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To expect people to be dressed if they've invited people round

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Exileinengland1999 · 28/12/2016 14:37

Just that really- got invited round for Xmas drinks at some friends at 4pm and they were in their pjs and stayed like that for a 2 hour visit - Aibu to feel uncomfortable with the extreme casual-ness of it all. Even my kids asked why they were in their pjs Confused

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gotthearse · 28/12/2016 20:19

Its bad manners pure and simple. May be unintentional bad manners, but bad manners nonetheless.

stopfuckingshoutingatme · 28/12/2016 20:19

That weird ! Lounge wear fine bit pajamas Shock

1horatio · 28/12/2016 20:23

Would I host anything wearing this? No. 😂😂

But if somebody really wanted to do that... who am I to stop them 😉😉

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1horatio · 28/12/2016 20:27

I have however opened the door wearing this (the dressing gown)

And I've run around wearing that...

So, yeah. If you don't like me wearing my dressing gown then that's that, I guess.

I really don't get what's going on with you... 😂

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To expect people to be dressed if they've invited people round
MyPeriodFeatures · 28/12/2016 20:28

This is what I come here for. Threads like this.

Thanks OP.

I cannot understand why anyone would invite people, school run families, to their home and wear pyjamas. Why would you do that? Why?

I want to know more about this soirée. What food and drinks did they have? Did they appear washed? Was the conversation flowing? Laughter? Sharing of stories? Gossip? A big bag of communal quavers and a giant TV screening a Christmas variety show special at an uncomfortably high volume? Tell us more op because frankly it's wierd.

Judydreamsofhorses · 28/12/2016 20:28

In holidays I would happily shower and just put on fresh pyjamas if I wasn't going out - but I would definitely get dressed for guests.

Lizzylou · 28/12/2016 20:33

Wookie get a grip.
There is nothing snobby or snooty about getting dressed.

FurryLittleTwerp · 28/12/2016 20:33

Lazy & slovenly I think.

I once answered the door at 7pm to my NDN wearing pyjamas. DH & DS were away & I was having a lazy evening.

She thought I was ill Grin then mentioned she was having a few people round later, had heard I was alone & did I want to come?

I did, very much I got dressed first Xmas Grin

MrsGuyOfGisbo · 28/12/2016 20:33

What is it with this PJs everywhere thing?
I'm with you OP - hardly unreasonable to assume people will be dressed in clothes if they have invited you round.
I don't wear PJs ever,- am naked in bed, and in clothes at other times - really bemuses me this toddler need to be in PJs!

Chrissiecat · 28/12/2016 20:38

My friend and her DP visited her sister who was only in her dressing gown ie no pants. Unfortunately the dressing gown was too small as she has put on weight so he had a 'basic instinct' experience. She is not after him however, he won't go back ! Blush

Iris65 · 28/12/2016 20:39

Not a fan of wearing pjs when we have visitors. I would also be uncomfortable visiting someone (unless they were ill or in hospital) who is wearing pjs.

Lazyafternoon · 28/12/2016 20:39

OMG! Really?

Ok I've NRFT.... But...
That many people think it's OK to sit there in your nightwear when you've invited people round???! Someone pops round unannounced is one thing, but with notice, that's just weird!
If someone answered the door in their Pj's without knowing they were ill or just had a baby or something, I'd make my excuses and leave ASAP! I don't want to be sitting there with someone basically in their underwear, or even worse without their underwear on! It's just odd.

1horatio · 28/12/2016 20:44

Lazy

Personally I'd run a mile even the thought of someone else even thinking about it turns my stomach

You're presuming said person is wearing underwear when they're wearing their 'day clothes'? And why would you care about them wearing (or not wearing) underwear?

MrsGuyOfGisbo · 28/12/2016 20:44

Just remembered - stayed in a b&b in the summer, and in the morning, the husband of the couple that owned it brought breakfast to my room - was a studio kind of room, outside the main house - lovely up-market accommodation, but 9am and he was wearing PJs - eek!

1horatio · 28/12/2016 20:45

Lazy

Ooops, wrong quote 😂

That many people think it's OK to sit there in your nightwear when you've invited people round???! Someone pops round unannounced is one thing, but with notice, that's just weird!

So, why do you care about other people's underwear? 😅😉

ohtheholidays · 28/12/2016 20:46

I'm with you OP,I think it sounds very strange!

I wouldn't stay in PJ's if my family were coming round so there's no way I'd stay in Pj's if I'd invited people around and I'm disabled and ill so I can struggle some times with getting dressed but for me I think I'd feel like I'd given up if I stopped getting dressed in the day.

Ghodavies · 28/12/2016 20:47

Ok folks - firstly it isn't the end of the world!!
I have spent a family day in loungewear today (doing household jobs). Then as it was later than I thought I showered and put clean pjs on. NOTHING TERRIBLE HAPPENED!
However, if I had invited guests over (with the exception of my bf) I would be dressed. If on the other hand I was having a chill day (very few in our house so I make the most of them!) and friends appeared and came in for a cuppa then they would take me as they find me!!

overwhelmed34 · 28/12/2016 20:47

Eeek I wouldn't open the door in Pjs for our postman or online delivery man...but then mine are shabby things with holes in that have shrunk in the tumble dryer! Maybe if I had those sexy Calvin Klein pants someone shared earlier I would feel differently. I would feel REALLY uncomfortable if I was invited to someone's house and they were in pjs (not loungewear).

QueenLizIII · 28/12/2016 20:48

I wouldnt do it but to each their own. I wouldn't be offended by close friends doing it.

MaQueen · 28/12/2016 20:49

Dear Lord, just how low do your standards have to be if you genuinely think getting dressed in actual clothes during the day amounts to being 'snobbish' FFS Hmm

And, it's spelt 'Tarquin'...just sayin'

overwhelmed34 · 28/12/2016 20:52

Exactly MaQueen

CrockedPot · 28/12/2016 20:56

A night in, telly on, pyjamas are fine. Inviting people round and having pyjamas on is slovenly and ridiculous.

ALaughAMinute · 28/12/2016 20:57

Had they showered or just rolled out of bed? Shock

Seems a bit rude to me.

MyPeriodFeatures · 28/12/2016 20:57

ghodavis. it isn't the end of the world

Yes, it is the end of the world. Civilisation has fallen.

inviting people for drinks and not getting dressed.

What next? Chowing down on a communal KFC bucket and continuing conversations with the toilet door open?

I hope op comes back. I need to know more about this bizzare gathering

1horatio · 28/12/2016 20:58

I prefer Torquil. But Tarquin is a rather lovely name.

But I also like wearing a dressing gown for Sunday lunch. So, what do I know. ;)

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