with the girls having just left the spa and we had to walk through reception to our rooms. I was the only one who got dressed. Who did I see in reception- Nigel Havers. I like to think we did an eye roll together.

MN is a window into another world, sometimes.

YANBU. Nobody I know would do this. In a million years.

I'm mortified to answer the door to a courier deliverer - a total stranger - at 7AM in pyjamas.

But then, I don't really get the lounging around in PJs full stop. I put them on when I get into bed.

Hosting people in PJs is a whole other level of grim!

Wookie It is clear from your many posts that you seem to have no idea of social norms.

I'm with WrongSort in that I class nightwear as being similar to underwear, making it inappropriate for parading around in when entertaining people you don't know very well. It seems that most posters think the same.

People who think that wearing pyjamas under these circumstances must live in some kind of parallel Jeremy Kyle universe.

I have never seen parents take their kids to school in pyjamas, nor have I seen anyone in Tesco wearing them.

It. isn't. the. done. thing.

Muchas

I dislike underwear and like nightwear... they're definitely not the same imo 😅

"But I also think prancing around in hotels that have spas in your dressing gown is déclassé."

The only place I have stayed in where people came down to dinner in bathrobes was at Ragdale Hall. OH and I wore clothes because we didn't feel comfortable doing that.

Nickname, I have every idea of social "norms". But I just dont choose to judge others by a societal construct. That's me, no bells or whistles, no lefty liberalism, just laid back and more concerned with bigger issues. I havent stated that it is normal within the realms of 21st century "standards" to greet guest in pj's, merely that I wouldnt get het up over those that did.

But you do know that it's possible to have a view about other things than the world's most pressing issues, surely, wookie?

Look at the replies! And I wouldn't expect anything else on here. Clearly she wasn't uncomfortable enough not to stay for 2 hours.

Ok suburban, so are you saying that my view is less valid than yours because we dont agree on when it is acceptable to wear pj's? Am I not welcome on this thread then? It is an aibu isnt it?

What would clothes cover up that jammies don't?

But when you get dressed you get washed, which you haven't done if you are still in your PJs

Btw, my answer to the original OP. No, you aren't unreasonable to expect people to wear a slightly less casual outfit.

But anybody offended by this is simply precious, imo.

passive

Some people shower in the evening. I do...

That's also a cultural thing for many people, btw.

I am the laziest person around. My family rarely gets dressed on the weekend unless we are going out. My pj's consist of a men's tshirt and knickers. I would rather poke my eye out with a fork than greet my guests wearing my Bad Ass Cafe tshirt and Calvin underwear. My parents raised me correctly. Your dressing for guests indicates a level of respect. I also toss on at least a bit of makeup as I look grave bound without lipstick and mascara.

At 4 o'clock I would assume they were in for the night so had bathed/showered and we're in the pyjamas for that night but who knows. The op didn't mention a sweaty stench coming from them though that might be the drip feed....I hope the hosts see this thread so that they know who not to waste their hospitality on in future!

No, wookie, you've misunderstood. You keep going on about how you don't get worked up about hosts in pyjamas because there are bigger issues that concern you.

I'm saying it's possible to have a view about both - they're not mutually exclusive.

People get into their pyjamas for the night at 4 o clock in the afternoon knowing they have guests coming round for drinks? Seriously?

"But anybody offended by this is simply precious, imo."

Most people were saying that they thought it was odd, not that they were offended.

Well, that we can agree on suburban, you are correct, they are not mutually exclusive. But I do feel that the thread went from "is it normal for the hosts to greet me in pj's" no, it is not if you barely know them, although it doesnt make them bad people to "should we all judge everyone who wears PJ's outside of bed".

nickname

And a rather large amount said like that they felt it showed a lack of respect, meant that people didn't care about the comfort of their guest, that the people that invited the OP were slovenly, may be depressed or alcoholics.

Yes, judging people like this for the clothes they wear in their own homes is silly and quite precious imo.

Most threads do move on though tbf, and to me that seems a reasonable progression for this thread.

And I happen to think people who can't be bothered to get dressed for their guests should be judged as being lazy and inconsiderate.

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