To expect people to be dressed if they've invited people round

[Exileinengland1999]

Just that really- got invited round for Xmas drinks at some friends at 4pm and they were in their pjs and stayed like that for a 2 hour visit - Aibu to feel uncomfortable with the extreme casual-ness of it all. Even my kids asked why they were in their pjs

ot really, they want to see their son. I would pretend everything is normal too if it was one of my kids' partners. Thankfully my eldest are at the age when they would tell me off if I was seen in public in my pjs.

Sorry, but when it comes to my MIL you are wrong. She most certainly would say something if she cared about it. Some people might pretend they don't care, she wouldn't.

Why don't you wear them then?

I do when I'm going out. I have awful problems with bloating. My stomach bloats and I look 9 months pregnant most bloody days of the month and nothing really helps. My clothes are not as comfortable as my pjs. It's as simple as that. I could wear leggings but my pjs don't look much different. I didn't wear my big fleece pjs that evening.

It was non issue. No one cared, we had a good time.

Even my suits are very comfortable, but they cost a fortune . I get changed at home to avoid whatever is in my little ones hands at the time, but still owe enough clothes to not jump straight into pjs.

I don't find pjs comfortable at all during the day anyway. They are fab for laying down and sleeping, but they are too baggy to be practical.

I can't help picturing grown ups in their pjs like this:
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BTW I was showered and clean. Knickers were on and gasp I rarely wear a bra (small chested)

communal lifestyle where there are no boundaries in your home, and guests are openly encouraged to fart and sift through your underwear drawer

Who does that? You can eat my food and make yourself drinks but my bedroom and drawers are a no go zone.

We were at family and they were wearing pj's. It didn't even cross my mind that some would think that odd. There's so little difference between pj's and clothes. You can't really tell the difference between sweatshirt/jogging bottoms/leggings/ t-shirts, etc.

"Hostess Gown. noun - a robe or housecoat worn by women for informal entertaining at home."
The term dates from the mid 1930s. Pajamas or 'lounge wear' is the obvious modern equivalent. So don't think of it as a recent slippage of standards, think of it as a return to an older tradition.

I don't think I actually own any pajamas, so I'm not defending my own behaviour here.

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Do you know what it means?
It means a Russian character in a book, who lived in a dressing gown. Entertained others in it.
I was born to live in a dressing gown. I've had 6. And often stay in it all day, if I'm at home with the ds's.

But even I wouldn't invite someone over, and not get dressed. That's very weird, coming from me, it means it's totally unacceptable.

You always take the risk when you drop in unannounced that youre going to intrude on someone slobbing on the sofa in their pjs. My friends know if they just drop round for something to take me as they find me.

But if I knew someone was coming round i would get dressed! What oddballs. I'd be really uncomfortable with that.

It sounds rude to me. Especially as you don't know them well. If you had made an effort to look nice for the visit it would be particularly embarrassing. It's not about the body being covered or not, it's just so casual that visitors who are not family or very close friends would feel you didn't find their visit at all important.

OP:
Wearing pyjamas or "onesies" - which are just pyjamas with another name, tbh - is unbelievably awful. Dear god.

OP, it could be worst.

Some people are know for showing their birth photos (/birth videos. True story but details too revealing). Some individual have absolutely no boundaries or self respect , you could have suffered worst!

I'm 28 and pretty laid back - but the phrase "take me as they find me" refers to dusty skirting boards or kids toys everywhere, not me being in PJs!

I do wear my dressing gown until I get up and ready for the day, and today I put it back on after my shower, but would always pull on jeans or a dress if someone was coming round. The only exception would be my mum literally dropping something off before around 9.30am, or the Tesco delivery man with a 7am or 10pm delivery.

PJs are lovely but they are infantilising. I would feel mortified to have drinks at a school run friends' house if they were dressed like overgrown children.

Don't people want to sparkle anymore at a social occasion (perhaps not with close family, but certainly with friends) ? I would definitely find it hard to scintillate in my current outfit of plaid PJ shirt and 'Rosie at M&S' lounge pants.

If I was visiting friends and they were in their pyjamas, I would feel like I was intruding. It would seem like they were settling at home for the night and I should cut my visit short.
If you want your guests to feel comfortable, I think being dressed in day clothes is more appropriate.
Unless it was some sort of slumber party.

"It didn't even cross my mind that some would think that odd."

Have you no social awareness? Are you very young?

"There's so little difference between pj's and clothes. You can't really tell the difference between sweatshirt/jogging bottoms/leggings/ t-shirts, etc."

There is loads. My pyjamas look like pyjamas to sleep in and not to be seen in public, not loungewear.

Again, if your pjs make you look like a child, maybe you need new ones. They should look like normal clothes

They should look like normal clothes

or maybe your normal clothes should look like clothes! We are not talking about people sleeping in a tshirt, but about pjs. Nightwear sold as nightwear. Pjs do look like pjs!

MIne are sold as nightwear. But they are plain. They don't shout bedtime on them. They are regular pjs

These are what I wear usually. With the pajama tops of the same colour to go with. Both from the 'nightwear' section. Dh wears men's similar.

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It's a little slobbish but maybe that's me being snobbish 😂

We went to look at some puppies once, it was 4pm on a Sunday afternoon. Everyone in their PJs, kids were feral, as were the "pedigree" puppies - needless to say we made our excuses and left.

If you turned up unannounced then fine you wouldn't expect them to get changed but if you've been invited over and you don't know them that well then I'd expect them to be dressed. They're weird!

I know its mumsnet, but the pearl clutching on this thread is at epic proportions!
Moi? Pj's darling? Oh dear lord, what would Tarquain and Anastasia think? I must wear fabrics of a differing form to represent my absolute middle class best, when in my own home at yuletide.

My daughter wore a onesie all day yesterday.....because she wanted to be a unicorn. It was clean and she'd showered, we were only expecting my parents and she's 6! Adults should get dressed when expecting visitors.

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