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To expect people to be dressed if they've invited people round

903 replies

Exileinengland1999 · 28/12/2016 14:37

Just that really- got invited round for Xmas drinks at some friends at 4pm and they were in their pjs and stayed like that for a 2 hour visit - Aibu to feel uncomfortable with the extreme casual-ness of it all. Even my kids asked why they were in their pjs Confused

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GreatFuckability · 28/12/2016 23:02

I wear a bra under my nightclothes. I don't spontaneously combust or anything. just because someone is wearing PJs doesn't automatically follow they are bare-assed/titted underneath!

Queenie04 · 28/12/2016 23:04

Sorry but why invite anyone round then, strange behaviour and I wouldn't return. Apparently I'm 2016 and onwards no one is allowed to have an opinion or judge anything Hmm

1horatio · 28/12/2016 23:05

I am judgemental.
But I don't judge people for wearing pretty much whatever they want in their own house at a Christmas.

They weren't wearing a Nazi uniform. And they weren't naked either...

And all these people claiming leggings and a T shirt would have been better... why?

Wookiecookies · 28/12/2016 23:06

Haha "virtue signalling" andvleftie liberal! Because of PJ's. Oh, this truly is the thread that keeps on giving! Grin

SenecaFalls · 28/12/2016 23:08

it certainly has nothing to do with snobbery for me; one of the cultural norms of the society I live in is that you show respect for people to a certain extent by how you dress, and this crosses all social classes.

SuburbanRhonda · 28/12/2016 23:10

Wearing nightclothes when hosting guests is tasteless.

And I'd judge the wearers as being pretentious twats.

1horatio · 28/12/2016 23:12

wookie

I'm actually tremendously entertained by these statements. Liberal? Sure. But a leftist? Me? 😂

Mrskeats · 28/12/2016 23:13

It's weird to be in pjs when people are coming round.
And yes I'm judgemental. People have no standards these days.
Make an effort fgs

Wookiecookies · 28/12/2016 23:13

"Whatever will they think of next dear? No corsets for visitors? Quite the scandal! What will dearest Persavia think? We can but hope that she does not report this shocking transgression back to the Dukes ma ma. We must at once pen a fervent letter to london, explaining this misunderstanding!"

Wookiecookies · 28/12/2016 23:15

Same 1horatio! Grin

ChoccyJules · 28/12/2016 23:16

I can and have opened the door to the postie or a close friend dropping something off while wearing pjs and a dressing gown. This is because it is my home and I like to relax in it.
If I have invited someone round, whom I barely know, for festive drinkies, then I will be wearing jeans and a naice top. This is because I am not Edina Monsoon.

SuburbanRhonda · 28/12/2016 23:16

wookie

Have you been at the sauce? I mean you've tried to make the same point now over several pages about people being offended, but I've not seen that. I've just seen people state they think it's odd and a bit inconsiderate of your guests to host in your nightwear.

Fadingmemory · 28/12/2016 23:17

I would always dress for visitors. However, what other people wear in their own homes is fine by me.

Wookiecookies · 28/12/2016 23:20

You are quite ok Suburban, I am merely responding to points that other PP's are making. whoch you will see if you read the posts But I do appreciate your concern. And yes, I have partaken in some sauce today, with it being christmas and all. Xmas Grin

But, no pj's on YET.

1horatio · 28/12/2016 23:20

choccy

I don't think anybody here has admitted to wearing Pyjamas at 4pm or to a party.

This thread is imo about whether people should be judged for doing so.
Or if it's safe to assume they are struggling, depressed, don't fit in their clothes, alcoholics or just don't care about their guests...

FurryLittleTwerp · 28/12/2016 23:21

QuodPeriitPeriit

Yes exactly that.

1horatio · 28/12/2016 23:22

wookie

I haven't. I couldn't take any sauce back to the U.K... all that lovely pasta and tomato sauce...😰😰😰

FourKidsNotCrazyYet · 28/12/2016 23:26

I agree OP. I would find it rude and be uncomfortable. I also don't let my children go in PJs to pyjama day at school. I just feel they're more akin to underwear than clothes Blush

Wookiecookies · 28/12/2016 23:26

Noooo! Well, 1horatio, so far today, I have had, hollandaise, ketchup and salted caramel. I am mixing things of course, but sod the rules! I like to take a risk! Grin

MyPeriodFeatures · 28/12/2016 23:28

Queenie, yes, 2016 is nearly over and I doubt judgement or opinions are allowed in 2017 either

1horatio · 28/12/2016 23:30

wookie

I don't eat refined sugar, simple carbs or dairy (because my former trainer was a slave driver and my nutritionist still is). and because dairy makes me pimply.

So yeah. Better that I couldn't take anything home or I'd have taken a huge supply of onion pie with me and couldn't stick to my nutrition guidelines. And the whole airplane would have smelled of onions...

bumsexatthebingo · 28/12/2016 23:30

Which is more rude though? Wearing pyjamas when you invite someone over for drinks or accepting someone's invitation and hospitality then posting about it on a public forum and encouraging others to tear them to shreds?

SuburbanRhonda · 28/12/2016 23:33

I doubt the OP knew when she accepted the invitation that her hosts wouldn't have got dressed by the time she arrived though.

Bluntness100 · 28/12/2016 23:34

The op asked a question, she didn't encourage anyone to rip them to shreds, let's not make stuff up for dramatic effect. 😂

Wookiecookies · 28/12/2016 23:35

"Which is more rude though? Wearing pyjamas when you invite someone over for drinks or accepting someone's invitation and hospitality then posting about it on a public forum and encouraging others to tear them to shreds?"

This! Sanity prevails.