To expect people to be dressed if they've invited people round

[Exileinengland1999]

Just that really- got invited round for Xmas drinks at some friends at 4pm and they were in their pjs and stayed like that for a 2 hour visit - Aibu to feel uncomfortable with the extreme casual-ness of it all. Even my kids asked why they were in their pjs

I wouldn't be offended but I'd feel uncomfortable.
A male that you hardly know in their pjs. No thanks.

It is just not appropriate. (Adjusts half-moon specs and purses lips)

There is something seriously wrong and skewed with the world if the majority of people on here think that it is OK to invite friends over for drinks and be in your pj's when they arrive. I've just read through a thread about a 7-year old boy whose mother is in bits as he had managed to upset his parents and grandparents with his ungrateful attitude and general lack of respect towards his elders... people over there were really quick to dish out "helpful" advice as to how to teach the child a lesson until he learns to show respect, yet.... on here it is OK and not a bit disrespectful to parade around in your pyjamas when having guests over for Christmas drinks!!! I've lost hope in humanity a long time ago, but this is yet another confirmation that the last two generations of humans are in serious trouble!!

Hmmmm well the Calvin pj's posted obviously don't look like pj's they look like trackies

Not the same as matching pj's really

I wonder if we're all talking cross purposes and if we were just talking about dressing gowns the responses might have been different

I really couldn't get worked up about this. If I'm friendly enough to go round to someone's house for a pint I don't care if they're wearing pyjamas or not.

YANBU - totally inappropriate, my DH and I still refer to the time we were invited to drinks with a work colleague - when we arrived he was wearing slippers and a vest top (NOT a T shirt) - we still talk about it - must have been 30 years ago - if you invite someone round, you do not wear nightwear.

I've just read s Twitter thread about a man taking his jeans off 20mins into a 5 hour flight & sitting with his legs spread up the wall in front of him.
Hell truely is other people

Trackies are no better than PJs - if you're people around for a social get-together, then get dressed! It's not difficult.

It's just rude, lazy and demonstrates lack of taste and effort. Yes I will judge them for it.

Depends on how close you are... If it's your close friends that you see in on a regular basis then pj's are fine... But if not then I would get dressed... I tend to wear pj's all day and its not necessarily the same ones I were to bed, they're just comfortable then my regular clothes

*wear

mrsnoname I couldn't have said it better. A serious lack of manners by anyone who thinks it's appropriate to host guests when wearing their pjs. I don't even like to open the door to the postman if I'm not properly dressed. If I went to someone's house for drinks and they were wearing pjs, I would say 'sorry, we've obviously come at the wrong date/time'.

I'd be more than a little taken aback tbh. I visit mostly relatives, close relatives, over Christmas, and would expect them to be fully dressed. And they are.

Do a lot of men own smart pyjamas then? My husband just wears faded pants in bed. He definitely doesn't own pyjamas he could entertain guests in.

If this couple washed, put on underwear, make up etc and then clean pjs then that's just contrived. I blame FaceBook and all the #"pyjama day" posts with cutesy pics of the family in matching tartan pjs around the tree. #bliss

Sweet Jesus. I love a PJ day but if you invite people over, it's the respectable thing to do, to get dressed. The whole 'it's my home/my choice/take me as you find me crap doesn't wash (probably much like the sort of person who thinks hosting drinks in your PJs is the norm. Have some standards for christ's sake.

There are lots of types of clothing I wouldn't wear to entertain.

My painting clothes, which yes are comfy but covered in emulsion paint. My toweling bath robe, my gardening trousers, my judo uniform, my gym gear, my pjs.

All are comfortable, all inappropriate.

Personally I would find that weird but then I never wear pyjamas apart from bedtime, except sometimes if I'm having a very lazy morning where I don't get dressed until 10 or 11.

Also don't understand the idea of "lounge wear" and hooded onesies that say on the label you are not supposed to sleep in them. I can kind of see why you might put pjs on early evening if your daytime clothes are uncomfortable eg a suit or something but change into a onesie and then change again for bedtime??

I wouldn't be bothered if I popped round unannounced and a friend was in pjs, but I do think it's a bit strange if they invited people round as obviously the people coming round would be dressed.

Me get a grip? of course dear.

My DH has nice pj's now, he started wearing them when the kids were little/started getting into our bed in the morning. He wouldn't consider wearing them for entertaining though

I'm a bit speechless about this tbh - I have to agree with MrsNoName too. Why pj's - why not just comfortable clothes. I have some really nice pj's - sort of loose yoga pant style and vest top - and I do often wear them round the house/ get changed into them after the school run etc - but I wouldn't wear them to host a drinks party.

OH and I dontactually wear pjs to sleep in so they wouldn't get worn if I didn't wear them in evenings or when just around house

FWIW, I would get dressed, but you do realise we are just talking about fabrics arranged in different ways here? So many things seriously wrong with the world, and you are all here getting your knickers in a twist over pj's? Pretty sure my grips are all gripped thanks.

I'm another wondering what the "pyjamas anywhere, anytime" brigade are wearing the rest of the time. I wear smart suits or dresses to work. They're comfortable or I wouldn't wear them in the first place. I come home and get changed, usually into jeans and a soft sweater in winter, or a t-shirt and long cotton 'hippy' type skirt in summer. Comfortable and presentable if I have to pop out or get a surprise visitor.

YADNBU OP, and I would have felt unwanted in your position. I agree with MaQueen that it's part of this "let it all hang out, we're so bohemian and cool, take us as you find us" general lowering of standards because people are becoming progressively more self-centred and standards are dropping because people think that upholding them is just too much effort - their comfort has to trump that of everyone else's, their needs and desires and wants always come first, especially if that means they can avoid doing something that might put them out or requires them to make even a small effort or interrupt their usual routine, or consider someone else's feelings before their own.

OP, you clearly need more uptight friends to suit your own style. I suggest you leave these comfortable people to find their kin, you are certainly not these people.

I see MN has slipped into the Twilight Zone again. Elsewhere, if asked the question 'do you think it strange if people invited you for drinks in the afternoon and were wearing pjs?' 100% would reply yes, that it was totally unreasonable. On here, swathes of people think it's perfectly ok.

OF COURSE IT ISN'T - IT'S WEIRD.... trails off to the Twilight Zone signature tune...

It's the Mumsnet demographic - unfortunately.

Twilight Zone - yes. But then the last thread about wearing pj's on the school run got so heated it had to be deleted Because apparently that's ok too.