Well if we're polling our children then my very into gaming dd12 yr old said " what a horrible thing to say to another person, mongrel refers to dogs with oarents from different breeds, and if said to a human id think someone is saying it in way that's saying they are different breed to themselves, but that a boy or man who thinks its ok to call girls a dirty bitch probably actually thinks they are superior skint colour wise too."
Even giving the boy the benefit of the doubt and say he didn't mean to be racist, he absolutely meant to be sexist and misogonistic, unless someone can think of an innocent way to interpret a male calling a girl a dirty bitch in anger.
C8H - I agree with much of what you have written. Regarding DD not being allowed to play online, I hate it. I hate it so much. She can play games in offline mode but not online - not after I heard what happens in online gaming. It's beyond appalling.
My brother was asking the other day if I allowed my dd to play games online, and seemed very shocked when I said and she had been for a while, he asked if she "played as a girl". She 99 per cent on,y plays with people known in real life but as sometimes it's unknown people she has a gender neutral name and tag and doesn't use her voice at all, only typing. She's not had any negative experiences yet but we've talked about what she coukd come across. She recently played Mario Kart at school fair, she was the only girl and got a bit of "get ready to lose" "girls can't play games" type stuff but when she beat every single boy in her class and they took it on the chin.
My db thinks I shouldn't be letting her play at all, he plays FIFA and wwe mainly and says the men and boys are often either speak to the girls/women sexually and chat them up etc, or insult them and be aggressive as the don't like girls playing.. That he could score an awesome goal in FIFA and get loads of well for, nice skill type comments, whereas a know female will be told she does well as she's having sex with everyone etc. He thinks it's disgusting but never challenges it.
I'm a gamer myself and didn't need mansplaining to by him, his 10 year old plays games and said he won't be letting DD play any, she thinks it's unfair. I've asked him if he's telling his son about girls being just as good and better players and it not being ok etc he hasn't. I said maybe he should, he's gonna come across it and if he sees his dad playing with such males and doing nothing, and not being told it's wrong himself, he could think it ok.
I've waffled again, but I understand why you don't let your dd play online, I just think it's so sad that in this day and age and with how far women's rights have improved, girls are still adjusting their behaviour and being prevented from some activities because of the actions of some males.